JohnnyBlaze Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Again, speaking for papercutx, my gf, and her friends - there are a lot of creepy asian fetishists out there right now. It does not compare with guys who like redheads, etc. Collector's right. There are a lot of creepy fetishists out there. But, for what it's worth, it bothers us 'regular' white guys almost as much as it bothers the Asian girls out there. Any time we try to date an Asian girl nowadays, we're instantly written off as fetishists. The fact that the girl in question may not only be physically attractive, but also have many emotional, mental and lifestyle qualities that we're looking for is irrelevant. A white guy asking out an Asian girl - he MUST have a fetish. As usual, a few bad apples screw it up for the rest of us. PC and others, don't give up on all guys of any ethnicity just because of a few creeps. I'm not saying don't date Asian guys. What I am saying is, date whoever you're attracted to.
Green Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 I have zero asian girl fetish but I did very briefly date a chinese girl who openly admitted she only likes dating white guys. Plus so what if a guy likes asians, I like blondes and when I tell a girl I like her blond hair they usualy seem to take it as a compliment, even had one tell me she was natural if that means anything
FormerNiceGuy Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 I'm starting to think my mom was right when she told me that I should date someone my own race. I never had a problem with interracial dating but from the moment I could be allowed to date, she was constantly at my throat that I should date someone asian, emphasis on the Chinese. She wants me to date someone like my cousin's fiance, who is a nice guy and all, but he reminds me of a Peter Griffin character without the wise-crack mentality. He's very loyal and loves my cousin very much, but I can't imagine myself being with a guy that has no backbone. I've dated caucasians, greek, and spanish, but I've never once been with a asian guy. I've been attracted to a few guys before, but I've never saw myself with any one of them. But now since most other guys only see me as a booty call because they have an asian fetish, maybe I should just settle for dating a asian guy that my mom will approve of. I mean it wouldn't be so hard to find one since I live in a mostly asian neighborhood. I'm not happy, not happy at all. I don't think it should matter what the hell anyone thinks. I think you should go for someone that you like, because YOU like them. No matter what race it should be. Honestly I don't give a *** what people think of who I like.... you're thinking too much about it. I don't give a flying fu** what my parents think of what girl I'm dating. all I know is that I like her and that's it. You only live once. Stop trippin off stuff like this.
monkey00 Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 I think some asian parents expect their children to date within their own race..it's all about upholding family values and traditions, it is a little arrogant and old fashioned. I don't consider having a personal preference to be racist to be honest. I'm asian and I don't think I could date a traditional chinese girl. I've tried and it never worked out because I'm too americanized. Most of my friends are of different races. I love the outdoors, camping, tattoos, traveling abroad, learning guitar, going to concerts, talking and debating about things...many exciting things that traditional asians are afraid to try. As for asian guys being whipped..I think it's too easy to generalize. I could probably name a few off the top of my head..But I also know of ones who aren't. But all in all, I don't think it has anything to do with race for that matter for me. It's down to the basics of attraction ..and in short being just as americanized as I am. So papercut, I don't think you should completely write off an asian dude just because of what you hear or see. Give it a shot, who knows you might meet someone that makes you melt. Everyone has a different upbringing and doormats exist for all races.
MalachiX Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Haha, equal opportunity creeps! I agree with that. As for the poster who stopped dating white guys; not all white guys are like that, you just happened to have met some jerks, and you can ask ANY woman, regardless of age, race and her preferences in men, and she'd tell you the string of jerks she's encountered in her dating history! Thank you. If anyone wants a view into a man's mind, just look at this thread. When I, or any other guys, is approaching a girl; we don't think of just one race as a booty call. If you're in the mood for just sex, it's going to be with whoever you find attractive. Now, it is true that we're a bit more inclined to be attracted to a race or body type that we havn't been with before. That's just natural. It's a minor preference but hardly how we govern ourselves. When you get the the real creeps however; keep in mind that they just want to get laid at any cost. They'll get shot down by an Asian and then use the same line on a black girl, a hispanic girl, or a midget (I'm not making this up, I swear I've seen this). Then, once they're shot down by everyone, they'll look to whoever's left, whoever seems the most desperate or seems the most like easy prey, and ask them if they like to get freaky too. They'll end up with someone lonely, sad, and vunerable (and probably not very attractive) because when you're a creepy, you're not picky. Trust the guys on this thread because we honestly know the mentality pretty damn well. I think some asian parents expect their children to date within their own race..it's all about upholding family values and traditions, it is a little arrogant and old fashioned. I don't consider having a personal preference to be racist to be honest. Perhaps I'm just stereoyping but I consider it racist just because I've had a number of Asian friends all tell me the exact same speech from their parents. They tell their girls the following: You don't want to date a black person (black people always seem to be the biggest "no-no"). Black people are the least smart/cultured/succsesful people in the world. You see, it goes like this. The smartest people are [what ever group of Asians they happen to be] Then all the other Asians. Then the white people. Then the hispanic people (I assume Arabs are probably included in this category). Then, after all those, are the black people. It's not being racist. I just think you should date someone smart like you. Now, I know this certainly isn't the case with all Asian parents, most likely not even the case with most, but I've heard several Asian female friends quote me this exact same speech and it always makes my blood boil.