FormerNiceGuy Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 I think we keep getting the same questions over and over and over and over and over and over and over again. It's GOT TO STOP! Some guy posts on the board..... Does she like me? Does she like me? The recurring pattern I see.....is that most of these guys don't make a move. They don't try. They just stand and hypothesize. The truth is you won't ever know for sure unless you grab some cojones (balls) and ask her out....or at the very least, make a move. No one could ever tell me whether a girl liked me or not. And no one here can tell you. Because all they are reading is text. They weren't there. But the best way to know is to make a move. ANYTHING! SOMETHING! Because you know what? You will find out! Asking her out will delete all doubts in your mind. You will never ask that question again because YOU WILL KNOW! A girl that's interested will make some time for you. Even if she's busy, she'll try to set something up. A girl that's not..will make some lame excuse every time you try. Then you drop it, and go for a girl who will give you the time of day. If you get rejected, YOU'LL KNOW. And if you don't get rejected, YOU'LL KNOW. Stop overanalyzing. Stop hypothesizing. Stop wondering. Just be a man and ask her out. Sorry for the rant, but this is like the 8 milllionth post I've seen where some chump asks, "Does this girl like me?" It's making me wonder whether men have forgotten to become men. You do it because you want to! It's as simple as that! It doesn't matter if she is interested or if she hates you. You do it BECAUSE you want her. It is YOUR interest that matters. Forget reading females - you'll never be able to do it! Stop wondering, "Does she like me?” “She did this and she did that, that must mean this, that must mean that!” NO! The bigger question is this? Do you like her? No? Then look at somebody else that you are interested in. Yes? Then say “Hi” and ask for her name. If you don't do this, everything here is pointless. This is the first step to take. Focus on your interests, your desires, WHAT YOU WANT. Forget about anything else! YOU are here for yourself right? If someone will get hurt, YOU will be the one in pain, not your friend, your girl or that stranger on the corner! So do yourself a favor, literally and help yourself. If you want her, go for her! Go at her like you've never done before! Whenever you find yourself spending up to 5 minutes trying to "figure out" what a woman is thinking-----KNOW that you've just spent 4 minutes TOO LONG. This thread isn't meant to be offensive. It's just a wake-up call. Make a move folks! Because wishing and wondering hurts a lot more than getting rejected.
goldencloud Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 high 5! i loved that post though i'm not one to talk...my sad little post is titled 'does he want me or not' sigh!
Green Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 your thread may have been fun to write god knows I've felt like writing similar rants butt it will do nothing to stop that type of thread. Most of the poeple who write threads like that are comming here for the first time and are completly clueless. Its sad they just need to go up to the girl and talk to her and try something instead of being lame and sitting back and wondering if some girl likes them
Poncho Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Great frickin post man. I am trying to get some perspective back in my life after 6 years out of "the game" and this hit home with me. Thanks.
audrey_1 Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Yes, nice post. And if you go for a year, and drag someone along who you DON'T have feelings for, and you're NOT interested in, and you don't grab the cojones to let them know but send crazy mixed signals, you suck just as bad as someone who can't ask her out to begin with when you ARE interested.
Green Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Great frickin post man. I am trying to get some perspective back in my life after 6 years out of "the game" and this hit home with me. Thanks. don't even wory about if she likes you just do it
djhall Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 I was one of those guys, and I suppose you could say I'm in recovery. It mostly comes from the same reasons a lot of women don't approach men... they don't want to risk feeling rejected or looking stupid, both of which happen frequently when you start approaching people. However, like you say, if you want to get anywhere you have suck it up, grow a pair, and get over it. I read somewhere that x out of 10 men and x out of 10 women said yes when approached by a stranger who asked if they wanted to have sex. The numbers themselves were interesting, but I mostly thought about how you would get the data for that. Apparently, some guy had the job of approaching strange women and asking them if they would like to have sex. This would be great nice guy therapy. If you can get past doing that several dozen times, I figure you have to be pretty comfortable asking someone for a date. And who knows, if the studies are accurate you'll probably get lucky a few times too.
Poncho Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 If you can get past doing that several dozen times, I figure you have to be pretty comfortable asking someone for a date. And who knows, if the studies are accurate you'll probably get lucky a few times too. I'm guessing you may get a black eye or two, also, but, who knows.
audrey_1 Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 I'm guessing you may get a black eye or two, also, but, who knows. :lmao: I needed to laugh.
