What does it mean when a man texts you after hanging out "I had a good time with you"

[Hopelessly_Devoted]

I do not want a relationship with him but I was a bit worried that although he says one thing sometimes he says another. And between the condom counting and his text last night, I am getting a bit worried.

 

I did try and call him but he did not answer, I left a message. Let's see what he has to say when he calls back.

[Walk]

How long have you been seeing this guy? All you said was you met him online and saw him 3 times this week. Sounds like you've only seen this guy 3 times, and already he's counting condoms and making remarks about you dating other guys.

 

So... how many times have you seen him, and how long have you two know each other?

[vonerik012]

The counting condoms is obviously some kind of joke.. Harmless.. The guy is having some fun, and she is too. When he is in the mood he will come back to see you, or call you. Maybe late at night, or when he has the urge for sex.

[Hopelessly_Devoted]

we have been speaking for like 2 weeks and have seen eachother 3 times in the last week.

 

So its only when the man wants it? damn what about me?!

[vonerik012]

Well, text him for sex and see what happens.. My bet is he will just come up with an excuse, until he is ready and wants it.

[xpaperxcutx]

we have been speaking for like 2 weeks and have seen eachother 3 times in the last week.

So its only when the man wants it? damn what about me?!

 

Do you have to ask? When it comes to sex, guys are mindless drones until they're all worn out, then they'll just want to get away from the girl as far as possible.

 

The whole text thing is getting kind of childish, have you considered picking up your phone and actually dialing out a number?

 

I think this guy has a little control issue. It seems like he's trying to play the field, with the whole " I had fun tonight", but clearly trying too hard to get the upper hand. He doesn't want a relationship with you but he's a bit controlling with the condom issue and the asking you whether you're dating someone else.

[Hopelessly_Devoted]

He does seem to have a Napoleon complex. He is 5'4, my height maybe even 5'3 1/2.

 

But he is such a great lover... and has a great personality, very nice and we enjoy spending time together...so we will see....he said let's just go with the flow

[Shygirl15]

I find short men to be very insecure.

[Green]

theres no such thing as napolean dynamite complex

[Cherry Blossom 35]

Whaaaaaa......? You are dating Napolean Dynamite?

[xpaperxcutx]

Whaaaaaa......? You are dating Napolean Dynamite?

:lmao::lmao:

 

See, that movie ruins everything.

 

No, she meant Napoleon Bonaparte. He was short but he was one of the most famous dictators in history.

[Cherry Blossom 35]

I know she meant the original Napolean, I was just kidding

[LionLover]

What does it mean when a man texts you after hanging out "I had a good time with you"

 

It means he had a good time with you. Nothing more, nothing less.

 

Actions actions actions.

[Hopelessly_Devoted]

we did talk an d he said to me he feels insecure about the fact that I am datin, mind you so is he...and when he is here guys are calling he feels I give my number to anyone which is not true only him and 33 other guys have my number. I am only interested in him and another guy...like him I am trying to see who I would long term with and we both understand...

 

 

So I feel like he does have a complex and is scared based on what he tells me. He says we have a connection based on what he experienced with his ex. I am seeing the other guy I like tonight and tomorrow night him...juat wanted to update everyone ....

[Jilly Bean]

Whaaaaaa......? You are dating Napolean Dynamite?

 

Sounds more like Vern Troyer.

[Citizen Erased]

Sounds more like Vern Troyer.

 

 

Actually Napoleon was not short. He was about average height for the time.

 

I should so be on myth busters.

[2sunny]

ok then - tomorrow when you see him- don't have sex with him.

 

see how the evening goes and your interaction when the sex is left out of the mix.

 

is he taking you out? do not just stay in again - even if you take a long walk to get ice cream or something. make it perfectly clear that you are not just his sex toy. if he asks to come over - maybe tell him that you'll be at a certain place and he can just make plans for the evening and meet him there (meaning "oh i'll be downtown until 6pm so we could meet up close to there - pick a spot"). see what he comes up with - it will tell you what his intentions are.

 

he needs to be making an effort to "date" you - if not, then you are just his little sex buddy for when he's in the mood.

[Hopelessly_Devoted]

Ok I am going to give that a try and risk rejection but we'll see by his answer....we talked on the phone for 2 hours and he was trying to get me to understand where he is coming from and I unertsand and at least we have been honest with eachother...I will ask hi to go for a walk with him and see what he says! I will let everyoone know what happens! Thank you all for the support!

[FormerNiceGuy]

I am 25 he is 32. We met on a dating site and already saw each other 3 times this week. We are both still dating others, well he is I am still looking for th sake f not getting rejection. His last relationship and my last relationship was horrible, she treated him bad and my ex treated me bad. He and I discussed taking it slow and seeing where it leads but we do know that we enjoy spending time with each other. He also told me he has his guard up.

 

We have not gone out on a "real" date. We just watch movies at my apartment and he sleeps over. So after he left today about an hour later he texts me "I had a good time with you". I responded to him via text me too, "i can't wait to see you again" he did not respond. When I read the message I thought it was good but after I got no response then I felt like it was bad. What do you think he meant or am I reading way too much into it?

 

it just means he had a great time.

 

Call him up if you want more feedback.