DunnoWhat Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 We all meet many people and go on many dates etc throughout our lives. Every so often we meet a person who feels just right to us. Doesn't matter about the details ie they may not be your ideal type etc but they feel right and you and them seem to be a certain fit. There is a deep understanding of each other in the relationship. I think that everybody gives off a different vibe and it's only when they meet a person with a similar vibe do real attraction occur. It may be soul mates destined to meet or maybe there's plenty of potential soul mates out there who knows. Has anybody any thoughts or stories or disagree? I'd like to hear some opinions thanks.
JoeNewbie Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 A soul mate can very quickly turn into disaster. I personally am careful of connections that seem too much too fast.
spookie Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 I totally believe in this concept. One part of me thinks the explanation of these strong connections is as simple as similar ways of thought, but that doesn't always explain how with people we form these connection, the attraction oftentimes is intense from the very beginning. That's how it's always been for me, anyway. I thought I was going to marry my ex the first time I saw him, and we ended up together almost immediately, and stayed in a relationship for three years. I'm willing to admit now that, despite all we had going for us, there were still some seriosus differences between us that would have never gotten bridged; which tore us apart. I was attracted to my current bf from the beginning as well, before I had even gotten to know him; it's been four months now and our bond keeps growing. I still perplexed how I "knew".
djhall Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 I think there is something to this, though I have no idea exactly what. There seems to be something we recognize in other people that we respond to that is more that just the objective details. To other people, a person is just an ordinary person, and we can see that when we look at them objectively, but at some gut level there is just soemthing more we see when we look at them that makes them special to us. No idea what it is though our how we sense it.
Jilly Bean Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 I have met and lived with my soul mate. When we first met, my reaction was very out of the norm. The norm being, "wow! cute guy! nice smile! sexy!". With this one, it was, "wow! where have you been? I've been waiting for you!" It was like running into someone that I knew wholly and completely, and share a perfect bond with, and that I hadn't seen in a REALLY long time. Losing him continues to be the single biggest regret in my life, as I know I will never again share a love like that. Still, I consider myself totally blessed that we knew each other in this lifetime, as most people search their whole lives for that kind of love and never find it. I know we'll be reunited in another life, and that gives me comfort.
Cobain82 Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 I personally do not believe in the concept of a soul mate. I think that, realistically, there are probably thousands and thousands of people out there that you could ultimately be very satisfied with live a content, happy life out with. We are compatible with some more than others, it's as simple as that.
flc Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 I believe that like most things emotions have a wide range from disinterest to obsessive. Generally it is best to stay to the right of the bell curve but not too far to the right. When you find someone that makes your heart beat faster and your breathing shallow and yet still feel completely comfortable with them that is a great thing... as long as it is bidirectional. If it is only working for one party then it becomes hell. All relationships are what you make them and they change over time like life so I just go for the ride and see where it takes me.
Author DunnoWhat Posted September 8, 2008 Author Posted September 8, 2008 I ask the question because it's not always logical why we are attracted to some people. We all have things we want and don't want when choosing a partner but sometimes somebody comes along and you feel something greater for them which is goes beyond the egos wants. It was like running into someone that I knew wholly and completely, and share a perfect bond with, and that I hadn't seen in a REALLY long time. Going beyond the ego, it's like meeting somebody you have always known. However the ego is still powerful and still wants certain things so this is why IMO alot of these relationships don't work out. There seems to be something we recognize in other people that we respond to that is more that just the objective details. To other people, a person is just an ordinary person, and we can see that when we look at them objectively, but at some gut level there is just soemthing more we see when we look at them that makes them special to us. No idea what it is though our how we sense it. There is truth to this. You can meet people and know quickly theres something about them. It's not the same feeling of meeting somebody who ticks all your (ego's) wants and needs ie a super model with a great personality. Maybe there are multiple soul mates out there for us or maybe the person we think are soul mates are just people has a similar vibe to yourself either way I'm convinced theres something to it and I'm also sure there is more to people then the bodies we are in.
