Flowerpower7 Posted September 9, 2008 Share Posted September 9, 2008 I'm looking for specific information from Shy-guys: When you like a girl how do you show her that you want more than friendship? Why is it that some shy guys show interest then back off then come back? What are some signs that I can look for of interest? Link to post Share on other sites
TurtlePower Posted September 10, 2008 Share Posted September 10, 2008 Well, as an ex shy guy (I recently came out of my shell a few years ago), I can say that when I was shy around a girl that I liked, I honestly hoped she'd make the first move hahaha. It probably explains why us shy guys back off, we let our nerves get the best of us and just rather runaway because its easier, which leads me to my next point. I was always guilty and still kind of am guilty of telling corny jokes to calm my nerves and I know I was guilty of blushing quite a bit . I also made a point to ask girls to casual things (Non-date things), you know trips to the mall, casual lunches or late night snacks at a diner because there is less pressure in those non date enivironments. So, in my opinion, if you like a guy, just tell him and hopefully he'll let his guard down and say the same about you. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Suiyobi Posted September 10, 2008 Share Posted September 10, 2008 When you like a girl how do you show her that you want more than friendship? - He'll often make himself available for you. - He'll act in a certain way around you that's definitely not the same with other girls. (E.g., He could show a flirtatious side of himself but only to you.) - He'll rarely be upfront about his feelings towards you but he'll throw hints whenever he can especially if the topic of your conversation is about relationships. - He'll be polite and kind. But don't mistaken this for being a doormat, not all shy guys are doormats. Why is it that some shy guys show interest then back off then come back? They don't mean to offend when they "back off". That's really just them trying to mentally and emotionally "recuperate" because they're usually not used to being involved in a relationship. Just be patient and let them have their space, surely they would give you yours. What are some signs that I can look for of interest? - They'll look at you but when you look at them back they may avert their eyes. - They'll smile a lot when you're talking directly to them. - They'll TRY their best to strike up a conversation, i.e. the topic and the execution might come off as rather awkward and unnatural. Not sure if I can write more but, meh, this should be good enough to give you an idea. Break a leg, if you like a shy guy then you should give him a chance. Link to post Share on other sites
lovestruck818 Posted September 10, 2008 Share Posted September 10, 2008 I have a hard time interacting with shy people. I am very outgoing and interaction with them, for me, is like pulling teeth. Link to post Share on other sites
Suiyobi Posted September 10, 2008 Share Posted September 10, 2008 I have a hard time interacting with shy people. I am very outgoing and interaction with them, for me, is like pulling teeth. It's possible that you're coming off as too strong or aggressive. If you want to hang out with them, ask them to meet you at a place that's relatively nearby and has a calm atmosphere, like a coffee shop. If they accept, that's good because eventually you can start inviting them (slowly) to the more fun and wild activities that you want to engage in with them. As far as interaction is concerned, take things slowly. Actually, allow the shy person to be the one to ask you questions instead of you asking them. Eventually, they themselves will open up to you and may even take the initiative to tell you things. Link to post Share on other sites
kyleargyle Posted September 10, 2008 Share Posted September 10, 2008 Being shy is tough...plus shy guys tend to overthink things to death, which can cause them to be even MORE shy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Flowerpower7 Posted September 11, 2008 Author Share Posted September 11, 2008 a lot of outgoing people just dont understand shy people. I'm shy in some situations, especially around lots of people. I hate it when outgoing people come over to me and say smile, cheer-up, why are you so quiet? Get out there..... You can't force shy people to come out of their shells immediatly. These things take time. Giving them small compliments and small acknolgements of them being there is good enough. Link to post Share on other sites
BlueHarvest Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 Being shy is a mental state. I'm not saying its right or wrong. Heck I'm a shy guy myself. But the innate problem of shy guys is that most women tend to analyze the man rather then being shy but having no self-confidence. Some women can tell shyness from a lack of self-confidence and will take the lead in that situation..but most won't... A shy guy's compatibility is hard to match..because to find someone you will actually progress with usually involves finding a rather "aggressive" woman to make you feel comfortable. Most shy guys have a good idea of how to progress but they cannot make that first step. Unfortunately finding an aggressive woman that won't use you as a doormat is probably harder to find then winning the lottery. Link to post Share on other sites
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