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted September 10, 2008 Author Posted September 10, 2008 Again, speaking for papercutx, my gf, and her friends - there are a lot of creepy asian fetishists out there right now. It does not compare with guys who like redheads, etc. For the females, obviously, no one's interested in the poor asian men. I'm not a gold digger? Hey don't worry, there are hot Asian guys out there, especially some of the divers at the Olympics and that one speedskater who was also on Dancing with the Stars. HOT. Yes, there are hot asian guys out there, but I doubt they're any good in bed. I think some asian parents expect their children to date within their own race..it's all about upholding family values and traditions, it is a little arrogant and old fashioned. I don't consider having a personal preference to be racist to be honest. I'm asian and I don't think I could date a traditional chinese girl. I've tried and it never worked out because I'm too americanized. Most of my friends are of different races. I love the outdoors, camping, tattoos, traveling abroad, learning guitar, going to concerts, talking and debating about things...many exciting things that traditional asians are afraid to try. As for asian guys being whipped..I think it's too easy to generalize. I could probably name a few off the top of my head..But I also know of ones who aren't. But all in all, I don't think it has anything to do with race for that matter for me. It's down to the basics of attraction ..and in short being just as americanized as I am. So papercut, I don't think you should completely write off an asian dude just because of what you hear or see. Give it a shot, who knows you might meet someone that makes you melt. Everyone has a different upbringing and doormats exist for all races. Monkey, I feel the same way. I'm very different from alot of traditional chinese girls. I like to have fun, and like you I love tattoos and concerts. I love spontaneity and going out but it's really hard to find an guy that enjoys these things and share my views, let alone an asian guy. Most of asian guys I know, wears glasses, and stays home playing WoW. I just can't see myself being with them let alone, being sexual with any of them.
Green Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 I happen to know a tattoed fast living chinese guy named Chad but he has gf... and she's a hot white girl
Author xpaperxcutx Posted September 10, 2008 Author Posted September 10, 2008 I happen to know a tattoed fast living chinese guy named Chad but he has gf... and she's a hot white girl And you're telling me this because...????
Green Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 And you're telling me this because...???? I wish I had your asian ass tonight... no the reasoning behind me telling u was to be cruel... to be kind
Author xpaperxcutx Posted September 10, 2008 Author Posted September 10, 2008 I wish I had your asian ass tonight... no the reasoning behind me telling u was to be cruel... to be kind You're too cruel to be kind.
Green Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 once upon a time I was falling in love now I'm only turning Chinese...
monkey00 Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 Monkey, I feel the same way. I'm very different from alot of traditional chinese girls. I like to have fun, and like you I love tattoos and concerts. I love spontaneity and going out but it's really hard to find an guy that enjoys these things and share my views, let alone an asian guy. Most of asian guys I know, wears glasses, and stays home playing WoW. I just can't see myself being with them let alone, being sexual with any of them. Hm..do those happen to be guys in your social circle? Have you thought of trying certain activities/hobbies/clubs that you might be able to meet guys that don't fall into that stereotype? Have you thought of convincing your parents about your views?
Author xpaperxcutx Posted September 10, 2008 Author Posted September 10, 2008 Hm..do those happen to be guys in your social circle? Have you thought of trying certain activities/hobbies/clubs that you might be able to meet guys that don't fall into that stereotype? Have you thought of convincing your parents about your views? The guys in my social circle are mostly friends I've known in a while and I only see them as friends. I hardly ever go out of my way to meet asian guys when I'm out, and I think alot of asian guys find me intimidating? As for my parents, my mom knows that I prefer to date people outside of my race, but she always shuts me down and tells me that I should date a chinese guy. Then she would go into the specifics about how what they should be like. blah, blah... this is the part where I wish I had a remote control that can mute her.... My parent's are very stubborn, especially my mom. That's why when I date, I don't tell them anything.
Bells Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 Love, I've been approached on several occasions by guys who were white who told me that they've never been with an asian girl before. Adding to the fact that they were more or less nonchalant when they would tell me they think alot of asian girls are very beautiful. This is the part where the alarm in my head goes off, and I run away. I can always tell whether they want a booty call or not, and I can't seem to stop attracting guys that just want to sleep with me. I admit I'm a sexual person but I really don't want to end up like one those girls that constantly expects the guy to call and commit to them. I don't want to limit my racial dating pool, but I've yet to meet anyone who can over look my race and like me for my personality not the country where my parents are from. I'm an american as much as the next person, so why the need to constantly stereotype me? What's wrong with having an attraction for a certain race....I have a thing for Latinas, because...well, they are hot and uninhibited. Some men have a thing for blondes, other men have a thing for brunettes, I fail to see the big deal here. You can't fault a man for that.
