Author JoeNewbie Posted September 8, 2008 Author Posted September 8, 2008 Heck, reading, I thought you were already dating Nope we're not dating... Mind you I think it went further than many dates I've been on...
Author JoeNewbie Posted September 8, 2008 Author Posted September 8, 2008 Believe it or not, I got turned down. Oh well...
carhill Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 Oh, yeah, a johnson jiggler (aka ego feed).... Sorry to hear that....
flc Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 Believe it or not, I got turned down. Oh well... What counts is you gave it a shot. Sorry it didn't work out
Author JoeNewbie Posted September 8, 2008 Author Posted September 8, 2008 Totally unbelievable. I am shocked.
Lucky_One Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 Was it a "I wouldn't see you if you were the only other man on the earth besides George Bush" or was it "I can't bc I have other plans"?
Author JoeNewbie Posted September 8, 2008 Author Posted September 8, 2008 Was it a "I wouldn't see you if you were the only other man on the earth besides George Bush" or was it "I can't bc I have other plans"? It was the latter...
carhill Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 Ah, a parallel dater Hang tough, good things are coming....
Lucky_One Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 Well, if she had a legitimate excuse, why can't you ask her out again?
LionLover Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 Believe it or not, I got turned down. Oh well... Eh then tell her to go eat rocks or something. PS. Maybe you should have grabbed her tushy like you said. Geesh!
norajane Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 It was the latter... So why didn't you ask her when she'd be available to go out if she was busy on the day you suggested?
Author JoeNewbie Posted September 8, 2008 Author Posted September 8, 2008 Well, if she had a legitimate excuse, why can't you ask her out again? I don't know about the legitimate excuse part... I took it as she was not interested...
Author JoeNewbie Posted September 8, 2008 Author Posted September 8, 2008 So why didn't you ask her when she'd be available to go out if she was busy on the day you suggested? Well in my message I said "some time this week" and in her reply she simply said she's busy, offering no alternatives...
Lucky_One Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 We need more details than this. You were walking with a woman and nuzzling her ear at 3:00 am, and it was not a date. She did not seem to mind the nuzzle. She took your hand to cross the street. You asked her out, and she said no. What did you ask her to do? What did she say when she refused? What was her demeanor? How did you respond?
Author JoeNewbie Posted September 8, 2008 Author Posted September 8, 2008 We need more details than this. You were walking with a woman and nuzzling her ear at 3:00 am, and it was not a date. She did not seem to mind the nuzzle. She took your hand to cross the street. You asked her out, and she said no. What did you ask her to do? What did she say when she refused? What was her demeanor? How did you respond? She was definitely turned on by the nuzzling and actually asked for it. I sent her a message basically saying "it'd be nice to go for drinks and possibly some food this week - let me know when you are free". To which she replied "sorry I am swamped and can't make it".
Lucky_One Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 Good Lord, man. Haven't men learned anything from the women on here? If you want to ask her out, call her. WTF is it with this texting crap? And she didn't blow you off, like you were sort of implying. Later on, maybe Wednesday, give her a call at night, when she is off work. Say, "How goes it in the swamp? Have you gotten away from the gators enough to be able to go out to dinner Saturday night?" Be specific about what you want and when you want it. (And keep your mind out of the gutter). It's all about being made to feel that you want her personally - not that you want her electronically. After hearing her voice and listening to her reaction (when she has time to talk and answer, and when she isn't in the middle of a task, or when she doesn't have co-workers listening in), you can gauge if she is blowing you off completely or not, or if she simply is swamped "during the week for drinks or maybe some food". Good luck!
Author JoeNewbie Posted September 8, 2008 Author Posted September 8, 2008 If you want to ask her out, call her. WTF is it with this texting crap? Yeah I know the "rule" but all of the girlfriends I've dated were initially asked by e-mail. Of course, it's easier to decipher when the answer is "yes". Also, last two times she invited me somewhere she did it by e-mail. And since she's at work, I didn't want to call her.
norajane Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 Good Lord, man. Haven't men learned anything from the women on here? If you want to ask her out, call her. WTF is it with this texting crap? Exactly!! Actually, I'd take it even further. He's nuzzling with the girl...she's holding his hand...why didn't he ask her out when he was WITH her that night? Why didn't he take her home, kiss her goodnight, and ask when he could see her again?????
norajane Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 Yeah I know the "rule" but all of the girlfriends I've dated were initially asked by e-mail. Of course, it's easier to decipher when the answer is "yes". Also, last two times she invited me somewhere she did it by e-mail. And since she's at work, I didn't want to call her. SHE invited you out twice? Dude, you totally should have asked her out the night you were nuzzling.
Author JoeNewbie Posted September 8, 2008 Author Posted September 8, 2008 If she were interested in going out with me, I don't think the way I ask or when I ask really makes a difference. Do you? I'm surely disappointed but if a few days or a text message is enough to drive her interest away, then I guess she wasn't interested for starters.
norajane Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 Honestly, I hate texting and would hate for someone to ask me out on a text, as though a date with me is no more important than reminding someone to pick up milk at the store (which is what texting should be for, IMO). So, I'd kinda wish that a guy I liked would actually take the time to call me to ask. It's more fun that way. Texting is so impersonal. AND, it puts you in exactly the position you are now: hard to interpret the response.
Author JoeNewbie Posted September 8, 2008 Author Posted September 8, 2008 Honestly, I hate texting and would hate for someone to ask me out on a text, as though a date with me is no more important than reminding someone to pick up milk at the store (which is what texting should be for, IMO). So, I'd kinda wish that a guy I liked would actually take the time to call me to ask. It's more fun that way. Texting is so impersonal. AND, it puts you in exactly the position you are now: hard to interpret the response. I hear you. I guess I did it in a text message to leave her enough time to think about things without giving an immediate response. Also, since she has done it herself, I figured I could do the same.
carhill Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 I still say she's a johnson jiggler.... She gets a rise out of seeing him get a rise, then has no ability or interest in liftoff.... Dude, I'd move on. I call these dry hole ego feeders...... but, you can always listen to the ladies
Lucky_One Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Wait. She has asked you out twice, and you have never had a date? I thought we were in first date mode.
Author JoeNewbie Posted September 9, 2008 Author Posted September 9, 2008 Wait. She has asked you out twice, and you have never had a date? I thought we were in first date mode. No we were actually in party mode...
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