MaNg0s Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 I have been seeing this girl for 2 months now. It started off great and is still going pretty well. I made the mistake of telling her i loved her 2 weeks ago. I am 19 so I am not a kid I understand the difference between love and infatuation just thought I should clear that up. I have been hurt before and so has she so for me to say I love you was very hard she did not say it back but said she thinks she feels it and every now and then says I think i love you too. But this is why I regret saying it a guy keeps calling her wanting to take her out on a date leaving her phone messages texting her and you would think she would say look I have a bf but she hasn't. I was round her house the other day and he rang he kept on ringing I asked to talk to him because I basically wanted to tell him to back off I am not an angry guy I am very calm but when someone keeps hitting on my girl I feel the need to step in she didn't let me talk to him then when he rang she said I am not ignoring you which pissed me off. He then sent her a text saying he will gladly call her till 3 am till you answer. She hasn't told him to back off and its annoying the hell out of me. What does this mean ? Is she wanting the attention or is just playing with me. Also she has a friend which she met a month before me and I didn't think anything of their friendship but I wanted to take her to a concert when I told her who was playing she said omg sweet I gotta tell peter which is the friend she met a month before me now I wanted to take her. Her friend Pete said he wasn't going then she said she wasn't going even after I offered to pay for her ticket. Now he is wanting to go and she says that she might be going now even though she told me she just did not want to go. Now I am not going to lie I do get paranoid sometimes but I have just been heartbroken in the past and I can't go through it again at this very moment as I am writing this thread I am dripping in sweat and my chest is hurting from just how stressed this **** is making me. Please someone tell me from the looks of this is she messing me around ? My friends seems to think she is ? Also last week we were meant to meet up in the afternoon late evening came still no word from her then she called me telling me she just came out the cinema with her friend pete even though she had plans to meet me in the afternoon. I try and talk to her about these things but everytime I do she gets pissed off and quiet or storms off. What the **** should I do I dont wanna get hurt again I know I sound pathetic but I told her I loved her which I do which is just freaking me out more because I have let myself get too attached to her too quickly.
stillafool Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 I assume your gf is 19 or younger also. It sounds like she is enjoying the attention of both guys. You are perfectly right to be upset. I can't believe she doesn't understand how you feel. She sounds very selfish and self-absorbed. I think you should express to her (once again) that you are not comfortable with her relationship with Pete nor are you comfortable with some guy who keeps calling and begging her to go out with him. Ask her if she has told them she has a boyfriend? If so, ask her if she wants you to tell this guy to stop asking her out or can she handle it because you aren't going to put up with it anymore. Tell her if she had put this guy in his place he wouldn't still be calling and asking her out. Also tell her you didn't appreciate it that she only wanted to go to the concert if Pete was going. Ask her "are we in a relationship or not?" If she says yes, then tell her "we had better start acting like it because I'm feeling disrespected." Don't sugar coat it either. Be firm and serious. She will respect you more than she does now. If she refuses to give either of these guys up then leave her alone! Simple as that. She is not for you and you will suffer.
kyleargyle Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Her behavior does sound a little selfish and insensitive.
Author MaNg0s Posted September 9, 2008 Author Posted September 9, 2008 Yeah she is my age. I was gonna talk to her about it today but shes kinda depressed so I will just bring it up another time.
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