ladyintights Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 My ex has been remarried now for over 2 years and we have been seeing eachother again. We have children together and he regrets his new marriage and their child ( she went off of birth control without him knowing to get knocked up). During our marriage, it was blissful but he was stashing and hiding money away, suffering from gambling and spending afflictions. I finally left him because I couldn't handle the stress anymore. Our children were suffering and he was gone most nights. After I left him, he turned himself around until some lady got him into trouble and now this is where we are. We both work from home and his wife has a conventional job so we are able to see eachother during the day while she's working and our children are in school/daycare! Sometimes we go on dates as well after 10 (the first real romantic dates since before our marriage)! I don't know if he will leave her and frankly don't care because this has been the most excitement and fun I've had in years; I have the freedom of independence and I get to have some of him on the side as well. For some reason, this doesn't seem so bad since we've slept together before and his wife accepted that. Yes it is wrong, but it doesn't seem that bad knowing that his marriage is a complete farse brought on by a gold-digger! I'm wondering how many other women are still having sexual relationships with their exes, even if taken or remarried and how to illicit a little extra excitement given the circumstances. Am I worried the other woman will find out? No, it doesn't matter to me and it's starting to appear that my ex doesn't either, his actions are so reckless at times!
2sunny Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 i was married for 20 years. no i haven't had sex with my xH since we ended things. that was 3 years ago. physically he was one of the most attractive men i have ever seen. do i intend to cross my line of decency and boundaries of integrity i have for myself for selfish pleasure? no - i would never cross my personal boundaries. i wouldn't like myself very much if i did.
LifesontheUp Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 ( she went off of birth control without him knowing to get knocked up). After I left him, he turned himself around until some lady got him into trouble and now this is where we are. Yes it is wrong, but it doesn't seem that bad knowing that his marriage is a complete farse brought on by a gold-digger! Was with my xH for 18 years and we broke up for good reasons just over 5 yrs ago. Would never go back there and definitely never lower my standards and become an OW. Sounds to me you are resentful of his wife. You are believing all he has told you about her, which may very well be false, just so he can get back into your knickers. You sound carried away with the exitement you are feeling by sneeking around. I have a feeling you would love his wife to find out. Is this the sort of behaviour you want your kids to find out about?
Mr. Lucky Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 ( she went off of birth control without him knowing to get knocked up). but it doesn't seem that bad knowing that his marriage is a complete farse brought on by a gold-digger! What's that old line about the difference between his version, her version and the truth ? You seem more supportive of him as his ex-wife than you were as his spouse... Mr. Lucky
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