Should I or Shouldn't I?

[Star Gazer]

I don't think it's fair to paint someone who dates an actor as a "mistress."

 

But again, there are those who will rain on anyone's parade.

 

Have a great time, TBF.

[Trialbyfire]

Haha...he's single and hasn't hit any rags...that I could find. That's positive but not conclusive. How about "Welcome to my stable."? Pretty funny considering that I'm multi-dating. Who's in who's stable?

 

Hopefully there won't be any gory details. Two people having fun, where when the fun ends, we part amicably in a civilized fashion.

 

Thanks SG!

[Lishy]

Well I for one am very excited about it!!!!!!!!!

[Trialbyfire]

Thanks Lishy. I'm also excited and he's not helping one bit by calling this morning between takes. Talk about full court press but within the confines of good taste. Yikes!

[Lishy]

Just remember that the more blase you are with him the more you will get out of it!

 

When are you going to see him?

[Trialbyfire]

Not to worry Lishy. I'm not invested so it's not a problem. Being blase is not a good idea with this man. Being of independent mind, while letting him know you find his company appealing, works better.

 

He's used of getting his way. But then, so am I!

[Lishy]

Oh I am not worried TBF, I am sure that you are more than capable of looking after yourself ... Infact HE will probably be posting here soon trying to mend his broken heart:laugh:

[Trialbyfire]

Haha...imagine that. I know you'll all be there for me when it's time to pick up the shattered pieces of my poor broken heart.

 

Nemo will be the first to try to help me.

 

Nemo: I told you so but you went and did it anyways.

Me: Well, there's no doubt I got screwed!

Nemo: It's only worthwhile if he came from behind.

Me: Nemo..shaddup.

[Star Gazer]

Thanks Lishy. I'm also excited and he's not helping one bit by calling this morning between takes.

 

That's a really big red flag to me....

[Trialbyfire]

Okay, I'll bite. Why SG?

[Lishy]

It does not matter about red flags, you have this guys number from the start, I am pretty sure you are not seeing him as marriage material, jut a bit of light relief.

 

Just remember to keep it light and dont allow yourself to be sucked in

 

If you were not so tough I would tell you to run.

 

Just remember the bubble wrap ok? lol

[Star Gazer]

Well, it's the equivalent of a dream-boat attorney calling me between breaks during a deposition or court hearing. If they just met me, why are they putting ME above their responsbilities for the day? AND telling me about it? Huge loud bells would be going off in my mind that something is just not right. As you said: Full court press. That's the first sign of someone who will BOLT soon after.

 

I remember reading about this sort of behavior - the flowers, the calling - in "Men Who Can't Love."

 

Just be careful. I rely on you to be my rock and can't have you succumb to his charms.

[Trialbyfire]

SG, I'm not viewing this guy as relationship material. His lifestyle in general wouldn't make for spending consistent time together, moving forward towards something more lasting. Consider him Mr. Exciting Right Now.

 

Awww...thanks. You know I'm here for you.

 

Yes Lishy, that's how I view him.

[Star Gazer]

Consider him Mr. Exciting Right Now.

 

Understood. But don't let him maintain that title at the expense of your cute neighbor....

[Trialbyfire]

How did you know my neighbour's cute?

[2sunny]

go have fun with both of them.

 

this is what dating is all about...you like someone - you spend time with them and enjoy their company!

 

you just happened to meet two about the same time.

 

nobody says you are marrying them - just go have fun!

 

oh ya - we want all the details tho...

[Trialbyfire]

Married...Eeeekkkk! I'm not even ready for a relationship!

 

You ladies and your thirst for knowledge!

[Nemo]

I am completely in favour of pursuing Mr Wonderful. I don't see what all the fuss is about. If the worst happens, and he turns out to be gay, then I want to be the first to know.

 

[Lishy]

I agree, be honest that you are multi dating and have fun!

 

The only people who should not multi date are people who give their heart too easily and take everything serious and you are so NOT in that bracket!

 

You must dish up all info though!!

[Nemo]

Sorry, I meant letting MW pursue you. Sorry.

[dropdeadlegs]

The heart racing is what I look for too. Has it bitten me in the ass (shaddup, Nemo!)? Sure, but I honestly look at every date and every relationship as growth experiences, even when my heart was broken.

 

I believe things happen for a reason.

 

If I feel like I'm in high school again, I am SOOOO in! No matter the risk/cost. Test the waters with my toe? Pfft! I dive in head first (shaddup, Nemo!) and catch my breath later.

 

I know you don't get the butterflies feeling often, but if you can't open yourself up to possibilities, possibilities pass you by.

 

Have fun Thursday! You're smart, classy, beautiful, and sassy. He should be worried about falling head over heels for you. If the fat lady sings, I know who my money is on.

 

I'm far more careful with my money than with my heart.

 

(White roses! That's classy!)

[Storyrider]

For lack of any detailed visual imagery, I've cast Hugh Grant to play him as I picture him--the flirtatious thrill-seeker with boyish looks and sly smile. I know your guy is American, but I'm taking some creative license.

[High Plains Drifter]

So here's my conundrum. Should I or shouldn't I call? I'm curious since he was very interesting, witty, smart and articulate and yet, the rep of most actors isn't great, not that I would expect anything serious with this man, for certain.

 

I think its odd that you have such a high opininion of the individual (very interesting, witty, smart, etc..) yet you generalize (the "rep of MOST actors).

 

Not ALL actors have bad reps. He might be OK. Why not find out for sure?

[Trialbyfire]

Thanks ddl.

 

Let's see what Thursday night brings. He called again tonight. What a relentless flirt!

 

Haha...Story. But I'm sorry to say, you'll have to amend your casting. While he's very playful, there's nothing boyish about his exterior. He's all man! I have to laugh at myself a bit...well...quite a lot. Someone like him, really brings out the femininity in me.

 

High Plains Drifter, I'm going to take a chance. We're going out on Thursday. Let's see what he's made of.

[melodymatters]

This is WAY beter than any movie ! I won't condescend to give you, of all people advice, so just...have a blast !

 

...And DDL... you described the way I love to a T ! It's funny how we can be so different and yet so the same, we LS ladies !

 

Love you all, and thanks for the vicarious thrills TBF !