Beee Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 [COLOR=#0000ff]We broke up just under a month and a half ago.... although I have managed to keep busy and go out and be with friends I still miss him terribly and still think about him. We work togther so NC is not really an option (and one I don't really want to go down if possible).... we see eachother at work pretty much every day and exchange emails and have catchups. I know its hard and even harder keeping in touch, but I still miss him and it still hurts not being a big part of his life any more. We send eachother emails and some of them have turned flirty and a little sexual.... I try and force myself to see it as no more than just a fun game (yes a dangerous one at that) but a little part of my hopes there's more to it than just a game.... Is the flame still there? I don't persue it as I'm not sure where it would take me but I'm confused as to whether I should leave it as just fun or read a little more into things.... I know I would not send these emails to an ex I had no interest in.... What do they mean? [/COLOR]
FLOWERSTARS Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 My thoughts are: It obviously bothers you in some form that these texts are flirtatious. It is not lighthearted in your mind. Sooo You flirt back for one of two reasons: 1) You hope that it means something 2) You want to give the impression that it means so little that you can be lighthearted. Would you say this may be true?
Author Beee Posted September 10, 2008 Author Posted September 10, 2008 It bothers me and it doesn't.... It does cause I can't understand what it means.... and it doesn't cause I guess its just his attention.... But your 2 reasons are spot on.... Deep down I would like it to mean more... but in the mean time I'm playing it cool, both for my sanity and beacuse I want him to think it means so little and that I'm doing ok.... I keep teling myself I wouldn't send these msgs to some one I wasn't interested in... but then, I can't get into his head....
FLOWERSTARS Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 None of us can get inside his head. Only you know what you are comfortable with. My personal opinion is that I would not feel comfortable doing this, but that doesn't mean that mine would be the best decision. I would be of the stance that, if you no longer wish to be together then we don't interact in that way anymore because it is difficult enough trying to be friends again afterwards. People seem to pretend not to be hurt at the end of relationships alot, I think it is okay to be hurt and not a loss of pride.
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