Lights Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 Pretty much what the title says. How do I tell whether I have any, and how is it gained/improved? For any relevant background, I'm a straight male in my late 20s.
goldencloud Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 I would say someone who seems confident in themselves looks/'hot' appeal and all those factors only are magnified if the guy in question is comfortable in his skin also good conversational skills! who wants to stare at uber hot model man, unless he has words to back it up hope that helps!
Lizzie60 Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 Pretty much what the title says. How do I tell whether I have any, and how is it gained/improved? For any relevant background, I'm a straight male in my late 20s. Walk slowly, nodding your head..with your right eyebrow in the middle of your forehead.. little smile in the middle of your left cheek... that's the 'confident' walk..
sultry33 Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 I would say someone who seems confident in themselves looks/'hot' appeal and all those factors only are magnified if the guy in question is comfortable in his skin also good conversational skills! who wants to stare at uber hot model man, unless he has words to back it up hope that helps! exactly what i would have typed;)
norajane Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 For any relevant background, I'm a straight male in my late 20s. Genuine sex appeal is universal. Both sexes are drawn to people with genuine sex appeal - just as we are to people with charm, beauty, grace and humor regardless of their gender. What kind of effect do you have on people? Are they drawn to you? Would your friends describe you as sexy?
jen's mind Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 I agree about the confidence factor, but it can be quiet confidence. It can simply be the ability to look someone in the eye and smile and have your eyes reflect that you are genuine and present in the moment.
sultry33 Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 i would add that if you know someone who is ubber confident then hang out with them.. positive vibes rub off and can help you role model an ideal... i have 2 roles... mum an normal working girl in the week confident sexy girl on a weekend:laugh: you can adapt to change yourself it just needs practice;)
Art_Critic Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 A connection between two people... they can be the ugliest ( not always in the looks dept either ) most inept people but if they have a connection they have sex appeal for each other.
Author Lights Posted September 9, 2008 Author Posted September 9, 2008 I would say someone who seems confident in themselves looks/'hot' appeal and all those factors only are magnified if the guy in question is comfortable in his skin also good conversational skills! who wants to stare at uber hot model man, unless he has words to back it up hope that helps! Thanks for the explanation, goldencloud. Genuine sex appeal is universal. Both sexes are drawn to people with genuine sex appeal - just as we are to people with charm, beauty, grace and humor regardless of their gender. What kind of effect do you have on people? Are they drawn to you? Would your friends describe you as sexy? Effect...well, when I've had any effect it's almost always been bad. No one has been drawn to me. I have no idea if my friends would have described me as sexy, mainly because I'd been too afraid to discuss this sort of thing too openly (it's tough finding friends who one can trust with these sorts of things). Experiential evidence is pretty damning so far, though. The reason I'm asking for ways to tell if I have any at all is because there had been in the far distant past two women who actually met up with me at all, so I'm not sure if I'm at a complete zero. If I'm missing it entirely, how would I create it? If I do have any, how would I augment it? I agree about the confidence factor' date=' but it can be quiet confidence. It can simply be the ability to look someone in the eye and smile and have your eyes reflect that you are genuine and present in the moment.[/quote'] Thanks for the explanation, jen's mind. i would add that if you know someone who is ubber confident then hang out with them.. positive vibes rub off and can help you role model an ideal... i have 2 roles... mum an normal working girl in the week confident sexy girl on a weekend:laugh: you can adapt to change yourself it just needs practice;) What sort of practice do you use? A connection between two people... they can be the ugliest ( not always in the looks dept either ) most inept people but if they have a connection they have sex appeal for each other. Oh. What would I do to improve this sort of thing then?
norajane Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Oh. What would I do to improve this sort of thing then? Google body language and read up on flirting. The simplest, most effective thing is to look her in the eye and smile. Hold her gaze a little.
