FLOWERSTARS Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 My bf just finished our 5 year relationship 3 weeks ago. We were speaking of marriage previously. I am really upset because I think he found someone else which had a role to play in his decision, although I doubt it was the sole reason. Our relationship was the kind in which we never held one another back or expected the other to pander to our own insecurities, although we would point out suggestion if we felt it necessary. It was a relationship of two wholes and not two halves. I felt it to be the healthiest relationship I ever had. I can see that I also extend this to his current journey and I do not wish to hold him back in any way at all. I love him. I am upset because I am uncertain to find another so mature as he is. He has been very honest during the break up, but I also know that he would feel it to be pointless to answer too many questions at this point. He wants to be kind, and so he is not contacting me, and that is fine, it is his decision. I miss him ALOT, but I cannot be friends at the moment and he being as sensible as he is knows this without my saying so. I'm not sure what i am asking for, but thankyou for listening.
sacg Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 I wish I had the composure and outlook on this as you have. you seem really at ease and in total acceptance. That can only be a good thing, you are lucky.
tealeafbud Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Flowerstars, stay strong, stay at peace, and use the time to improve yourself. Take time to grieve and know that the LS community will be here for any venting, questions, comments and any support you have or need. All of us on LS are from different background and have different situations, but one thing is certain, we try and help each other out unconditionally, and although we have our differences, we all try and help each other out.
CherishG Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 I truly admire how positive you are taking this whole thing. I wish I had as much of your positive vibe than what I'm going thru right now. I wish you luck and hope you find the answer and the light at the end of the tunnel.
Author FLOWERSTARS Posted September 9, 2008 Author Posted September 9, 2008 Thankyou all. I actually feel very unhappy and not very positive at all. I contacted him last night and of course there isn't anything to talk about because he doesn't want to hurt me by talking about what he is doing and I haven't been doing anything but pining. I have ordered alot of self help books and have plans of hibernation. Thanks again all.
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