Poncho Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 :lmao: I needed to laugh. Glad I could help.
stillafool Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 I think we keep getting the same questions over and over and over and over and over and over and over again. It's GOT TO STOP! Some guy posts on the board..... Does she like me? Does she like me? The recurring pattern I see.....is that most of these guys don't make a move. They don't try. They just stand and hypothesize. The truth is you won't ever know for sure unless you grab some cojones (balls) and ask her out....or at the very least, make a move. No one could ever tell me whether a girl liked me or not. And no one here can tell you. Because all they are reading is text. They weren't there. But the best way to know is to make a move. ANYTHING! SOMETHING! Because you know what? You will find out! Asking her out will delete all doubts in your mind. You will never ask that question again because YOU WILL KNOW! A girl that's interested will make some time for you. Even if she's busy, she'll try to set something up. A girl that's not..will make some lame excuse every time you try. Then you drop it, and go for a girl who will give you the time of day. If you get rejected, YOU'LL KNOW. And if you don't get rejected, YOU'LL KNOW. Stop overanalyzing. Stop hypothesizing. Stop wondering. Just be a man and ask her out. Sorry for the rant, but this is like the 8 milllionth post I've seen where some chump asks, "Does this girl like me?" It's making me wonder whether men have forgotten to become men. You do it because you want to! It's as simple as that! It doesn't matter if she is interested or if she hates you. You do it BECAUSE you want her. It is YOUR interest that matters. Forget reading females - you'll never be able to do it! Stop wondering, "Does she like me?” “She did this and she did that, that must mean this, that must mean that!” NO! The bigger question is this? Do you like her? No? Then look at somebody else that you are interested in. Yes? Then say “Hi” and ask for her name. If you don't do this, everything here is pointless. This is the first step to take. Focus on your interests, your desires, WHAT YOU WANT. Forget about anything else! YOU are here for yourself right? If someone will get hurt, YOU will be the one in pain, not your friend, your girl or that stranger on the corner! So do yourself a favor, literally and help yourself. If you want her, go for her! Go at her like you've never done before! Whenever you find yourself spending up to 5 minutes trying to "figure out" what a woman is thinking-----KNOW that you've just spent 4 minutes TOO LONG. This thread isn't meant to be offensive. It's just a wake-up call. Make a move folks! Because wishing and wondering hurts a lot more than getting rejected. Great post! Also a lot of women need to take the same advice. I'm so tired of reading "does he like me?" How do we know????
lino Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 I can understand the possible frustration of the OP. I also find the does he/she like me topics to be no brainers. For me, along with many others, that stuff is really easy to figure out and work through. However the people starting them don't see it that way and they are free to ask questions about what's troubling them just like everybody else is here... I hope anyway. I know for certain that all the things which trouble me would be a piece of cake for most others who have had much more success than me in romance but I'd like to think that if I ever ask for advice or help here that I wouldn't be told to just man up or grow a pair & deal with it/do it
Shygirl15 Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Wow, it's nice to know there many of us who feel that way. Great post.
Shygirl15 Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Great post! Also a lot of women need to take the same advice. I'm so tired of reading "does he like me?" How do we know???? lol:lmao: True. Then there are the famous no brainer 'what should I do' threads. "He told me he loved me, but when I called he didn't answer my phone. What should I do?" *Yawn*. "He dumped me. What should I do?" :lmao: Uhmm, sorry for your situation, but I don't think there's much you can do.
Author FormerNiceGuy Posted September 13, 2008 Author Posted September 13, 2008 Yeah, I guess I was a bit frustrated. But it gets tiresome to keep typing the same goddamn answer each time. I literally have an answer that I just copy and paste on every question from some guy who asks "Does she like me?"
D-Lish Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 You know- as a woman who has been dating for a while... I don't have a problem letting a guy know I like him. I was soooo frustrated the other night- I went out to eat with a group of people (well, parents and family).... I got out of my car just as a big group of golfer's were coming in from a tournament. Right away I got a big "hey how are you?" and I smiled and said "hi" with a big smile. There was one really cute guy that kept staring at me on the patio- and I gave him the big smile and locked eye contact.... Twice- I went inside to go to the bathroom- and he sort of followed- and then I gave him another smile.... and he got red in the face and chickened out. So I spent most of the night catching him looking at me- and I kept smiling... like the big, cocked head smile... and he just didn't have the nuts to come over and say hi. Even my mom was like- wow- that guy can't keep his eyes off you. So- from the female perspective- WE OFTEN DO GIVE SIGNALS. I was eyeing this guy back- and I gave him extended eye contact and the big smile.... but he just got blushy on me and didn't come up to me. And I'll tell ya- many females won't approach. I don't like to- I love being pursued. If you get the smile and extended eye contact.... you've got a green light! Always have an opening line ready.... even if it's "do you have the time?" Even better if you already have a watch on when you ask... so we know you are interested in chatting with us.
Trialbyfire Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 I totally agree with this thread. If you want to know, ask!
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