hieu Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Nothing good ever comes from it, correct? Whether it is flirting, arguing, whatever. The girl is always right, right? Or am I wrong?
D-Lish Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 The girl is only right 100% of the time if her guy's a pussy...
Nemo Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Why is this so important to you? Do you have a small tool?
Author hieu Posted September 7, 2008 Author Posted September 7, 2008 So calling a girl out can be a good thing if used at the appropriate time and in an appropriate manner?
Nemo Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Appropriate? What makes you think you have the balls to do that?
Storyrider Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Are you talking about a political debate or a personal argument, or what?
Author hieu Posted September 7, 2008 Author Posted September 7, 2008 You're wrong. In more ways than one. Thanks. And I meant in general, no specific situation. For future reference as such. The girl is only right 100% of the time if her guy's a pussy... Got it. Why is this so important to you? Do you have a small tool? Yes! 2 INCHES ROCK HARD! As for having the balls... My magic 8-ball will tell me when the appropriate time is, obviously.
Nemo Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Cool, so what does your magic 8-ball say? http://m8ball.nicksoft.info/
D-Lish Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Always challenge your mate's bad behaviour.... always. If you don't- you set the precedence that you can be walked all over. Unless you want to be in a submissive role (some guys like that and it's okay).... Reward the good behaviour....but never reward the bad behaviour. Yes- stick up for yourself.... I lovingly appreciate that quality in a guy.
Nemo Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Reward the good behaviour....but never reward the bad behaviour. Just like training a dog, really.
djhall Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Always challenge your mate's bad behaviour.... always. If you don't- you set the precedence that you can be walked all over. Unless you want to be in a submissive role (some guys like that and it's okay).... Reward the good behaviour....but never reward the bad behaviour. Yes- stick up for yourself.... I lovingly appreciate that quality in a guy. Yes, but sticking up for yourself does not mean being a jerk! Set reasonable limits, be clear about them, and then be firm about sticking to them. When the other person tries to push them: 1) Take a deep breath, calm yourself down, and don't talk about you. 2) Listen and try to understand until they are done talking. 3) Say, "I understand you... (repeat what they told you in #1). Am I correct in understanding you?" 4) If necessary, repeat from #2. 5) If appropriate, express sympathy for their position and/or regret that you cannot accomodate it. 6) Now you can finally talk about you. Simply restate your limits gently but firmly. 5) Repeat from #1 as many times as necessary. Eventually, the other person will get the point that you are not going to let yourself be pushed around and you aren't goint to let them drag you into an argument, a fight, or a bunch of drama about it either.
Storyrider Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Yes, but sticking up for yourself does not mean being a jerk! Set reasonable limits, be clear about them, and then be firm about sticking to them. When the other person tries to push them: 1) Take a deep breath, calm yourself down, and don't talk about you. 2) Listen and try to understand until they are done talking. 3) Say, "I understand you... (repeat what they told you in #1). Am I correct in understanding you?" 4) If necessary, repeat from #2. 5) If appropriate, express sympathy for their position and/or regret that you cannot accomodate it. 6) Now you can finally talk about you. Simply restate your limits gently but firmly. 5) Repeat from #1 as many times as necessary. Eventually, the other person will get the point that you are not going to let yourself be pushed around and you aren't goint to let them drag you into an argument, a fight, or a bunch of drama about it either. Wow, such a thorough answer. He's really getting his money's worth on this one.
Nemo Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Wow, such a thorough answer. He's really getting his money's worth on this one. Agreed. I can't decide which 5) I like better.
Storyrider Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Yes, but sticking up for yourself does not mean being a jerk! Set reasonable limits, be clear about them, and then be firm about sticking to them. When the other person tries to push them: 1) Take a deep breath, calm yourself down, and don't talk about you. 2) Listen and try to understand until they are done talking. 3) Say, "I understand you... (repeat what they told you in #1). Am I correct in understanding you?" 4) If necessary, repeat from #2. 5) If appropriate, express sympathy for their position and/or regret that you cannot accomodate it. 6) Now you can finally talk about you. Simply restate your limits gently but firmly. 5) Repeat from #1 as many times as necessary. Eventually, the other person will get the point that you are not going to let yourself be pushed around and you aren't goint to let them drag you into an argument, a fight, or a bunch of drama about it either. I'm quoting it one more time, just to make sure.
D-Lish Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Yes, but sticking up for yourself does not mean being a jerk! Set reasonable limits, be clear about them, and then be firm about sticking to them. When the other person tries to push them: 1) Take a deep breath, calm yourself down, and don't talk about you. 2) Listen and try to understand until they are done talking. 3) Say, "I understand you... (repeat what they told you in #1). Am I correct in understanding you?" 4) If necessary, repeat from #2. 5) If appropriate, express sympathy for their position and/or regret that you cannot accomodate it. 6) Now you can finally talk about you. Simply restate your limits gently but firmly. 5) Repeat from #1 as many times as necessary. Eventually, the other person will get the point that you are not going to let yourself be pushed around and you aren't goint to let them drag you into an argument, a fight, or a bunch of drama about it either. lol. The best way to deal with drama is to walk away...
djhall Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Agreed. I can't decide which 5) I like better. I gotta remember to proofread again after editing stuff.
djhall Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 lol. The best way to deal with drama is to walk away... Serial drama, drama, or just run of the mill stuff? Sure, I'll walk away from someone who is always pushing, whining, and making everything into a drama fest. But regular stuff or occasional drama?
Storyrider Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 I gotta remember to proofread again after editing stuff. I thought maybe you were trying to send him into an infinite loop, so he'd get stuck in the argument forever.
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