Rooster_DAR Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 You mean putting your hands in your pockets and staring at the ground is not good?
sultry33 Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 i practice feeling good about myself.. i make sure i look good feel good and am good to others i take interest in people there hobbies etc and am generally a happy person. dont know if id call it practice but you can be more confident if you try and make it happen.. know your strengths and weaknesses and work on them.. know what works for you and enjoy yourself.. if your not meeting anyone then change your routine.. get new interests new friends.. more friends and enjoy life:) people like being around positive people:love:
Author Lights Posted September 9, 2008 Author Posted September 9, 2008 Google body language and read up on flirting. The simplest, most effective thing is to look her in the eye and smile. Hold her gaze a little. That's where things break down. I've actually done the body language stuff before. All the "open stances", "mirroring", "eye contact", the whole schpiel. Doesn't do a thing. I try to smile as best I can, but I can't remember the last time eye contact on my part was ever returned in a positive way. But this is more an answer to your answer to Art Critic's explanation; could you provide information on your own earlier response? What would I do to start having better and sexier effects on women and be seen as sexy by friends?
The Collector Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 A look in your eyes that says I'm gonna **** you and you're gonna love it. Helps if your handsome, but handsome without that look and advantage gone.
CaliGuy Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Well I googled it out of fun and took some of the tests. By gosh, I'm damn sexy and didn't even know it. Lotsa sex appeal. (Applications are now being taken via PM! Muahaha)
Jersey Shortie Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 I am going to squeeze past CaliGuys head to get a post in..although it did give me a chuckle. I don't think you can define sex appeal. I've been attracted to ugly men because of sex appeal and handsome men because of sex appeal. I have been turned off by handsome men and turned off by ugly men..there is no equation for this. But I think univerially confidence is attractive to either sex. Which is probably why I am not getting any sex right now.
CaliGuy Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 I am going to squeeze past CaliGuys head to get a post in..although it did give me a chuckle. Mission accomplished!!! (maybe! LOL)
norajane Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 But this is more an answer to your answer to Art Critic's explanation; could you provide information on your own earlier response? What would I do to start having better and sexier effects on women and be seen as sexy by friends? You have to get to a point where THIS kind of lighthearted thing (below) becomes second nature to you: Well I googled it out of fun and took some of the tests. By gosh, I'm damn sexy and didn't even know it. Lotsa sex appeal. (Applications are now being taken via PM! Muahaha) You have to develop confidence in yourself and what you have to offer, so you show your humor and personality and ability to laugh at yourself to other people. Your sex appeal will shine through to the right person.
CaliGuy Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 You have to develop confidence in yourself and what you have to offer, so you show your humor and personality and ability to laugh at yourself to other people. Your sex appeal will shine through to the right person. Well that's certainly a lot of me. Sometimes I can be too serious though. I gotta learn to relax more. Life's too fun (and too short) to be serious all the time!
Author Lights Posted September 9, 2008 Author Posted September 9, 2008 2. NEVER care what ANYONE thinks... Never let anyone's opinion affect how you live your life or act. Live in the moment and act for yourself. This will help you blast past any '**** tests' a woman could give you, and will make you come off with a TON of sex appeal! Mad Dawg Such independence is certainly admirable, but it is untenable in real life. What other people think, and what actions they take upon said thoughts, does matter in real life, and will likely affect one's actions. If none of the women of possible interest in one's range of operations on a given night think one is worth meeting and/or dating, one is left dateless that night and that will likely change one's intended schedule that night. If one is unarmed and the people in one's immediate vicinity think that now is a good time for a firefight, one will likely actively change whatever actions one had intended to take to have them include escaping the scene. And so on... You have to develop confidence in yourself and what you have to offer, so you show your humor and personality and ability to laugh at yourself to other people. Your sex appeal will shine through to the right person. Any idea how that's done? (No, that's not a childish infinite regression game nor a denigration of your advice; it's an actual question because I am that clueless.)
norajane Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Any idea how that's done? (No, that's not a childish infinite regression game nor a denigration of your advice; it's an actual question because I am that clueless.) I don't know exactly. It takes time to develop confidence in yourself if it doesn't come naturally to you. I don't know how it's done, specifically, step by step, but it does grow over time as you recognize and internalize the good things about yourself, take pride in your successes, skills, traits, values...who YOU are.
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