blair08 Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 What do you think it means when a husband says he does things to "pacify" his wife? He says he wants his wife happy and will do whatever it takes but to me saying he does things to "pacify" her doesn't sound like it's something he wants to do because he loves her and wants her to be happy. To me is sounds more like something out of obligation, or posibly to keep the peace with things. What do you think?
Ronni_W Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 I agree. They think and say that it's to please the other person but it is really intended to fulfill their own need for "peace" at any cost...but often they can't or won't see that they are also benefiting from their behaviour. With the "people-pleasing peace keepers" in my history, they suppress their own wants, preferences and frustrations; then become resentful and act out passive-aggressively. And they perceive [my] attitude/style as demanding and active-aggressive...we used to enable each other in a wonderfully complementary way
PandorasBox Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Pacifying someone to me means, they really don't want to do what the are doing, but will just to be doing so. I really don't get that either.
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