rod_in_gtown Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 I've walked many girls I'm not interested in romping with to their door to male sure they're safe. It's just the way I was raised. I think it's sad that too many women are so jaded that they turn a gesture of chivalry into a devious underhanded attempt at reverse psychology, and at the same time complain there are no gentlemen out there...
Author frenchgirl Posted September 10, 2008 Author Posted September 10, 2008 He's an update on the situation. The guy called and asked me out to a rather nice restaurant. I am thrilled! Now in this context, do you think he expects to have sex with me or not necessarily?
Lucky_One Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 Who knows? Who really cares? Why are you concentrating on what HE wants, what HE is thinking, what HE MIGHT be expecting. Go on the date. Be yourself, have fun. See how things go. If you are the kind of girl who has sex easily and early, then maybe you will do it, regardless of his expectations. If you are the kind of girl who waits until there is a deeper emotional connection and some talk of monogamy, then you won't do it, regardless of his expectations. What do YOU want? What do YOU think about YOUR upcoming date? What do YOU expect on a first date?
so gutted Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 Ok - this may be hard because his place is very near to where I work and rather then hang around in the mall its easier to go to his place...so how do i stop it there? do i make some kind of statemnet? if i stop going to his - he may think thats weird...also i can pick up more evidence there?
2sunny Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 He's an update on the situation. The guy called and asked me out to a rather nice restaurant. I am thrilled! Now in this context, do you think he expects to have sex with me or not necessarily? who cares what he expects... decide on your own personal boundaries and stick to them.
Trialbyfire Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 I totally agree with 2sunny. Do what you want to do, nothing more, nothing less. Never jump into bed or withhold, to manipulate. Take a good hard look at what drives you, in that if you can compartmentalize sex and emotions, go for it. If you bond with sex, hold off until you're in an exclusive, committed relationship. Don't be shy to introduce the talk. For the interim, this is your first date. Relax and enjoy it but slow those drinks down to a minimum so you can keep a clear head. Have a great time!
Ruby Slippers Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 I've walked many girls I'm not interested in romping with to their door to male sure they're safe. It's just the way I was raised. I think it's sad that too many women are so jaded that they turn a gesture of chivalry into a devious underhanded attempt at reverse psychology, and at the same time complain there are no gentlemen out there... I agree with you. It may sound silly, but when I started reading this forum, it really opened my eyes to a reality I wasn't quite aware of. I didn't realize so many people were so cynical and calculating. I guess I am naive! I thought he was going to call. I'm glad he did.
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