Should I or Shouldn't I?

[Trialbyfire]

Thanks mel.

 

I feel like a schoolgirl on her first date with her crush. I can only laugh at myself.

[Capricciosa]

That's the first sign of someone who will BOLT soon after.

 

I remember reading about this sort of behavior - the flowers, the calling - in "Men Who Can't Love."

 

 

That book really depressed me and opened my eyes at the same time. It's all so classic, it's embarrassing.

[Lishy]

What will you wear? Oh the excitement! Yay!!

[jerbear]

Thanks mel.

 

I feel like a schoolgirl on her first date with her crush. I can only laugh at myself.

 

What will you wear? Oh the excitement! Yay!!

 

I suggest the schoolgirl outfit after the date!:lmao:

 

Hey TBF, good luck and remember to RELAX and go with the flow. Knowing you, I might suggest asking him how to derive Black Scholes and if he does; keep him!

[Walking away]

Well, it's the equivalent of a dream-boat attorney calling me between breaks during a deposition or court hearing. If they just met me, why are they putting ME above their responsbilities for the day? AND telling me about it? Huge loud bells would be going off in my mind that something is just not right. As you said: Full court press. That's the first sign of someone who will BOLT soon after.

 

I remember reading about this sort of behavior - the flowers, the calling - in "Men Who Can't Love."

 

Just be careful. I rely on you to be my rock and can't have you succumb to his charms.

 

I hate to be cynical myself. But this is so similiar to my love affair with someone whom I thought was the love of my life.

 

I found out later, after many, many flowers (white roses included), gifts, flights around the US, and (yikes) the true full court press....

 

(my guy, for our first date, had a limo pic me up and drive me 2 hours to meet him for a mere lunch...and he was there with champagne and flowers waiting for me)

 

that he was a married minister.

 

Be wary.

 

Things that look too good to be true normally are.

 

Be careful, honey. Have fun, but keep your faculties about you. You are going to need them...

 

And as for this guy: I hope I am totally wrong, though.

 

(And, BTW, I dated a "celebrity" myself and we are friends still.... Have fun!)

[Trialbyfire]

Lishy, if it's not too cool of an evening, I've got a little black sun dress that's halter-style, not too short, not too long. I'm going to pair it up with 3" black strappy sandals, deep red nail polish and simple platinum jewelry. Hair down but in big loose curls falling to my arse. Smoky eyes makeup with a fairly neutral lipstick. Oh, and a short black cashmere sweater for when it cools down after dinner. What do you think?

 

Haha...jerbear! Shall I grill him on puts too?

 

Walking away, he's not married for certain. I've been googling the crap out of him, rag after rag and there's nothing there of any import. If he's dating someone else, that's okay too, since so am I. I'll bring the convo around to this, during our date and see what he says and also how he feels about multi-dating. I can't see that someone like him, would be without a girl in every port. Since I don't see him as relationship material, that's okay too. He's exciting fun for now.

 

I'm single and damn it all, determined to have a good time.

[Walking away]

I'm not intimating that he is married.

 

No, I just want you to be aware of the TYPE of person you may be dealing with.

 

Anyway, have fun and enjoy yourself!

[Trialbyfire]

I married and divorced a guy like this. Electric, charismatic and oh, so not monogamous! Don't worry, my eyes are wide open but thanks, I do appreciate the advice.

[Walking away]

Yes, those of us who have encountered the type know what to look for.

 

Have fun then!

 

Life is too short not to.

[Lishy]

Wow your outfit sounds to die for!

 

Oooooo his eyes will pop out!

[Trialbyfire]

Thanks Lishy, hopefully, hopefully, although he must be so accustomed to starlets and models that it won't be a big deal. At least I won't embarrass him.

[Lishy]

Hahhaha lets hope he dont turn up in t-shirt, shorts and flip flops and take you to the park:lmao:

 

Imagine that, TBF on a swing in 3" heels ... Hilarious!

 

Do you know where you are going?

[Trialbyfire]

I would die laughing. If so, I'm changing right away and he can wait!

 

He wouldn't tell me the name of the restaurant but mentioned that it's one that caters to those in the biz, so not to be surprised if I see people I recognize. I guess it's a place they can relax without having the paparazzi or autograph seekers, hounding them.

