audrey_1 Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Here is the sad kiss off text exchange to end my year saga royal waste of time. You told me. I finally listened. Doesn't make it any easier, though. Ladies, if someone says he doesn't want a relationship ... LISTEN ... before you become invested and it hurts. I waited way too long. I should have seen this coming in the first month. I ignored all the signs. If I hadn't, I may not have the overwhelming feeling of wanting to cry, and the sick feeling in my stomach. Spare yourself. You can't carve a relationship out of something that doesn't exist. I'm a bit annoyed he wants to be friends. I think that's rather selfish of him, and I doubt I will allow it. I'm not going to make him a priority at all, when I wasn't even an option. Next. Me: I made a decision I don't want to hang out with you anymore. I'm becoming invested. Not good. I know texting this is lame. I care about me. It's the right thing to do. Him: K - well plz keep me "in the loop" and I'll do the same Me: Sorry but I've contacted you enough. I'm tired of it. If you want to know about my life, ask or check my facebook. Him: Srry for asking u on camping/hiking trips - guess it wasn't the best thing to recommend Me: No. I loved every minute and plan to keep doing it. My feelings have grown and that is dangerous when you don't reciprocate. I'm not ashamed to admit it. But I take care of me first. Him: I understand, but I would still like to keep a dialogue in friendship Me: I understand, but I'm not sure I am. I''ll give it some thought. Like I said, if I cross your mind and you're curious, just ask or check my page. Him: K Me: It has been a great learning experience for sure. But I doubt I'll be friends with you. I am not a glutton for punishment. Maybe in a few years. ;-) Him: Well I'll keep u updated on any contracts Me: If you choose. Good luck! I must stick to NC...I must stick to NC...I must stick to NC....
Shygirl15 Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Wow! Is that ALL he said or you removed some of his replies?? I mean, he doesn't seem to mind at all. I'm sorry you're going through this, but everything happens for a good reason. At least you won't have to worry about his feelings for you anymore.
Lishy Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Wow, how cold he is! Good riddance is what I say, you need him like a motorbike needs an ashtray!
kyleargyle Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 You said it, though. You gotta do what's best for you.
Author audrey_1 Posted September 9, 2008 Author Posted September 9, 2008 Wow! Is that ALL he said or you removed some of his replies?? I mean, he doesn't seem to mind at all. I'm sorry you're going through this, but everything happens for a good reason. At least you won't have to worry about his feelings for you anymore. That's it. All he said. I'm considering removing him from my facebook page. Do I really want him having such easy access to my life? I'm not sure I do. Plus, I don't want to be tempted to look into his, either. He only has 11 friends, 9 of which are women, 2 of those his exes, another his next conquest. it does sound a bit aloof!!! That's an understatement.:lmao: I think I mistook his shyness for a lack of social skills, and I think he's one of those robots who doesn't have the ability to feel very deeply. Wow, how cold he is! Good riddance is what I say, you need him like a motorbike needs an ashtray! Yep. Bon voyage! You said it, though. You gotta do what's best for you. Yep. So should I delete him from my FB page? Somebody please dare me.
Author audrey_1 Posted September 9, 2008 Author Posted September 9, 2008 I'm just so angry at myself.:mad:
Final Girl Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Why?? You're only human!! You'll be ok Audrey..I actually think the text you sent him was right on the money, and you came out of it with a whole lot of dignity!! I particularly liked your final au revoir.. 'If you choose.' Most of us have given the wrong people too much of us I guess!!! Don't be cross with yourself - he doesn't deserve that!!! Just remember it for next time.
norajane Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 You will eventually move past the anger and forgive yourself. We all make bad choices at times - none of us is perfect, nor do we handle our lives perfectly. Give it some thought and learn from it, and know that you will eventually be able to let it all go and not care anymore.
Author audrey_1 Posted September 9, 2008 Author Posted September 9, 2008 Why?? You're only human!! You'll be ok Audrey..I actually think the text you sent him was right on the money, and you came out of it with a whole lot of dignity!! I particularly liked your final au revoir.. 'If you choose.' Most of us have given the wrong people too much of us I guess!!! Don't be cross with yourself - he doesn't deserve that!!! Just remember it for next time. You really think I handled myself okay with the text? I just really wanted it to end. I'm tired of grasping at straws. It's so pathetic. I began feeling a chink in my self-esteem, and went WHOOOAAH, hold on a second here!! I was tired of wondering. Now I don't have to. You will eventually move past the anger and forgive yourself. We all make bad choices at times - none of us is perfect, nor do we handle our lives perfectly. Give it some thought and learn from it, and know that you will eventually be able to let it all go and not care anymore. Eventually being the key word. But not today. First full 24 hours, and I am pi$$ed I fell into this situation! Bleck!
Final Girl Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 You really think I handled myself okay with the text? I sure do!!! When I read it I thought to myself to remember how you phrased it, in case I need to do something like that again!! You were very gracious and polite, and your warmth came through too in a way, but you were also matter of fact. I thought it was perfect!!
Author audrey_1 Posted September 9, 2008 Author Posted September 9, 2008 I sure do!!! When I read it I thought to myself to remember how you phrased it, in case I need to do something like that again!! You were very gracious and polite, and your warmth came through too in a way, but you were also matter of fact. I thought it was perfect!! Well good, I accomplished something in my wasted year.
Final Girl Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Well good, I accomplished something in my wasted year. It's better than good when you get the final word lol!!! :laugh:
stefspets Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 I'm glad that you've ended things with him, whatever that actually meant. Now, time to heal, and eventually, move on to someone who WANTS to be with you. The time you spent with him wasn't wasted. It was a learning experience. Remember what you went through when you do start dating again so you can see the warning signs and avoid men like him!
9Lives Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 I'm just so angry at myself.:mad: You handled yourself well. You should be proud of yourself and not down on yourself. HAVE no contact with him for a minute...FOR YOU PERIOD. It is the Audrey show now. Contact him when you are completely over it.
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