serial muse Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 How could this act not be sexual by nature, since it's a portrayal of a sexual act? He didn't send the clip to this woman, so she could be impressed with his cinematography. We don't know this, TBF...it could be that he's very proud of his camera angles.
Trialbyfire Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 We don't know this, TBF...it could be that he's very proud of his camera angles. You've seen pictures in magazines where the angle of the lens points straight upwards, to help give the illusion of longer legs on models. Now apply that theory to this situation!
serial muse Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 You've seen pictures in magazines where the angle of the lens points straight upwards, to help give the illusion of longer legs on models. Now apply that theory to this situation! Oh my God, I have to go wash my brain. Ew.
Ronni_W Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 , I'm wracked with guilt over this. ...I've even had suicidal thoughts I haven't read all responses in this thread, so may be repeating something you've already considered (and/or rejected.) From what you are saying, you were doing research, the purpose of which was to learn something. It seems that you have accomplished that in spades, yes? It would appear highly unlikely that you will ever attempt this type of research again(???) So really. It's just your methodology that was...well, way weird. But. It is already done. If it was a (non-erotic ) poem or love song or something, nobody would be thinking, feeling or saying anything negative or judgmental. You've already acknowledged that you let your friend talk you into something that you were, on your own, curious about. You already know you experienced what appears to be an out-of-character...but serious...lapse in judgment and impulse control. To my mind, you've learned WAY more than you ever bargained for, so your research project can be labeled a great whoopin' success, yes? And so it will be perfectly fine to forgive yourself, IMHO.
jerbear Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 You've seen pictures in magazines where the angle of the lens points straight upwards, to help give the illusion of longer legs on models. Now apply that theory to this situation! Don't forget to turn side ways to show a smaller waist and enhance some female endowments. Oh my God, I have to go wash my brain. Ew. Brainwashing! :lmao:
Adunaphel Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 I genuinely believe it is possible to send someone other than your partner an inappropriate video or photograph just because "you weren't thinking about it". Like the OP, a long time ago I sent an inappropriate picture to a friend I was not even remotely interested in, just because I wanted an opinion (thinking about it now, I was probably after validation as well) - just to wonder "WTF was I thinking?" later on. Lesson learned, and I am not doing it ever again when in a relationship - I hope it will be the same for the_missing piece. I personally regard it as one of those "excusable once, not excusable twice" things. The_missing_piece, If I were in your gf's situation and there were no unresolved trust issues, I'd probably be able to forgive my bf if he told me about it and agreed to cut all sort of contact with the friend. But I'd not forget, and if something similar happened again, it would be a deal breaker. I do not know your gf, and all people react differently to situation, but I'd tell her as soon as possible. Being inappropriate, realizing it and hiding it is pretty bad, while messing up non-intentionally and coming clean about it will hurt your partner, but at least will be the correct thing to do, and if all goes well it might even help to rebuild some trust in each other. If you decide not to tell her, I suggest that at least you do not hear from your friend again.
ABrokenWing Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 I think you're making to big a deal out of this. And for what it's worth, I think it would be amazingly hot if a guy, boyfriend or not send me a video of him masturbating.
xpaperxcutx Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 I think you're making to big a deal out of this. And for what it's worth, I think it would be amazingly hot if a guy, boyfriend or not send me a video of him masturbating. That's called cybering.
Trialbyfire Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 Don't forget to turn side ways to show a smaller waist and enhance some female endowments. This only works if you twist the upper body towards the camera, to ensure that endowments are well displayed, creating the width difference, to enhance the tiny waistline. I do agree this was one of life's experiences. If you don't tell your g/f, it will be a wasted experience unless she finds out in some way. Then it could potentially become an explosive experience.
bish Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 If you're genuinely wracked with guilt now, say nothing. And if this other female decides to post it on the web somewhere, then what? Its always a possibility.
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