I really like a guy who is still hung up on his ex but also likes me.....

[Barthca3]

So I met this guy not to long ago named Chris through my friend Brian. Brian really likes me a lot and gets very jealous if I hang out with any of the guys he introduces me to. But we are just friends so he really doesnt have much control over that. Well I started running into to Chris and he invited me to hang out. We hung out a few times and always had a lot of fun. He said he was very attracted to me and what not but explained that he just got out of a relationship and cant seem to get over his ex girlfriend. He would still invite me over all the time or out to do things. I told him I didnt want Brian to find out that we were hanging out cause I didnt want him to get upset. Well a couple of days go by and I was hanging out at Brians house. We had a lot to drink and what not so I stayed the night. Well I guess Chris decided to drive buy and what not to see if I was there through out the night. Then the next day he sends me all these nasty text messages about him knowing that I stayed at Brians house and what not and that I was lying about it and all this crazy stuff. After arguing back in fourth we just stopped talking to one another for a couple days. I finally talked and made up. he was like I dont care I am not your boyfriend and what not. I told him I was putting it out like that I was just upset that he was sending me such nasty text messages and what not. I dont really know what to make of all this but I really do like him and I feel like he does like me but for some reason he is putting it off. I am so confused and bad with these situations so I would really appreciate any advice. Thank you!!!!!!

[2sunny]

i'm really wondering what is involved with missing information every time you say "and what not"

 

other than that - i can see that you don't have firm boundaries established with Chris... as if you had/did - he would understand that it is not ok to check on you, send nasty messages, act as if he can tell you what to do, when to do, and with whom you spend your time.

 

decide what your boundaries are and make them perfectly clear to both men.

 

the misunderstanding only happened because you allowed it to... before, during and after.

[John444]

Explain how can she be her EX if he still hangs up with her?