CaliSurfFAN Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 So, girl and I broke up a little over a month ago. We work together so on the weekends we have to see each other. I did NC the whole time and she didn't do a whole lot to talk to me either. Other day I decided to talk to her a bit about us. Basically apologized for putting so much distance between us and such. this is the first time we've talked about the relationship. It lasted like 5 minutes. She was slightly apologetic for being coarse w/ me over the duration of the month and said it was how she had to deal w/ it. So there was a slight silence after we had talked a bit. The next part is quite juvenile and premature I believe, but I kinda had to let her know how I felt. Feel free to grill me on this, I need it. I went ahead and gave her a quick kiss. It wasn't meant to be passionate or rekindle any strong feelings like that, and it wasn't a frantic or nervous, "lets get back together" kiss, but merely just one to show her how I felt about us. Now, she didn't do anything, and by this I mean, she just let it happen. Which is what I was definitely expecting. I actually was expecting her to move her head back, but she didn't. When I leaned back I told her I still liked her, and then left it at that. We parted and that was it, no real goodbye or anything, I just told her I'd see her at work, and she left. Now, my question is this. Do I let the NC thing happen now and let her contact me cause I put it in her court or do I wait a while and see if she wants to get some coffee or something. I know it was unfair for me to do that to her, so do I apologize? Just not sure what signs to look for from her either, cause we're going to have to work together. Any input would be awesome guys, thanx a bunch.
BCCA Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 Dont apologize for the kiss. She didnt pull away, slap you, etc so she didnt mind that much. By apologizing, you would seem like you're A) insecure and doubting your actions and B) looking for reasons to talk to her. You do deserve to be grilled for talking about the relationship like that so soon, but it doesnt sound like it went that badly. All and all though, she strikes me as someone who isnt interested in the relationship right now. Respect that, contact her as little as possible at work, never outside of work, and get on with your life. I know how much this sucks, and I wish I could tell you something to make it feel less painful, but only time can heal your wounds now. Just focus on moving on and the rest will fall into place. Take care of yourself
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