The Collector Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 I'm not a gold digger? Did I suggest you were? Confused emoticon.
soyou Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 I'm Asian. My parents are okay with all the races except black. I dont know why and have never asked. However, there was a time I felt so hard into a very attractive black Amercian boy. My parents disagreed fiercely abt this relationship. They said they did not want to have "overcooked" (black) grandchildren and blah blah. Well, to me when it comes to love, I dont care what my parents say. I do what I want. I love sb who I fall in love with. I think your parents, especially your mon still have control over you because you are financially dependent. Once you live on your own, everything will be getting much easier. Also, I dont know why black families are very much against their chilldren dating Asian, just like the way Asian families are against their children dating black? When I was with my ex (black American), she never met me in person but always incited her son to abandon me. She said Asian girls are not good, black ones are so much better.
Trojan John Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 Every culture is bigoted like this to the same extent. Every other culture is perceived as being worse than one's own. It's all small mindedness and ignorance. We are all a part of the same race. The term "race", when meant to describe another culture or ethnicity, is something I wish people would drop from their vocabularies. Do what you want. It's your life.
jerbear Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 For the females, obviously, no one's interested in the poor asian men. I think it should be "any poor men." I'm one of the men who actually adore red heads as crazy as it sounds. To the OP, I've dated Asians, Caucasians, Latios, mixes, and honestly creeps, freaks, poor, rich, etc.. exists in all the races. In regards to culture, well the parents are right in that you two understand each other versus having to explain things. Like the meaning of 8, giving clocks, etc....
CandyGirlXO Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 Date who you have a connection with, not for their race. But its easy for me to say that, because I was raised that way. But for the record I am white/hispanic and I love Asian men. But yeah I think the samething, they won't want to date me because I am not Asian!
monkey00 Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 Date who you have a connection with, not for their race. But its easy for me to say that, because I was raised that way. But for the record I am white/hispanic and I love Asian men. But yeah I think the samething, they won't want to date me because I am not Asian! I highly doubt that, there are many who are willing to date interracially. Sometimes you just need to prove people wrong about certain things. My sister-in-law is black and her family are very nice people. A close friend of mine is black, nicest gentleman a girl could ever meet..oh yeah guess what? he's dating an asian girl. There are just individuals that are just narrow-minded in society. The guys in my social circle are mostly friends I've known in a while and I only see them as friends. I hardly ever go out of my way to meet asian guys when I'm out, and I think alot of asian guys find me intimidating? Since you're not exactly enthused about dating asians anyway, I don't really see any point for you to out of your way to meet them. I think the choice is up to you really. Do you want to make your mom happy by upholding traditions and her expectations? or oppose her views and live your own life?
KinAZ Posted September 11, 2008 Posted September 11, 2008 I wouldn't say that you have to stick to your own race. Forgive me if this has already been stated, as I haven't read this entire thread, but... if a man EVER brings up race, especially early on, just leave him alone. Words like "exotic"... just run away! There are plenty of men out there who, may not be totally color blind, but may like you for your without your race being an issue. When men are too quick to ask my race they lose brownie points, yes... even the ones wondering if I was of their race. To me, it shouldn't matter. It sounds sort of like a "qualifier" to me... Date who you want to date, but just be more observant... and try not to give them the impression that you're the "booty call type" unless that's the only thing you want from him. ;-)
vonerik012 Posted September 11, 2008 Posted September 11, 2008 I'm not a gold digger? Yes, there are hot asian guys out there, but I doubt they're any good in bed. Monkey, I feel the same way. I'm very different from alot of traditional chinese girls. I like to have fun, and like you I love tattoos and concerts. I love spontaneity and going out but it's really hard to find an guy that enjoys these things and share my views, let alone an asian guy. Most of asian guys I know, wears glasses, and stays home playing WoW. I just can't see myself being with them let alone, being sexual with any of them. This is almost too funny.. The Asian girl who is the OP seems to be complaining that men think of them sexually first, or have a fetish. A stereotype. And it is true. Many men do. They think they will be tighter, more submissive, or just smaller and more exotic. Then she goes on to state that she doubts Asian guys are any good in bed, lol.... Maybe if they started making some Asian rap videos on played them on MTV day and night we will have hordes of young women thinking Asian men are the bomb, and sexually the best around.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted September 11, 2008 Author Posted September 11, 2008 This is almost too funny.. The Asian girl who is the OP seems to be complaining that men think of them sexually first, or have a fetish. A stereotype. And it is true. Many men do. They think they will be tighter, more submissive, or just smaller and more exotic. Then she goes on to state that she doubts Asian guys are any good in bed, lol.... Maybe if they started making some Asian rap videos on played them on MTV day and night we will have hordes of young women thinking Asian men are the bomb, and sexually the best around. I've seen enough mtv vids with asian singers, and they qualify more as eye candy. The only reason I said that most asian men aren't good in bed is because most of them are sexually repressed.
vonerik012 Posted September 11, 2008 Posted September 11, 2008 I don't know... China has 1.2 billion.. Seems like some people must be having sex..
Author xpaperxcutx Posted September 11, 2008 Author Posted September 11, 2008 I don't know... China has 1.2 billion.. Seems like some people must be having sex.. :lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao: They have kids for the sake of having kids, it has nothing to do with enjoying sex.
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