Beee Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 [COLOR=#0000ff]We broke up just under a month and a half ago.... although I have managed to keep busy and go out and be with friends I still miss him terribly and still think about him. We work togther so NC is not really an option (and one I don't really want to go down if possible).... we see eachother at work pretty much every day and exchange emails and have catchups. I know its hard and even harder keeping in touch, but I still miss him and it still hurts not being a big part of his life any more. We send eachother emails and some of them have turned flirty and a little sexual.... I try and force myself to see it as no more than just a fun game (yes a dangerous one at that) but a little part of my hopes there's more to it than just a game.... Is the flame still there? I don't persue it as I'm not sure where it would take me but I'm confused as to whether I should leave it as just fun or read a little more into things.... I know I would not send these emails to an ex I had no interest in.... What do they mean? [/COLOR]
CaliGuy Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 They mean he wants to make sure you're still ready and available should he need to call you at 3am for a little stroll between the sheets. What he's doing is mean and I would tell him to knock it off.
nowhereman82 Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 Don't post the same question in 2 sections at the same time
Author Beee Posted September 10, 2008 Author Posted September 10, 2008 I wasn't sure where it should sit... that's why i posted it here an there... is it against the rules?
BCCA Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 I kind of agree with CaliGuy here. It sounds like he is trying to feel out how interested you would be in some casual sex. There isnt so much a flame as there is a desire on his part to have you waiting in the wings. Anyone would like as many options as possible if they were 'in the mood'. I would just brush off anything flirty he says, and I wouldnt even respond unless you had to. Acting flirty/sexual with you has nothing to do with a relationship.
Author Beee Posted September 11, 2008 Author Posted September 11, 2008 Thanks BCCA (and Caliguy) as much as I would like it to mean more... I know deep down that it probably doesn't and that i shoudln't think it does.... I'm torn in half though, part of me wants that intimate connection with him but then I know the other part of me would be hurt when it came to leaving as there wouldn't be anything after that... thanks for the input!
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