JoeNewbie Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Some people are, by nature, more touchy feely than others. A tap on the arm or shoulder is rather common. A tap on the hand is a bit more intimate. And a tap on your lap is even more intimate, IMO. In general, what do you consider CASUAL touchy feely, versus SEXUAL toucy feely?
BannaBee57 Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 I don't think there is such thing as "casual touchy-feely" I don't touch someone unless I am close with them. Like family, SO, or very close friends. Touching someone of the opposite sex usually implies a certain intimacy, usually, flirty or sexual. Unless of course they are consoling you. Any unnecessary touching on a date is usually a good sign IMO.
Trialbyfire Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Casual touch can be either flirtatious or impersonal. The arm and back are safe zones. The knee is flirtatious and the hand can easily be construed as flirtatious. For example, if I'm on the first few dates, it's not uncommon for a man to put his hand behind my back or to cup my elbow, to direct me. It's a courteous gesture, more than an intimate gesture. If he puts his arm around my waist or shoulders, these are more possessive or intimate gestures. A touch on the arm can just be to get your attention. Taking your hand is more intimate. There are so many permeatations of this, including the strength and type of touch.
Nemo Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 I'm a big fan of a gentle rub of the butt, as a simple, yet friendly, gesture. It's just like hello, except that it crosses all language barriers.
the_blur Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 I'm a big fan of a gentle rub of the butt, as a simple, yet friendly, gesture. It's just like hello, except that it crosses all language barriers. I'm totally onboard with this. +1
rod_in_gtown Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 I have this female friend at work who is getting married this weekend. She's a rower, VERY funny and has become very quickly one of my close friends. We argue and give each other a hard time like an old married couple and she's touchy-feely with me. To the point when leaving her office one day she gave me a slap in the butt. And to be honest, I LOVED it. For some reason I don't feel it's neither sexual nor inappropriate but I'm sure a lot of people would have a problem with it.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 I think the big issue here is figuring out whether the person you are with enjoys being touched in public or not. I am NOT a touchy feely person, but that doesn't mean that a rub on the shoulders or something is wrong. It is probably very right for some people.
Balthazar Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 I'm a big fan of a gentle rub of the butt, as a simple, yet friendly, gesture. It's just like hello, except that it crosses all language barriers. Welcome back!
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