Brady_to_Moss Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 I am in college and its tough for me. I dont spit game or whatever. I just have fun and not worry about stuff like that. But when i like a girl another guy always takes her cuz i dont really do much. But i dont feel i need too but i think i need to change...
bliscio Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 YES, no matter what you want. you can talk a girl into getting in her pants or just keep her keep her around because she loves your company. Even guy's that look like models don't pull girls like they should w/ out game. Keep the girls smiling and that will keep them around!
CaliGuy Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 Do you need game? Well, yes and no. You need to be confident in who you are and willing to go for it if you are interested is someone. If you stand there like a lump on a log, nothing will happen for you. So if you like a girl, spark up a conversation and just be yourself. If you want to go out with her, ask her out. Don't wait around for a girl to ask you out. At your age, the girls are being barraged with suitors. You either toss your hat in the ring or you stay home on a Friday night playing Warcraft or studying. Sounds like you are comfortable with who you are. Now step out of your comfort zone and start asking girls out.
norajane Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 But when i like a girl another guy always takes her cuz i dont really do much. If by game, you mean doing something, anything, then YES, you need to have game. Talk to her and ask her out or someone else will. If by game, you mean pretending to be something you aren't with a bunch of lines and approaches that you memorize, then no.
rproctor Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 Game? I think that term is long gone. Game is referring to a string of lies, tricks, and scandalous techniques to use women. It means playing women, like playing a game. Its what ignorant horny fools try to encompass themselves with. You dont need game. What you do need, and what "Game" really is, is Social Dynamics. How to interact and deal with people on a cumulative plane. Learning simple things like how to posture your body and how to articulate your words will help you immensely. These are not things that you just use to attract women, but use in your daily life for school, work, business, etc. Anyways, like some others said, trying to be something your not will not work. Even if you succeeded and got the girl you would be unhappy. Whatever fake, front, or disguise you used to lure her in will have to be managed throughout the entire relationship or she will call your bluff, and chances are continually trying to be someone your not will ultimately make you a lot less happy then not having a girlfriend. Confidence is important. I read a national survy a couple weeks ago that the number one factor a woman likes in a man is confidence. Looks were like 8 out of 10 things.Q
Trialbyfire Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 There's no way you're going to get any girl without putting any effort into it. Throw out the silly game book and have some fun. Be playful and flirtatious. Lightly tease her and you'll get her interest. Keep in mind that if this isn't you, don't try it. It will only be "game" if so.
goldencloud Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 depends on the kind of person ur interested in dating game in reference to confidence, being straight foward etc, i support and most women would agree but game in reference to one liners that amount to nothing, hip swaggers and winks across tables..not so much...but then again it all depends in the kind of girl ur interested in dating hope that helps:)
CaliGuy Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 There's no way you're going to get any girl without putting any effort into it. Throw out the silly game book and have some fun. Be playful and flirtatious. Lightly tease her and you'll get her interest. Keep in mind that if this isn't you, don't try it. It will only be "game" if so. While I agree, he needs to LEARN how to be flirtatious and playful. If he doesn't practice, he'll never learn. If that is the case, it isn't really a game either. He's gotta learn one way or another.
Trialbyfire Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 While I agree, he needs to LEARN how to be flirtatious and playful. If he doesn't practice, he'll never learn. If that is the case, it isn't really a game either. He's gotta learn one way or another. If he can do it, I agree. If it's not him, it can be pretty obvious. Only practice and a little time will tell. I think one way of telling is if he's normally playful. If he's not, it won't work no matter how hard he tries.
FormerNiceGuy Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Game. Yes. But it all comes upon what your definition of "game" is. You have to be able to know the right words to say to women. It's something that took me a while to get down. It isn't just about "being yourself" because there's a lot of losers out there who are "being themselves" your words. Your actions. Your appearance. Your lifestyle....they all must demonstrate that you are better than your competition..that you are the prize to be sought... People will say I'm full of rubbish...but in the end, it's all about value. You need to stand out from all the rest. This is my definition of game.
nopainnogain Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 I am in college and its tough for me. I dont spit game or whatever. I just have fun and not worry about stuff like that. But when i like a girl another guy always takes her cuz i dont really do much. But i dont feel i need too but i think i need to change... Sorry for your loss. Looks like you need to change your S/N to "Cassell_to_Moss"
rod_in_gtown Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 Game, yes and no. You shouldn't do anything that is less than yourself when approaching a woman. You should be able to talk and most importantly, be able to listen. I don't think of it as "game" as much as being socially aware of how to talk to women and being a good person while doing it. Be confident and honest and they will pick up on that and go from there. Many years ago I read a book for the wrong reasons and ended learning something invaluable. In doing so I became a better man, heck, a better human being. I read a book called "Make every girl want you"... I know, not much of a title. But what's contained in the book gave me more of a general behavior guide that would in turn help me build strong relationships. I highly recommend it. You can pick it up from amazon for less than $5 used, and for about $10 new. http://www.amazon.com/Make-Every-Girl-Want-You/dp/0972016619/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1221004110&sr=8-1 Good luck and godspeed young padawan.
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