fallchild5 Posted September 11, 2008 Posted September 11, 2008 I had a bad breakup with a girl about 2 weeks ago. She went to europe for a month and when she came back, she just didn't feel the same. She wouldn't talk to me about it though and wouldn't share her feelings about it. I told her she could have a week to think about it, and to call me then and tell me what she thought. About 4 days into this week i decided that i'd had enough and i went to her house and broke up with her. i almost cried, but i was strong. She tried to hug me on the way out but i didn't want one so i just locked up and walked out without saying anything. I didn't look back. But i was in love with her when i broke up with her and i don't think i am any more, but i need help forgetting her and i need to stop thinking about her all the time. Can someone tell me how to forget someone? I havn't contacted this person, and she hasn't contacted me, and there's no chance of me ever saying so much as hello to her.
allanDR Posted September 11, 2008 Posted September 11, 2008 TIME. That's it. Oh, and keep yourself occupied with any mindless thing.
BCCA Posted September 11, 2008 Posted September 11, 2008 No contact with her is the first and most important step. Sometimes its easy to let anger carry you for a few days, but if youre anything like me, its hard to keep from breaking down after a couple weeks, especially when she doesn't call you either. But you have to know that cutting all ties with her is the best and really only way to get over her. There is nothing the two of you need to discuss at this point. And if she needs to tell you something, trust me, she'll make sure the message gets to you. Next, you need to fill your time. Work out everyday for at least an hour. It'll make you feel better, and you'll look better. Then try and find yourself a few dates. This is primarily just to get out there and get used to meeting/talking to girls again. Dont take it too hard if these dates aren't great, it's just good to keep your mind on other women and get a feel of what you like/don't like in a partner. Have your friends take you out to bars, and just walk up to any girl you think is cute and try and talk to her. I've had my buddies take me to places 30 miles away from our house we never go to, and so even if the girls totally diss you, who cares? And you have to remember that you WILL get turned down, and thats fine. The more you do it, the better feel you'll have for conversations with other women. Above all, just remember that it's better off this way. I've been through the 'unsure about me' girlfriends before, and it was pure hell. I could never feel comfortable because I was always on my guard that she would bail at anytime...which is what eventually happened. Just worry about whats best for you, which isnt her.
Author fallchild5 Posted September 11, 2008 Author Posted September 11, 2008 thanks. That's really what i needed to hear =D
BCCA Posted September 11, 2008 Posted September 11, 2008 thanks. That's really what i needed to hear =D Glad to help, let us know how you're doing. You'll be ok, I promise.
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