geekinthepink Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 I don't beleive in soul mates, as we make so many decisions in our daily lives that the chances of missing this person are astronomical I also find that when 2 people get together and are attached at the hip immediately that the relationship is not healthy. I will use my ex as an example. While you may think I am biased since he is my ex, read on. So this guy Dave and I dated for 6 months and then were on and off for about a year. Towards the last 3 months of this year, he got back together with his ex-girlfriend. He called me almost daily complaining about how that was a mistake, but that he felt he had invested so much time he should just stay. I would listen and try my best to give him good advice (instead of you fool dump her and date me lol). Well I find out that he broke up with her on a Thursday. He and I make plans that day to hang out on Saturday. I get a call Friday night that he had to cancel, but no reason why. I shrug it off. I come to find out that he ended up "hooking up" with his best friends ex-girlfriend. His best friend and the girl also broke up on Thursday. They had been in a 7 year long relationship where they shared life insurance, cell phone bills etc. The girl is 3 years older than Dave (25 at the time), but this was her first "real relationship". She went from one long-term relationship to this monogamous thing with Dave. Her and Dave spent every waking moment together. THey ditched friends to hang out together. slightly under a year later they were married. I HOPE they work out, I really do, but I don't see it happening because both jumped from one relationship to another with no break in between to find themselves. Neither speak to many of the friends they had prior to their relationship for spending time alone or with their family. He says they are soulmates, but I see her as the girl who needed him at the right time.
spookie Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 I have met and lived with my soul mate. When we first met, my reaction was very out of the norm. The norm being, "wow! cute guy! nice smile! sexy!". With this one, it was, "wow! where have you been? I've been waiting for you!" It was like running into someone that I knew wholly and completely, and share a perfect bond with, and that I hadn't seen in a REALLY long time. Losing him continues to be the single biggest regret in my life, as I know I will never again share a love like that. Still, I consider myself totally blessed that we knew each other in this lifetime, as most people search their whole lives for that kind of love and never find it. I know we'll be reunited in another life, and that gives me comfort. Yup. It's exactly like that. I wish I could feel so cheery about missing mine. He haunts me in my dreams.
Author DunnoWhat Posted September 8, 2008 Author Posted September 8, 2008 I have met and lived with my soul mate. When we first met, my reaction was very out of the norm. The norm being, "wow! cute guy! nice smile! sexy!". With this one, it was, "wow! where have you been? I've been waiting for you!" It was like running into someone that I knew wholly and completely, and share a perfect bond with, and that I hadn't seen in a REALLY long time. Losing him continues to be the single biggest regret in my life, as I know I will never again share a love like that. Still, I consider myself totally blessed that we knew each other in this lifetime, as most people search their whole lives for that kind of love and never find it. I know we'll be reunited in another life, and that gives me comfort. How did you lose him if you don't mind me asking? He says they are soulmates, but I see her as the girl who needed him at the right time. Time will tell what happens there. I don't beleive in soul mates, as we make so many decisions in our daily lives that the chances of missing this person are astronomical I also find that when 2 people get together and are attached at the hip immediately that the relationship is not healthy. But you believe in chance and luck I don't!! Do you know what the law of attraction is? Well basically if you study it and quantum physics they basically say that mind can control matter. In other words you can attract people and experiances into your life.
Rooster_DAR Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Soul mates don't exist, they're a fig newton of your imagination. Seriously people, there is no magic force out there that has a certain person picked out for us, it's all about picking the person you are attracted to and most compatible with. The conception of Soul Mates is just another human instinct to believe there are forces higher than ourselves guiding our lives. Even with luck on your side, there is no guarantee your going to stay with your so called "Soul Mate" forever. Cheers!
Jilly Bean Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 How did you lose him if you don't mind me asking? I left him. Biggest bonehead move of my entire life.
lino Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 I do believe in soul mates and while I can't be sure, I feel I've even been involved with 2 girls who I thought of as my soul mates. Unfortunately they didn't think of me in that way even in the slightest I'm almost certain there is no woman out there who will ever see me as their soul mate...which is just so sad
paddington bear Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 http://www.jfinternational.com/psy/soul-mates.html Ok it's a bit new-agey, but I think it about sums it up...interesting point that we're all looking for that unconditional love that our parents gave us, but that it is highly unlikely to find in a romantic relationship
Mako482 Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 The simple fact is there is something that draws two particular people together more than others. If you haven't experienced this maybe you just don't know what it is we are talking about. I don't believe in one "soul mate", but there is no doubt something magical that happens to two people connect in a special way from the start, it all just feels right. It is my belief this comes form the very core of us, the only thing that screws it up is the rat race we are living in today's society, outside problems are usually what end this type of relationship.
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