ShadowU12345 Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Me and my girlfriend are currently in a sort of seperation/breakup right now, and we were planning on getting back together, because we just needed some time apart. I had been going out for 4 months, and I sorta stumbled upon her past life with her ex whom she claimed to be the only guy she ever fell in love with. And I noticed that she said that she loved him. This was only a few days after our temporary separation. I just don't feel like that during my time of me and her dating was as golden as with her ex. She seemed to have a much better time with her ex, and he even broke her heart like 3 times. I just don't understand it. She told me that she wasn't in love with me, and she never talks about me like she did during the first few weeks after meeting her, and I feel like I'm not getting any special treatments in this relationship. It's kinda been dull lately. We sorta live about 20 minutes apart from each other, and thats one of the reason's we broke up was because I didn't have a ride to go over to see her. So we started to get to see each other less and less. I just want to get back with her, and continue my life with her. I love her to death, but I just don't know if it's the same for her. I'm so confused.
BCCA Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Me and my girlfriend are currently in a sort of seperation/breakup right now, and we were planning on getting back together, because we just needed some time apart. I had been going out for 4 months, and I sorta stumbled upon her past life with her ex whom she claimed to be the only guy she ever fell in love with. And I noticed that she said that she loved him. This was only a few days after our temporary separation. I just don't feel like that during my time of me and her dating was as golden as with her ex. She seemed to have a much better time with her ex, and he even broke her heart like 3 times. I just don't understand it. She told me that she wasn't in love with me, and she never talks about me like she did during the first few weeks after meeting her, and I feel like I'm not getting any special treatments in this relationship. It's kinda been dull lately. We sorta live about 20 minutes apart from each other, and thats one of the reason's we broke up was because I didn't have a ride to go over to see her. So we started to get to see each other less and less. I just want to get back with her, and continue my life with her. I love her to death, but I just don't know if it's the same for her. I'm so confused. First, Im sorry youre going through this. I know it sucks, we've all been there. But you'll get through it, and if you handle it correctly, you'll be a stronger person. I have to say that anyone who tells you they dont love you anymore and wont drive 20 minutes (which is really nothing) to see you because you dont have a ride doesnt really care that much about you. The reason she is hung up on this ex is probably because he broke her heart 3 times. People want what they cant have, which is kind of where youre at right now. You cant control what she does or whether she is in your life. You need to start, RIGHT NOW-TODAY, cutting off any and all contact with this girl. Anything you have that reminds you of her, pictures of you two, gifts from her, etc needs to be boxed up and stuck in the attic/garage. It has to be out of your imediate reach and out of the way. Write her contact info down on a piece of paper and stick it in the box. Erase her number, email, boot her off your myspace/facebook (change your profile to private and DO NOT EVER look at hers). Write down what you want in life and from a partner, and think about what wasnt right about this girl. Go out on a few casual dates and tell your friends to drag you out. Get her off your mind and just focus on YOU and what you need. I would wash my hands of this girl. She was down right mean and selfish and you didnt deserve that. She seems immature, and while some time may change that, its just not worth holding onto this one. You dont need the drama. End the pain now, thank yourself later.
Dolorian Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 Me and my girlfriend are currently in a sort of seperation/breakup right now, and we were planning on getting back together, because we just needed some time apart. I had been going out for 4 months, and I sorta stumbled upon her past life with her ex whom she claimed to be the only guy she ever fell in love with. And I noticed that she said that she loved him. This was only a few days after our temporary separation. I just don't feel like that during my time of me and her dating was as golden as with her ex. She seemed to have a much better time with her ex, and he even broke her heart like 3 times. I just don't understand it. She told me that she wasn't in love with me, and she never talks about me like she did during the first few weeks after meeting her, and I feel like I'm not getting any special treatments in this relationship. It's kinda been dull lately. We sorta live about 20 minutes apart from each other, and thats one of the reason's we broke up was because I didn't have a ride to go over to see her. So we started to get to see each other less and less. I just want to get back with her, and continue my life with her. I love her to death, but I just don't know if it's the same for her. I'm so confused. Hey there, I'm kinda going through the same thing right now. Dated my ex for 6 months, fell madly in love with her, broke up before summer, kinda got back together during the summer (but only because her ex whom she started seeing in the beginning of the summer went to china for 2 months). When the summer was over she told me she loved me several times and told me not to give up on her. On Tuesday she said I love you for the last time because her ex came back and they were hanging out ever since, totally ignoring my text, email or calls. On Sunday I found out that they are in a relationship. I feel backstabbed and kinda hurt because I think she was just all talk and I was more a "doormat guy" during the summer. She said to me yesterday she still plans on hanging out with me. Any thoughts on this?
yongyong Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 Why don't you contact her current guy? and tell him what happend I am sure he will appreciate that Hey there, I'm kinda going through the same thing right now. Dated my ex for 6 months, fell madly in love with her, broke up before summer, kinda got back together during the summer (but only because her ex whom she started seeing in the beginning of the summer went to china for 2 months). When the summer was over she told me she loved me several times and told me not to give up on her. On Tuesday she said I love you for the last time because her ex came back and they were hanging out ever since, totally ignoring my text, email or calls. On Sunday I found out that they are in a relationship. I feel backstabbed and kinda hurt because I think she was just all talk and I was more a "doormat guy" during the summer. She said to me yesterday she still plans on hanging out with me. Any thoughts on this?
sid3 Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 Hey there, Any thoughts on this? Listen to BC's advice, he just said it all. The only thing I can add is trust your gut. It's almost always right. It sucks to see things for what they are. I have been there too.
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