Anyone Know Why?

[Arsenic_Child]

OK, i asked a few friends what i should do about Me and my ex, One told me to Go NC the other Who is really really good friends with my ex told me to Rebuild my friendship and that me and my ex will work things out down the road after the hurt was gone (I hurt her bad, wasn't cheating or anything, I Just lied about 2 major things)

 

I did go NC several times but she would contact me and start txting, calling or AIMing me a few days after. I don't have the heart to do it because if her and my Friend tells me theres a chance, then i don't want to make the Hurt worse

 

So i have been maintaining Friendship to rebuild what we had, we talk/txt almost every night, but heres the issue and i don't know what this means or what to do.

 

When we would talk the first couple of times we would talk for a long period of time, then it started to Dwindle down and when we do talk it takes her 20+ mins to respond to texts, AIMs and I have given up on phone calls.

When we talk it doesn't feel the same, her Responses to Most Questions and in general are like 3-4 words. When we do talk, she is constantly doing these cute things that we used to do when we were together.

 

When i do mention that im going to go do something fun or want to go do something fun, she says she wants to go. I don't know if shes serious or if shes joking but i want to ask her because what if she really wants to go.

 

and then i Log into facebook and notice she put Lyrics to a Song that was mine and hers in facebook and these were the lyrics

 

These are the days

That I won’t get back

I won’t hear you cry

Or hear you laugh

And when it’s quite

And I don’t hear a thing

I can always hear you breathe

 

You know there’s nowhere else

I’ve wanted to be

Than be there when you need me

I’m sorry too

But don’t give up on me

And just remember that when you get asleep

I got a little bit closer to you

 

 

 

 

Does anyone know what any of this means, are me and her fading?

I have an idea on what the lyrics mean, but i could be wrong.

 

 

What do i do!!

[yongyong]

I don't think NC is a good idea. just minimal contact till she trusts you again.

 

you are the one who lied to her. so if you want to play NC game on her just to get her attention, you are taking a big risk of losing her forever.

[Arsenic_Child]

I know NC isn't a good idea, especially if i'm trying to regain trust, but i feel like shes growing more and more distant every time we talk

[Arsenic_Child]

Bump Guys, Im losing my mind, i really need more imput

[Blondi26]

This is a really hard situation

 

I've had the same problem. You want to go NC or LC so that she misses you and doesn't take you for granted. But, you want to earn her trust back.

 

Do you think that she is dwindling in her talks with you because

 

a) You are too available and she has lost interest...OR

 

b) She cannot trust you

 

If you can figure that out, you can predict what your best course of action will be.

[Arsenic_Child]

i think its because I'm too available, but everytime i get a text or IM i respond quickly because i want to get on her good side, maybe i should slow it down a bit and take time