crazimonkey Posted August 15, 2003 Posted August 15, 2003 Everytime I go to talk to my crush, I get nervous. I barely can say anything. My brother says I should ask him out. He seems to like me says almost everybody. Or i should at least tell him I like him what should I do??? Or what can I do??
Tony T Posted August 15, 2003 Posted August 15, 2003 Yes, you should ask him to do something...if he's not going to get up the courage. Definitely ask. Don't worry about the nervousness. The awful feeling you may have later because you took no action at all is much worse than the nervous feelings now.
Thor Posted August 15, 2003 Posted August 15, 2003 The next time you get the nerve to speak to her try imagining her as someone else. It can be anyone you want. This should make it easier for you to speak with that person. Really, it worked for me when I was in high school way back, and it might work for you too. Eventually, you'll be so comfortable with speaking with everyone that you won't need to pretend that they're someone else!
Author crazimonkey Posted August 16, 2003 Author Posted August 16, 2003 What do you do if your too afraid to talk to some one you like. How would you go upon telling them you like them. Or what could you do to talk to them w/o getting so nervous?
Author crazimonkey Posted August 16, 2003 Author Posted August 16, 2003 What are some ways not to be so nervous? Is there anything i can do to ask a guy out or tell them i like them?
midori Posted August 16, 2003 Posted August 16, 2003 I think the way to reduce your anxiety is to not have too much riding on his response. Ask the guy out for a cup of coffee. It's low-key and if he says no, so what? A bit of disappointment, perhaps a slight dent in your pride, but so what? He doesn't know you well enough to know what he's missing. So it's not like your entire self will be rejected if he says no. People often don't realize that they've got a lot more invested in a possible dating scenario than just getting to know the other person -- which is all asking someone out on a date OUGHT to be. Instead, they have visions of the date turning into a relationship, happily ever after, no more Friday nights alone, no more feeling like a third wheel when hanging out with your friends who have partners. You see someone you'd like to get to know, try to get to know them. If they're not interested in getting to know you, then keep on looking. Their rejection doesn't mean you will never meet someone with whom there is mutual chemistry and a wish to know each other. It's just not going to happen with them. I know it's easier said than done (and I've built up lots of expectations myself, it's hard not to) but when you think about it, it's only reasonable. Just ask him. You've got nothing to lose. Good luck!
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