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I met a man online about 2wks ago. He's very respectful and we have strong chemistry. The problem is, he's married but says he and his wife talked about splitting up. He has a great personality and I really do like him as a person. We went out a couple of times. Our second meeting, not date we went out to dinner and afterwards he french kissed me! I was surprised but I liked it. He's been a great listener and listens to me vent out sometimes. Anyway, he invited me over to his place, which he says doesnt normally do with just anybody. He never tried to force himself on me and was very respect. We cuddled up in his bed and fell asleep.

 

The point im trying to make is that I know he likes me and doesnt admit it. He's been working very long hours now and he lives alone, he's here on TDY by the way. We get along great but he hasnt called me in a week but he message me on yahoo messenger when he sees me, but lately I feel like he's ignoring me. I try to involve him in stuff that I do such as walking or going out but like last nite but says he's having dinner with his boss to discuss extending his stay here. We have plans to go boonie stomping when he's not so busy with work. Anyway, I like this man a lot and I know he likes me too. I want him to try do stuff with me more as a friend. I know he's still married but I want him to be my lover oneday. Right now we are starting off as friends. what should I do?

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The first thing I would do is take into consideration the fact that he is married. Talking about splitting up isn't actually splitting up... and if he was so sure of being done with it, he'd have the courage to move on with his life with you instead of her.

 

The biggest thing that would concern me if I were in your shoes is...

 

If he is doing this to his wife, then he has the ability to do the same thing to you. I believe strongly in marriage, trust, and honesty/sincerity. I know for sure that I'd never have feelings with, talk to, or put someone I love in the position like he's done.

 

That's just my 2 cents... hope this helps, somewhat.

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We are just friends and it's not like we are sleeping together. And besides we've only known each other for 3wks. Very down to earth man. Today he told me that when they approve his request to extend his stay here, "Im going to be in trouble" according to him.

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We are just friends and it's not like we are sleeping together. And besides we've only known each other for 3wks. Very down to earth man. Today he told me that when they approve his request to extend his stay here, "Im going to be in trouble" according to him.

 

The man is married. You let him french kiss you. You should have pulled away!

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I met a man online about 2wks ago. He's very respectful and we have strong chemistry. The problem is, he's married but says he and his wife talked about splitting up.

 

He is lying to you and he isn't going to leave his wife. HE is looking for some side action, some ego boosts maybe, but he isn't splitting up with his wife.

 

If he truly was having problems and splitting up with his wife, he wouldn't be looking for someone else especially right now. He would be focussing on ending his marriage and getting a fair divorce that suits them both.

 

Do they have kids?

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Go read in the OW/OM section.

 

Also, don't be his affair partner! You are knowingly getting involved with a married man whom you met on the net and DO NOT KNOW! Do you also think that you're the only person he's cheated with?

 

Be smart, think about this. Think ahead and think do you really want to BE in a situation that has so much potiental to hurt you, let alone hurt innocent people? Get out now before it's too late. You haven't invested much in this guy so you'll have NO problem getting over him.

 

He's scum.

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Go read in the OW/OM section.

 

Also, don't be his affair partner! You are knowingly getting involved with a married man whom you met on the net and DO NOT KNOW! Do you also think that you're the only person he's cheated with?

 

Be smart, think about this. Think ahead and think do you really want to BE in a situation that has so much potiental to hurt you, let alone hurt innocent people? Get out now before it's too late. You haven't invested much in this guy so you'll have NO problem getting over him.

 

He's scum.

 

My girlfriend was getting in contact with an ex-bf of hers. No biggie. I think its fine if friends want to re-connect. I would do the same thing if given the chance.

 

What makes the story interesting is that this ole friend of hers says that he "loves her and cares about her".

 

That's border-line yellow flag there esp since they were in a previous relationship, but I was understanding.

 

Guy goes on to say that "He was hoping she could be his lover"

 

That's where I put my foot down. The guy claims he has a live-in girlfriend too. Not cool.

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He's married but he lives alone? Is he separated from her?

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lotta' uptight folks on here. You never know, maybe she will be the spark that that makes him want to leave his haggard, old wife. he sounds like a good guy, for example, he didn't sleep with her after the first date when he probably easily could have turned it into a one night stand as most dudes do.

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You should be careful and think about it well , dont make the decision only beacuse his word , I think he is cheating your feeling .

he is a man who get married , if you give your love to him and at last he choose his wife , what will you do ? what is more , he always say he is busy , Is it really ? so you should give up him and find another man who is single .

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Dont trust anyone easily. I sont think so that he is nice guy.

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He is lying to you and he isn't going to leave his wife. HE is looking for some side action, some ego boosts maybe, but he isn't splitting up with his wife.

 

If he truly was having problems and splitting up with his wife, he wouldn't be looking for someone else especially right now. He would be focussing on ending his marriage and getting a fair divorce that suits them both.

100% agreed. These guys are a dime a dozen. And sorry, but you are not special to him. You are just the girl who consents to be friendly with (and French kiss) a married man who's too much of a wimp to either improve the marriage or end it.

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