backspn Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 I have been dating this girl for a little under a year off and on. We are currently off. We are both in our late 20's. This last week she text me saying how much she misses me and that we should get together and talk this Sunday nite. She said she would call me the next day....no call. She then text me the next day and said she would call Saturday....no call. Sunday we had plans to meet up and "talk" about us and she cancelled, saying she wasnt feeling well. She has text me 3 times this morning and called me, I let go to VM and I havent text her back. She keeps asking me "why are you mad at me?" I dont plan on returning her text til tomorrow. I do have my manhood still in tact and I dont appreciate being walked over. In the past I have been the "nice" guy with no balls, this is where it ends and I grow some. What are some other ideas here? I do want to see her again but on my terms, not hers.
xpaperxcutx Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 If you don't want to plays games, you need to confront her on her flakiness. That's what you called growing some balls, not turning the table on her.
Author backspn Posted September 13, 2008 Author Posted September 13, 2008 So we went out last night for dinner and a movie. She said she had missed having me in her life. I found out she is dating another guy, as I am dating another girl also. She said he is sweet and caring but she doesnt have the same feelings for him as she does for me. He buys her things and showers her with gifts and he has told her that he loves her but she doesnt feel the same. She said everytime she sees me she wants to "jump me". She said that we still have chemistry and still has "strong" feelings for me. I suggested that we give it another try but she said she likes getting to know me and feels like this is going to work out between us but just not at this point in time. She said that she would like to give it another try in a month or two. I told her that I wont be the "friend" she hangs out with and that I am going to date other women. She said that I should continue to do so. My best friend tells me that I should tell her "when you're ready, you have my number, but in the meatime I dont think we should hang out anymore". Question is: If you have feelings for strong romantic feelings towards someone, why would you continue to date someone you "care" about and not want to date me, whom she has strong feelings towards? I am heading down the "friends" path? Or could this work out?
Art_Critic Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 Being the back burner guy is tough.. I always found it demeaning and would never put up with it.. During my dating days if I was backburnered I was gone like the wind...
Author backspn Posted September 13, 2008 Author Posted September 13, 2008 post edit: She did say last night that while she has been going out with him, she does realize what she had in me and she would like to try again at some point.
Art_Critic Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 post edit: She did say last night that while she has been going out with him, she does realize what she had in me and she would like to try again at some point. Then she should not date the other guy if she wants to try again with you... Back burnered is a lonely position...
Author backspn Posted September 13, 2008 Author Posted September 13, 2008 So I guess my only option here is to let her know next time we talk that she has my number, call me when you decide what you want? Thats IF Im available.
JoeNewbie Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 I've been there before and it's a tough spot. First, I think you should not offer to get back together unless she begs you. Right now, she is in the driver's seat and she's under the impression she string you along for as long as she wants. Not good.
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