Bells Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 There's this woman I'm starting to see...getting ready for a 2nd date with her. Should I ask her if she dates multiple guys at once...or just one guy at a time. I know of alot of woman that say they want to see how things go with he only ONE guy they are seeing. At least in most cases. But the woman I'm seeing, considering how attractive she really is, if she does multiple date...she would indeed have a full dance card. At any rate, if we get to start talking about dating habits, should I ask her if she juggles more than one guy at a time? In my case, I don't get many opportunities to date MANY women at one time...so my opportunities are few and far between.
yongyong Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Do you expect honest answer if she really does that? it will only make you look needy
girlygirl25 Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Hmm, I kind of agree with Yongyong that you shouldn't ask her that after only 1 date. It could make you sound a little insecure I think. Let me ask you something: do YOU multi-date? You didn't really say how you felt about the issue or how you would feel it she DID tell you she sees other people. At any rate, I think after a few more dates that conversation might be more appropriate. My advice is to just enjoy the 2nd date and see where it goes!
Star Gazer Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 I think the answer to this question should always be assumed (YES), even if it's not accurate. To ask would be to imply that you expect exclusivity already. Don't ask.
Lauriebell82 Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 I agree with the other posters that are saying it would be too soon to ask that kind of question. Maybe a few dates from now. I am curious how you feel about it as well. Would you still date if she WAS seeing other people?
flc Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Add another vote to don't ask. Too early to have that conversation.
Author Bells Posted September 6, 2008 Author Posted September 6, 2008 Add another vote to don't ask. Too early to have that conversation. Yeah, too early. I usually only date one at at time anyways, because I'm not that much of "lucky dog" to score multipledates. lol But even if I did, if I really liked her, I'd not see anyone else.
flc Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Yeah, too early. I usually only date one at at time anyways, because I'm not that much of "lucky dog" to score multipledates. lol But even if I did, if I really liked her, I'd not see anyone else. I tend to date one women at a time myself, although I have been in situations where I was dating two women at the same time. But everyone does what they are comfortable with. If she wants a relationship with you then she will stop dating other men. I don't think this is a topic I have every really brought up, it just either works out or not.
nopainnogain Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 If you ask you will be like jim carey from the cable guy. So dont ask
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