mswonderful Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 I'm new to the dating game after taking a 5 year hiatus, and I am feeling really rusty. Just a general question: Men, is there anything that will keep you from approaching a girl that you find attractive/interesting? If you want to answer what will make you feel comfortable approaching her, that's great too. All answers are appreciated. Thanks!
CaliGuy Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Bad breath?!?!?! LOL Seriously, if you aren't smiling or seem receptive to communication, that is enough to keep a guy away. Just don't look standoff-ish and you should be fine.
girlygirl25 Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 I agree with Caliguy that if you look pissed off or in a bad mood a guy will probably not want to approach you. Smile, act like you are having fun! Wearing a sexy outfit doesnt hurt either!
MalachiX Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 It's not hard to get a guy to approach you. If you're eyes cross, just smile at him if you're interested. If you're standing close together just say something as simple as "hi" and that gives him the cue that you wouldn't mind a conversation. A lot of "nice guys" just want to know that they're not making an ass of themselves and bothering a girl who couldn't care less. Just introducing yourself takes the focus off the "game" of things and lets him be more natural and hopefully sincere.
CaliGuy Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 I agree with Caliguy that if you look pissed off or in a bad mood a guy will probably not want to approach you. Smile, act like you are having fun! Yep. Gotta look approachable and it doesn't hurt to say hi. Make eye contact and hold it. Confidence is sexy. Wearing a sexy outfit doesnt hurt either! Short black dress = yum
ed-205 Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 I've often said that what attracts me to a woman isn't the way she looks *to* me so much as the way she looks *at* me.
Green Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 alot of guys are just cowards, but if you see a guy you want to approach you make sure you arn't on a cell or anything, and try to look completly care free and maybe say something to the guy like ask him what time it is and be really greatfull he gave you the time.
djhall Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 I'm surprised no one has mentioned friends. A lot of guys are not willing to try approaching a girl when she is with a bunch of her friends unless he can get get her away from them for a while. Looking focused, busy, or in a hurry is another one. It gives the impression you are not open and receptive to being approached right now.
carhill Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Men, is there anything that will keep you from approaching a girl that you find attractive/interesting? Living at home after graduating college Seriously, as I mentioned before, be yourself and into your life compatible men will flow. I sense you trying to define yourself in terms of what's outside of you. What you need to attract a compatible mate comes from within. This includes approachability. It is the signals you send out to men. It's very hard to consciously change it; IOW, hard to "fake" it. Usually that (faking) ends up getting you a load of trouble in the long run. You're young....take your time
A.G.Doren Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Looking focused, busy, or in a hurry is another one. It gives the impression you are not open and receptive to being approached right now. so why do men approach me when I am focused and busy?
djhall Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 so why do men approach me when I am focused and busy? Maybe you just look so cute when you're concentrating that they just can't resist! Every guy is different and some just might not care, especially if they don't think they will get another chance. For a guy who doesn't really care if you say no or if you find it inconvenient, I guess they don't have much to lose by trying anyway.
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