Arsenic_Child Posted September 11, 2008 Posted September 11, 2008 Hey guys, me and my ex have been broken up for about 1 month in a half now after a 7 in a half month relationship due to trust. we went on and off NC but i realized if i went NC there was a good chance that 1 I couldn't regain her trust, 2 I could possibly lose her for good 3 I would hurt her even more then I Have Anyway recently we starting Talking on the phone/texting a lot and we were texting back and fourth for awhile now. 2 Days ago she texted me and we started a convo up and she was asking me who was the girl writing on my wall all the time, i told her the truth that she was just a friend. She was like "Trueee" (but i don't know why she would even ask) Then Yesterday we hung out for a few hours and watched Juno together and tonight we went to the gym together worked out for a bit, then we talked at my house for about a half hour about everything, even dabbled a bit in the break up, but she kept saying "your single now so you can do what ever you want". I was told by a friend of mine whos also a friend of hers that there is a good chance down the road that we will end up back together, but i just dont know because of the comments she's making
BCCA Posted September 11, 2008 Posted September 11, 2008 I need a little more info. Why doesnt she trust you? Did you cheat on her?
Author Arsenic_Child Posted September 11, 2008 Author Posted September 11, 2008 I was friends with this Girl who i will name Jill for the sake of argument about 12 months ago. We started hooking up consistently because she was my rebound/good friend after a horrid break-up. We never went out but we hooked up A LOT. About 3 Months In i met this other girl who's name was Danny. it was slow at first but i would see her at almost every party i would go to, and we started talking often. eventually we started hooking up with Her and i have a rule where if I'm hooking up with someone i don't hook up with others. so i told Jill that we had to stop hooking up. she was ok with it, but wanted to remain friends. Over time Jill became very clingy and obsessive. I started to date Danny and Jill got angry but I Ignored it because i knew she liked me, but I knew we didn't have anything in common except hooking up so it wouldn't work. When we 1st started dating i would still hang out with Jill until Danny got out of work, and at first Danny was o.k. with it, but slowly began to grow to hate the situation and made it known to me. But i didn't stop and even though i lied to her about it. Eventually i stopped hanging out with Jill but every time i told her no i couldn't she would cry histaricly, make me feel guilty about what we have been through and at times Threaten to end her own life. I would feel guilty and cave in and go see her so she would stop. and still lied to Danny about it. Eventually i did grow stronger and realized she wouldn't do anything to herself and stopped hanging out with her. Then the calls/texts came non stop. Danny Got Angry, but ignored it. finally it resulted in a "Break" and we got back together on One Condition: The Calls/Texts Stopped. and the did.... for awhile but every time Jill Got drunk she would send me "Dirty Texts", and also make me feel like crap about not hanging out anymore and started to tell her what she wanted to hear so she would stop. Then one night Danny Checked my Phone and saw this, i explained to her that i was telling her what she wanted to hear so she would stop harassing me, but keep in mind, i never responded to the "Dirty Texts". Danny was angry but i thought she got over it (This was about 4 months into the relationship with Danny). Then it got to the point where the Texts and Calls Came Back but never answered to any of them. Eventually i got so Fed up i Changed my Phone Number so i couldn't hurt my relationship or even possibly have it ruined because of Jill. I even cut all contact off from her Via Facebook, Aim, and Myspace. (this is about 5 months into the relationship)
Author Arsenic_Child Posted September 11, 2008 Author Posted September 11, 2008 Bump, seriously dont know what to do
orangesean Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 It would help if you used proper grammar and punctuation and split things into paragraphs. I can hardly tell what's going on and no one will probably answer you if you type like that. I'm not exactly sure what story you are telling but it sounds like you were cheating either having an emotional or physical affair or something but thinking it was okay for you to do so. In that case of course she doesn't trust you, but if that's not the case I'm not sure. It sounds from your first post your ex obviously wants to get back together with you if she's acting jealous and watching movies with you, which is what most people's ex's never do if you read this forum at all. You sound like you are reading all the signals wrong or don't even understand why exactly you broke up. Anyways are you guys still in high school? It sounds like it.
Author Arsenic_Child Posted September 12, 2008 Author Posted September 12, 2008 No, Im 20 she is 23, and the story i posted the second time, was for BCCA to know the back story on why she doesn't trust me. That was a post i made about a month and a half ago when we broke up. The thing i want advice on is the First topic at hand
me007 Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 Have you really took time out to think if this girl is everything you want? You can find plenty of girls just to hook up with. Do you feel you are really in love with her and could have a future? Just something to think about before putting the effort in to try and get her back. I get from her saying you are free to do whatever you want she doesn't care at this point and means just that; you can do whatever you want, text and call and be with whoever you want. I don't think I'd say that to someone I still wanted to be with. The best you can do is keep LC and when you do see her, compliment her, do sweet things, if you know little things or places she likes, take her there or get her little presents. Try not to bring up the past and breakup, try to bring up some happy times and memories, like say "hey remember we had fun going to so and so (fill in the blank). Hey guys, me and my ex have been broken up for about 1 month in a half now after a 7 in a half month relationship due to trust. we went on and off NC but i realized if i went NC there was a good chance that 1 I couldn't regain her trust, 2 I could possibly lose her for good 3 I would hurt her even more then I Have Anyway recently we starting Talking on the phone/texting a lot and we were texting back and fourth for awhile now. 2 Days ago she texted me and we started a convo up and she was asking me who was the girl writing on my wall all the time, i told her the truth that she was just a friend. She was like "Trueee" (but i don't know why she would even ask) Then Yesterday we hung out for a few hours and watched Juno together and tonight we went to the gym together worked out for a bit, then we talked at my house for about a half hour about everything, even dabbled a bit in the break up, but she kept saying "your single now so you can do what ever you want". I was told by a friend of mine whos also a friend of hers that there is a good chance down the road that we will end up back together, but i just dont know because of the comments she's making
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