Jensen Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Hey guys, there is a situation that I need some help with. There is a new girl that works at the front desk of the gym I go to nearly every day. She has to scan my card before I can get in the gym, so I have to pass by her every time I walk in the door. I saw her for the first time about two weeks ago, and I only see her on Fridays and Saturdays. She's very cute and friendly, and she looks like she's about my age (I'm 23, by the way). I would like to gradually start talking to her and if she seems interesting, eventually ask her out ... but there is a small problem: I am not afraid of rejection in most cases; however, what I AM afraid of is talking to this girl, asking her out, and being rejected in the gym I've gone to for the last six years where I am friends with nearly everyone that works out there, along with some of the employees. Awkward would be an understatement. How do I get over this unnecessary fear? Or is it justified? I'm normally pretty confident when it comes to talking to women, and I usually have no problem striking up conversations with people, but there is just something about this girl that has me stumped ... and mute. I don't do pick-up lines or any other cheesy bull**** like "I know you from somewhere" or "did you go to such and such school, because you look familiar to me." I hate that stuff. Besides, an intelligent woman can smell that non-sense a mile away. I guess my problem is that I have no idea how to start talking to her without sounding cheesy or completely obvious. When she's scanning my card, she says "Hey! What's going on?", but that's what they all say ... it's their job. I know my opportunity is there when she says that, but I'm just not sure how to continue it. Any advice? By the way, I've asked the friends of mine that are employees there if they know her or know anything about her, and they didn't even know she had started working there. They work in the actual gym and don't see many of the other employees in the building, so they aren't much help in this situation.
D-Lish Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Well, tell your friends to get the scoop! They work there- so they can if they really want to. maybe it has to be one of those situations where your friend tells her "My friend is interested in you"... and go from there. I imagine it's a big gym. Yes- front desk people are supposed to be friendly, it's a part of the job. Picking up any indications of eye contact or prolonged smiles??? My gf dated a guy for 3 years that simply walked up to out table while we were eating dinner one night and handed her his card. he said "I think you are super cute and would love to take you out sometime, so call me" he wasn't a super model- just an average joe- but she was so impressed she called- and they dated for quite some time. it's all about attraction- even they are attracted or they are not- so you have to figure out if you are ok with rejection or not. BUT- given her position, and the fact that she is hot- she may get hit on often. So- you have to make yourself stand out from the crowd. What makes you a better salesperson than the last guy that hit on her? That's what it's about- selling yourself... How might you do that? quote=Jensen;1827391]Hey guys, there is a situation that I need some help with. There is a new girl that works at the front desk of the gym I go to nearly every day. She has to scan my card before I can get in the gym, so I have to pass by her every time I walk in the door. I saw her for the first time about two weeks ago, and I only see her on Fridays and Saturdays. She's very cute and friendly, and she looks like she's about my age (I'm 23, by the way). I would like to gradually start talking to her and if she seems interesting, eventually ask her out ... but there is a small problem: I am not afraid of rejection in most cases; however, what I AM afraid of is talking to this girl, asking her out, and being rejected in the gym I've gone to for the last six years where I am friends with nearly everyone that works out there, along with some of the employees. Awkward would be an understatement. How do I get over this unnecessary fear? Or is it justified? I'm normally pretty confident when it comes to talking to women, and I usually have no problem striking up conversations with people, but there is just something about this girl that has me stumped ... and mute. I don't do pick-up lines or any other cheesy bull**** like "I know you from somewhere" or "did you go to such and such school, because you look familiar to me." I hate that stuff. Besides, an intelligent woman can smell that non-sense a mile away. I guess my problem is that I have no idea how to start talking to her without sounding cheesy or completely obvious. When she's scanning my card, she says "Hey! What's going on?", but that's what they all say ... it's their job. I know my opportunity is there when she says that, but I'm just not sure how to continue it. Any advice? By the way, I've asked the friends of mine that are employees there if they know her or know anything about her, and they didn't even know she had started working there. They work in the actual gym and don't see many of the other employees in the building, so they aren't much help in this situation.
Balthazar Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 She's very cute and friendly, and she looks like she's about my age (I'm 23, by the way). I would like to gradually start talking to her and if she seems interesting, eventually ask her out ... but there is a small problem: I am not afraid of rejection in most cases; however, what I AM afraid of is talking to this girl, asking her out, and being rejected in the gym I've gone to for the last six years where I am friends with nearly everyone that works out there, along with some of the employees. Awkward would be an understatement. How do I get over this unnecessary fear? Or is it justified? I don't do pick-up lines or any other cheesy bull**** like "I know you from somewhere" or "did you go to such and such school, because you look familiar to me." I hate that stuff. Besides, an intelligent woman can smell that non-sense a mile away. I guess my problem is that I have no idea how to start talking to her without sounding cheesy or completely obvious. When she's scanning my card, she says "Hey! What's going on?", but that's what they all say ... it's their job. I know my opportunity is there when she says that, but I'm just not sure how to continue it. Any advice? By the way, I've asked the friends of mine that are employees there if they know her or know anything about her, and they didn't even know she had started working there. They work in the actual gym and don't see many of the other employees in the building, so they aren't much help in this situation. This is a usual problem and I would echo D's advice. Your friends may be able to give you some info on her, however, you will also show your interest and in effect, reveal some of your cards. You could go that way; I'm just not sure I would. I wouldn't use a pick up line either; I would try to start conversation with her directly. I would try to do this by ,possibly, wearing something out of the ordinary(she might comment on it) or just striking up conversation on some sort of relevant topic. All it takes is a few minutes of conversation and the ice has been broken. Another idea is to go to the gym with a friend, and walk up to her while having some sort of lively conversation. You could then turn to her and ask her for advice on an opinion about what you and your friend were talking about. A bit more devious, but all's fair in love and war. After that, just a few sessions of chit-chat, and you ask her out. If she has interest, she won't make things very difficult for you. CHeers,
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