sweetbutcheeky Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Do you smoke and if so does it effect your dating/relationship? When your dating and the other sex finds out are they turned off? Or care at all? Personally would prefer to meet someone who doesn't, mainly because I am allergic and can't breath around it. But also the smell and kissing a smoker is just plain gross.
D-Lish Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 I smoke sproadically- and I hide it. I brush and rinse with hydrogen peroxide... no one ever knows I am a smoker unless I light up.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 7, 2008 Author Posted September 7, 2008 I'm sure the smell in your hair and clothes would still be noticeable.
Shygirl15 Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 I smoke sproadically- and I hide it. I brush and rinse with hydrogen peroxide... no one ever knows I am a smoker unless I light up. Believe me non-smokers around you can definitely tell you have been smoking. I once dated someone who lied he's not a smoker, and would go through all that hydrogen peroxide thing before meeting up with me, I dumped him soon after I realized he's a smoker. I would never date a smoker. Infact, I hear men who smokes a lot are likely to have erectile dysfunction.
citizen67 Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Tomorrow it will be one year since I quit smoking. I smoked for over 25 years, so it was a big deal to quit. I can't date smokers- I am not judgmental about it, because I totally understand why people do it, but I cannot be around it.
Bells Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Do you smoke and if so does it effect your dating/relationship? When your dating and the other sex finds out are they turned off? Or care at all? Personally would prefer to meet someone who doesn't, mainly because I am allergic and can't breath around it. But also the smell and kissing a smoker is just plain gross. It doesn't affect my dating or relationships...because it's a deal breaker for me.
Tony T Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Tomorrow it will be one year since I quit smoking. I smoked for over 25 years, so it was a big deal to quit. I can't date smokers- I am not judgmental about it, because I totally understand why people do it, but I cannot be around it. Congratulations on your quitting smoking after 25 years. You gave yourself a ticket to a longer life. I think smoking is a deal breaker for a LOT of people. Kissing an ash tray is not most people's idea of a grand evening.
Mahatma Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Do you smoke and if so does it effect your dating/relationship? When your dating and the other sex finds out are they turned off? Or care at all? Personally would prefer to meet someone who doesn't, mainly because I am allergic and can't breath around it. But also the smell and kissing a smoker is just plain gross. I do not smoke, and I would NEVER date a woman who did.
2sunny Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 yes i smoke. i need to quit. my smoking is designed to keep men at bay... :lmao: ooohie... ya, can you see i'm in conflict with myself? that protective barrier? must i get rid of it? grrrr ya, i need to quit...
blind_otter Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 I smoked for 12 years before quitting - it was very hard to quit, but I had to. My Dad died of lung cancer 2 years ago this October. My S/O continued to smoke for a few months after I quit, but I am convinced my reaction to his smoking nmotivated him to quit - I wouldn't kiss him after he smoked and insisted that he change at least his shirt after indulging in a cigarette. I also made him smoke outside of the house, not just on the back porch - outside. I think after having to go to all that trouble to enjoy a cigarette he finally relented and quit himself. Thank God.
Trialbyfire Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 I've never smoked but have dated/was married to assorted men who enjoyed the odd cigar with the boys. Beyond that, I couldn't date a consistent and/or heavy smoker, especially one who insists on smoking indoors. The odd cigarette with a drink, possibly, probably not, since it would concern me that it might become an addictive habit.
Shygirl15 Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Blind Otter and Citizen67: Wow, congratulations you guys, such a big step you have taken and successfully accomplished. All best best in your new smoke free life!
xpaperxcutx Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 My ex was a smoker. I didn't mind at first until he got me to smoke with him. I ditched him and I haven't picked up a cigarette since. So now everytime I see a cigarette, I'm reminded of him, and I get totally turned off. One of the best things to happen. And I will never consider dating another guy who smokes.
shockandawed Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 I would never date a smoker. Infact, I hear men who smokes a lot are likely to have erectile dysfunction. I only smoke when I drink or take Viagra.
flc Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 I generally don't date women that smoke but I have gone out with someone who was a sporadic smoker. She maybe smoked a couple a day at most and she knew I didn't like it so she never smoked when she was with me. At this level it did not bother me because I could not smell it in her hair clothes or home and she made sure it was not on her breath. I am sure it was tough on her and I feel for people that smoke, it is a bad addiction but I hate the smell and taste.
LionLover Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 I smoke and I generally don't like to come right out and say "yes I smoke" because people who don't smoke are put off by it & I rather someone not judge me for smoking & rule me out just because I smoke.
spookie Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 I smoke weed, does that count? It doesn't do anything good for my relationships either. Smoking together became one of the only things my ex and I ever did together, and led to the downfall of that R. My current BF doesn't smoke and I know it bothers him that I do, though he accepts it. I wouldn't date someone who smoked cigarettes. That's like setting yourself up with someone you know is going to die way too early.
trubella Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 i did a thread similar to this not too long ago. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t161580/?highlight=smokers he still smokes but lately hes been doing a good job of hiding the smell. he says he quits but that usually last a day or two because of *stress* from work.
portcitykitty Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 I'm a non-smoker, and the last guy I dated smoked, and it sucked! I didn't enjoy kissing him at all! I didn't really enjoy being around him much anyway because he would light up around me and nearly kill me with the smoke! But the guy I'm dating now doesn't smoke, thank God, and it's soooooooooooooooooooooooo much more enjoyable!
Lizzie60 Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Nope.. cause I won't date a smoker.. this is a turn-off and an absolute deal breaker for me.. I just celebrated my 15th smoke-free anniversary on Aug. 31st..
daphne Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 I won't date a smoker, because I had always intended to quit. However, I smoked for 13 years. It's not a judgement thing. But now that I've quit, I don't need any more temptation. On the other hand, even though my girlfriends say I'm single because I was a smoker, it has never affected men approaching me. The last 2 guys I dated hated my smoking, one being a tree hugging vegan. They both did their best to get me to quit, and I did for a time with one til I realized he was stressing me out and we broke up anyway. Long term it was obvious that I would have had to quit if either relationship had worked out.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 8, 2008 Author Posted September 8, 2008 I smoke weed, does that count? It doesn't do anything good for my relationships either. Smoking together became one of the only things my ex and I ever did together, and led to the downfall of that R. My current BF doesn't smoke and I know it bothers him that I do, though he accepts it. I wouldn't date someone who smoked cigarettes. That's like setting yourself up with someone you know is going to die way too early. How is smoking anything any better? Never mind killing brain cells? Still going to die sooner or be brain dead. Yes it does count, smells and I'm sure doesn't taste great to kiss any smoker.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 8, 2008 Author Posted September 8, 2008 Congrats to all of those who quit!!!
spookie Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 How is smoking anything any better? Never mind killing brain cells? Still going to die sooner or be brain dead. Yes it does count, smells and I'm sure doesn't taste great to kiss any smoker. I've kissed weed smokers and cig smokers and weed breath isn't bad and it doesn't linger. IMO. Also if you do any research you'd know that it's not harmful and doens't kill brain cells, like alcohol, for example.
spookie Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 How is smoking anything any better? Never mind killing brain cells? Still going to die sooner or be brain dead. Yes it does count, smells and I'm sure doesn't taste great to kiss any smoker. Also, I work in life insurance where we use pretty accurate mortality tables to determine how much to charge whom. Use of marijuana doens't even come up in underwriting, wheras tobacco smokers must pay about twice as much premium for the same coverage, cause the probability distribution of when they will die is so much worse.
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