nopainnogain Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 I went to court the other day to pay a traffic ticket . While waiting in line some dude that was gone on drugs was behind me. And behind him was this attractive girl. Me and this dude were talking about some BS and he brought this girl in the convo by asking her what shes here for.... So we all start talking to kill time while aiting in line. Eventually me and that girl exchange numbers and start texting eachother talking smack about that guy while we are stil in line lol. The guy had no clue. Anyways... so for the rest of this week we have been texting n crap. She says she is 23. So last night I take her to this place where you need to be 21 to get in . All of a sudden shes like I dont have my I.D . WTF. She gives some B story so we just go to my place to watch t.v and then I take her home. I dont think she is 21. I find her very attractive but her maturaty level doesnt match her age. I erased her number and all txts and all her calls from my call log history as if she never existed. I am not interested in her as I have already told myself I am not messing with any girls under 23 . What should I do when she calls:confused: ignore her:confused: let her know "no thanks" ............. what should I do if she calls?? thanks -npng
Ronni_W Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Hey NP. When I was your age...yeah, I would just ignore people I'd stopped being interested in. But... "When you get to my age" <groan>, it goes something like, "I'm thinking our ages don't match up" or something equally tight-butt in the name of "evolved communication skills" <sigh>. Boys and girls...don't grow up if you don't have to!
girlygirl25 Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Why don't you just ask her to tell you the truth about how old she is? In my opinion, I think ignoring her call is a relatively immature thing to do..especially for a 23 year old. I'm not saying that to be mean at all, I just think that talking to her might solve the problem. Ask her what her age is. If she says she is not even 21, then make a decision whether or not to continue contact from there. Maybe she really didn't have her ID?
Green Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 How old are you? You know she really might have just lost her ID she had no reason to lie about her age at the courthouse. Or maybe she was at the court house to finger the guy who Statutorily raped her
sweetbutcheeky Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Hey NP. When I was your age...yeah, I would just ignore people I'd stopped being interested in. But... "When you get to my age" <groan>, it goes something like, "I'm thinking our ages don't match up" or something equally tight-butt in the name of "evolved communication skills" <sigh>. Boys and girls...don't grow up if you don't have to! If that were only true, I am 30 and so many guys my age and older still pull that. Is it that hard just to say, sorry I don't feel a connection and good luck? Vs being a chicken and not call back again? My girl friends and I were just talking about that the other day. Come on guys grow up! (yes woman probably do that too, but I don't date woman so that is my perspective)
Ronni_W Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 If that were only true, I am 30 and so many guys my age and older still pull that. Well, that's exactly the thing -- if we CAN'T stop our aging process then we MUST start thinking and acting in more mature ways as we develop...whether male or female. What is okay dating etiquette at 18, ain't gonna cut it for the rest of one's life...if mature, well-functioning relationships are the goal. OTOH, if there's some guy I've been texting for a few days, went out with once, and then lost interest in for whatever reason -- I wouldn't necessarily feel that I owed him "mature" behaviour/explanations. (Similarly, I'd get it if he just vanished into thin air.) I'd probably do the mature thing...but more to not feel crappy about myself than to ensure that he's feeling good on his end.
Author nopainnogain Posted September 6, 2008 Author Posted September 6, 2008 Well she called me a little while ago . Funny cuz I just saw her last night. She is a really cool girl . Im pretty sure I coulda had a ONS with her last night but considering I didnt know her real age and I cant ONS when Im not under the influence,im weird like that. So I didnt make a move. It kinda killed it when she didnt have her i.d to get in. I coulda asked her for her age but I figure if someone is gona lie about her age i dont want to be with them anyways,who knows what other lies she has up her sleeve. Id rather forget her. Theres other girls I am talking to. I know she didnt forget her i.d. She had a big a$$ bag w/ all kinds of crap. I saw her open her wallet at one point. She is all organized. So she would have her i.d and by her saying I forget it clearly says she isnt 21. I dont havetime for BS lol. So when she called I said im going up state,late.
djhall Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 I dont think she is 21. I find her very attractive but her maturaty level doesnt match her age. I erased her number and all txts and all her calls from my call log history as if she never existed. I am not interested in her as I have already told myself I am not messing with any girls under 23 . What should I do when she calls:confused: ignore her:confused: let her know "no thanks" No offense, but I don't think she is the only one here whose maturity level doesn't match their age. Either she lied to you about her age or she was traveling light that evening and didn't expect to be taken to a bar. I can see why she might have initially lied to you about her age, as you have stated that you wouldn't consider giving her a chance if she didn't meet your arbitrary age criteria. If she just didn't have her ID on her, erasing all her info and refusing to talk to her again is an extreme over reaction. Cutting off communication without any explaination is usually petty and immature. How would you feel if you were on the other end of someone else treating you that way? Do you like wondering if it was something you did, something you said, or some strange misunderstanding when someone else just completely ignores you with no explaination whatsoever? Especially if you didn't do anything to deserve it. I think you should tell her you believe she may have lied to you about her age and you need to know the truth before you are willing to continue communication with her. Give her a chance to prove she was honest with you. If she indeed lied to you, and you just can't get over that, then tell her so. Tell her she lied and you don't want to get attached to someone who is dishonest. Or tell her she lied to you and you have this arbitrary thing where you don't care how great she is if she didn't happen to be born during your pre-designated date range.
girlygirl25 Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Well she called me a little while ago . Funny cuz I just saw her last night. She is a really cool girl . Im pretty sure I coulda had a ONS with her last night but considering I didnt know her real age and I cant ONS when Im not under the influence,im weird like that. So I didnt make a move. It kinda killed it when she didnt have her i.d to get in. I coulda asked her for her age but I figure if someone is gona lie about her age i dont want to be with them anyways,who knows what other lies she has up her sleeve. Id rather forget her. Theres other girls I am talking to. I know she didnt forget her i.d. She had a big a$$ bag w/ all kinds of crap. I saw her open her wallet at one point. She is all organized. So she would have her i.d and by her saying I forget it clearly says she isnt 21. I dont havetime for BS lol. So when she called I said im going up state,late. It sounds to me like you are paranoid. No offense, but I don't think it's her that is actually immature in this little scenerio. You don't even know for sure that she lied about her age! I have forgotten to bring my liscense with me on occasion, that doesn't mean I'm not "of age." You said you know she didn't forget her ID: she didn't tell you that she lied about it, so you DON'T know do ya? You sound like you are paranoid, did some girl lie about her age to you or something? Oh, and lying about going up state is not mature. You are judging her for lying, yet you are doing it yourself. Hmm...
Star Gazer Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 No offense, but I don't think she is the only one here whose maturity level doesn't match their age. I totally agree. Reasons she could not have her ID: She simply lost it. She may have transferred it alone with a credit card to a tiny purse (which I do all the time) and lost it. She could have had her ID confiscated as a result of a DUI. She could have had it in her rear jeans pocket and washed her jeans. She could have loaned it to an underage friend, and never got it back. People lose things all the time.
Author nopainnogain Posted September 6, 2008 Author Posted September 6, 2008 Well she isnt upfront with me. My gut tells me and my gut never lies. So there is no reason in calling her out on things or assuming things . So I dont need to explain to her how I feel and all that jazz. Life goes on. We barely met . Besides , hanging out with her I have realized she isnt my cup of tea. She is attractive so she will have no problem with me pulling a disapearing act. She probably has other dudes anyways. She was gettin text the whole night lol. Good riddence.
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