MalachiX Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Ok, for a while I've decided to do the nice guy thing because I've felt rather guilty over my previous relationships and I'd just like to have a solid period in my life where I sincerely acted like a nice guy (it's totally for selfish reasons, to avoid guilt, but it's something). What I've discovered sadly is that female friends now seem to ask me permission to cheat on their BFs and that's just weird. Four years ago a female friend of mine did a similar thing but that made sense since I was trying to set her up with another friend of mine because her current BF was an abusive/cheating jerk. Now it's just weird. Twice I've seen a female friend of mine who's casually dating someone hang out with another guy and then come up to me and say, "what should I do? I know I'm kind of with [poor smuch's name here] but [sexier younger model's name here] is really cute and I think he likes me." Why do they ask me? It's not like I know anything about relationships.
xpaperxcutx Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Maybe they knew about you cheating before and they wanted your expertise on the subject.
xxxicklexxx Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 maybe they ask you because they want your genuine opinion cause your a nice guy XD.
Trialbyfire Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Think back, way back to childhood. When asking permission for something from your parents, which parent did you go to? The one who you felt would say yes or the one who you felt would say no? This type of behaviour doesn't change into adulthood. People want to be validated when they choose a path that they know is ethically or morally wrong. As is expected, they typically look for the person who will agree or validate them.
Author MalachiX Posted September 7, 2008 Author Posted September 7, 2008 Think back, way back to childhood. When asking permission for something from your parents, which parent did you go to? The one who you felt would say yes or the one who you felt would say no? This type of behaviour doesn't change into adulthood. People want to be validated when they choose a path that they know is ethically or morally wrong. As is expected, they typically look for the person who will agree or validate them. That would have made sense four years ago since, as I said, her current BF was an abusive jerk but not now. I've always been very down on cheating (save for the above example) and most of my female friends know that (when I say I'm not a nice guy, I mean that I'm self absorbed [obviously] and not good at relationships, not that I screw around when I'm dating someone). The last two times these girls have asked, I've said they should be talking to their BF rather than me. I understand what you're saying but I don't see why they'd think I'd validate their desire to screw around.
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