[Cherry Blossom 35]

Whoa! Just saw this. Can't wait to hear how it goes!

[Trialbyfire]

Grrr...I can't wait for Thursday. He called again about an hour ago.

 

Not only is he an outrageous flirt, he's also loves to tease. I'm so out of my depth with this one. Bad, bad, bad!

[LikeCharlotte]

Grrr...I can't wait for Thursday. He called again about an hour ago.

 

Not only is he an outrageous flirt, he's also loves to tease. I'm so out of my depth with this one. Bad, bad, bad!

Just read your thread and I have a little advice. I have dated semi-star(s) and nothing will be any different with the exception of the places you will go and the events you will be invited to. Enjoy it pussycat *rawr* I don't think you are out of your depth. Don't be intimidated... he's just a guy. Like all the rest he seems great now but give him some time and give him a chance.

[Trialbyfire]

Thanks, that's true Charlotte. He's only a man. It's not so much what he is but who he is, as a person. Here's a guy who's used to projecting to millions upon millions of people on the big screen. When he focuses this kind of projection on you, it can be a little intimidating but in an intriguing way.

 

My ex-H was good at this but this guy has it magnified, and it's been over the phone for the past couple of days. It makes me wonder what it's going to be like in person, which leads me back to wondering about Thursday. I think he's going to drive me insane by Thursday.

[nicki]

My brother is an actor who lives in LA. Had to make sure this guy wasn't him! (The description fit, but no Canadian ties!)

 

My brother gets a lot of women, too, but he has trouble really finding a woman he can connect with. He tells me that he doesn't like dating women who are actors. He much prefers women out of the industry.

 

One thing he says is that it's hard for women to see him for who he is inside, not his characters. He says a lot of women want him to "entertain" them and to be funny, and that feels like work to him.

 

The one woman he was in a serious relationship with was a girl-next-door type who was smart, kind and very real. He still misses what they had.

 

I guess I'm telling you all of this to help dispel some of the actor stereotypes going around. My brother is one of the most sensitive men I've ever met. He does have a hard time, though, being himself and opening up to women.

 

It's a paradox. Women throw themselves at him, but he is lonely.

 

So, go have fun. With your personality and intelligence, I'm betting this guy will be so happy to be with you and will find your time together to be completely refreshing!

 

Yes, come back and spill all details!

[nicki]

Oh, I forgot to add that my brother and most of his actor friends ARE very charming and have a lot of one night stands!

 

But, he'd love to get involved with a real woman in a real way. His behavior doesn't always attract those kinds of women, or even keep them!

[Trialbyfire]

Thanks for the interesting insight nicki. I guess he gets tired of the same-old, same-old and wants back to what's real.

 

My female cousin is also an actor. She made a conscious choice to live in the country, far away from things, to keep herself grounded. It's worked so far.

 

Which reminds me. I can verify his rep through her, without giving away where he lives. Didn't think of this until now so thanks for the trigger, too!

[nicki]

Ohhhh, good idea!

[almost famous]

I personally would not mention anything about dating anyone else or his thoughts on multi-dating on the first date.

In fact, I would wait to mention this at all until he asks you to be exclusive and it has gotten to that point.

I am not in the camp that believes you owe him any explanations as to your dating life until you are in an exclusive relationship.

[Mending1985]

I just read this thread - how exciting for you TBF!!!

 

You all seem so casual about it lol something like that would NEVER happen to me (but then I don't live in a very "famous" area lol)

 

I hope you have heaps of fun!!

[2sunny]

i'm surprised you haven't run into him by the elevator in the past few days. what's up with that?

[Trialbyfire]

almost famous, while I understand what you're saying about not owing him an explanation, I can't not say anything. It's just one of those things that I believe in. If it turns him off, that's okay too.

 

Haha...thanks Mending. I live in Hollywood North so it's not unusual for assorted famous personalities to be around. That he lives in my building and area does surprise me because I've never seen anyone like that around. Perhaps it's because it's a highly secure building. I'll have to ask him tomorrow night.

 

2sunny, he's mentioned that he's been there for over a year now. I've never seen him before. His suite faces the elevator so he might be normally cautious about leaving, when he sees anyone around. I don't know for certain but I can't think of a discreet way to broach a topic like that.