aries87 Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 A little background info about my situation. I have liked this guy for a few months now and all the signs pointed in the direction that he liked me as well. He has describe himself as shy and anti social, which I can see the shyness around me at times and yes he is anti social. He talks to no one in our building with the exception of me. I have caught him staring at me and everytime he passes by me he is looking at me and when I look over to him he will smile and wave. When I am alone he will come over to talk to me but when there are other people around me he will just stare and smile from a distance. If he is with some of his buddies, he will hang back from them when they come past me and he will look back to me and wave and smile. One day a friend of his came over to me and asked if I liked him and I told him yes, and I asked if he was single and his friend told me he was. So after this day, I noticed the guy I like start coming around me alot more. There was days when everytime I turned around he was there, staring and smiling over at me. We have talked and just tried to get to know each other over the past couple of months and let things happen naturally. He will go out of his way to see me and doing everything he can to get my attention. Yesterday he was walking toward me and then he got right in front of me and slowed down to an almost complete stop, so I said good morning and then he came around a partion and started to talk to me about the weekend. So I took the chance and asked if he wanted to have dinner with me. He said that would be nice and he would love to. So I was like cool. but then a couple of seconds later he goes "I'm seeing someone for 3 years". I was shocked when he said this. Have I been reading him all wrong or did he mislead me? Why act this way around me for so long and then say what he said? I just don't get it. After he told me about the seeing someone, he told me that he didn't want to get married again!! I was thinking, I just asked you out to dinner, not a marriage proposal. Why would he say this after I asked him out to dinner? Then he starts asking me questions about my kids and their dad. Wanting to know how often they see their dad and where he lives and things of that nature. Why this line of questions? Especially after you turned down a dinner date!!!
Trialbyfire Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 What you just experienced is his conscience defeating his ego. Be glad that he came clean with you! It could have turned out far worse.
Jilly Bean Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Does he always dress is a white shirt and pants? Because he sounds like a mental patient. AND creepy. All the staring, etc. Anti-social is right! Whether he actually has a GF or not is irrelevant. He was telling you he doesn't want to date you, albeit veiled in a lot of mixed messaging. I'd seriously move on from him - he's disturbing.
JoeNewbie Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 One get misled only if one accepts to be misled. In your situation, it would be a very mild case of misleading at worst. Also, call me traditionalist or sexist, but a woman having to make the first steps hardly ever ends up very well.
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