BCCA Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 The medicine is to do what you need to so you can get over this. Not only should you not worry about him calling or texting, you should decide right now that you don't want to hear 'just want to see if you got home' and the like. All it's doing is torturing you. I would just ignore him from now on. If he ever has a change of heart, trust me, you'll know. But the funny thing is, they never come back until you're ok without them. No one wants to be around needy people with no confidence in themselves. Those are very unattractive traits. Realize that it's not the end of the world, life goes on, and you'll be happy again one day.
sultry33 Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 I don't know - Should I be the better man and respond to her messages? Or should I let her suffer for a bit first? Hi sorry to sound harsh but she is not suffering..dont reply then she may actually miss you. I have been in your shoes for last 6 months hoping he would realise that what we HAD was worth holding onto.. we would go for few weeks then meet up, would be ok for few weeks but in that time he rarely texted or contacted me.. i was just filling in a void.. He said he couldnt imagine being with anyone else or feeling the same way. said he would never have love like we had.. so any rs in future would fail for him.. I got busy did things to move on but in my mind i had hope... now he is with someone an wont fully admit it so now i have walked away.. i wont be around if/when it fails.. i think of him now as an ex that does not love me anymore so good luck to him.. I made it easier for him to move on from me by being in the background he never really lost me an now he has another he probably never will.. dont be like me.. if you trully want her back, make her work for it... being told maybe in future .. crap just keeps you there as back up plan I was with him for nearly 4 yrs an in that time we rarely fell out.. was with each other almost every day .. all his friends became our friends.. still his friends... I looked back yesterday at some old forum photos and we was both there joined at hip happy.. he looked really happy too... life sucks... i hope you do what is best for you..I never wanted him to think i was ok about his decision thats why i kept contact up.. now its back fired hugs to you x
Author wayfaerer1 Posted September 10, 2008 Author Posted September 10, 2008 Yeah, you're right, she's not suffering. She probably feels guilty though. I think I need to keep ignoring her, at least for the rest of this week.
Author wayfaerer1 Posted September 10, 2008 Author Posted September 10, 2008 She sent me another message on AIM last night, just responding to a funny away message I had up about something at work. Is she trying to make this harder for me than it already is? I feel like she doesn't want to lose me completely, even though we're broken up. Should I keep ignoring her messages? Would that drive her nuts eventually?
northstar1 Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 She sent me another message on AIM last night, just responding to a funny away message I had up about something at work. Is she trying to make this harder for me than it already is? I feel like she doesn't want to lose me completely, even though we're broken up. Should I keep ignoring her messages? Would that drive her nuts eventually? Answer to your questions you already know I believe. This minimal contact she's offering, is it making you feel good or bad? I think you need to block her on AIM or whatever other sites you have her on for now. She wants to know you are still out there - whether it is with selfish intentions or not. Make yourself unavailable for a while.
Author wayfaerer1 Posted September 10, 2008 Author Posted September 10, 2008 The minimal contact is making me feel worse. Every time I get a message of any kind it makes me think there's still hope, that she still cares.
northstar1 Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 The minimal contact is making me feel worse. Every time I get a message of any kind it makes me think there's still hope, that she still cares. That's the crux of having even a small bit. As CaliGuy has said, it's like a drug. Hearing from them is a bit of a fix, but shortly after you crash again.
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