frenchgirl Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 I went out with a bunch of friends and sat next to this guy I've known for a while. As the evening progressed, flirting got heavier. He had his arm behind me, touched my neck, touched my thighs... At some point I aggressively grabbed his thighs and let him nibble my ears and kiss my neck... At the end of the evening, he walked me home and we held hands for a few seconds. I gave him a hug at the front of my door and gave him a long kiss on the cheek. Before he left, he said he would call me. What do you think of this situation? Does he seem interested?
Shygirl15 Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Well, we don't know. Let's see if he calls you. Too much happened too soon anyway. Not very nice.
Art_Critic Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 What do you think of this situation? Does he seem interested? Yes he is interested... As far as what his intentions are at this point nobody can tell you.. Just go with the flow and have fun...
Trialbyfire Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Yes, he's interested in sex. As for anything else, I doubt it since he barely knows you. It's up to you to slow down the pace until he has the chance to get to know you. The only problem is that if you slow it down, you'll be considered a tease, since your first interaction has already gotten sexual without a date.
Ariadne Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 No, I don't think he is interested. You hugged him big and gave him a long kiss on his cheek when you were parting and the guy did nothing. He probably got drunk at the bar and did that, but once he had a chance to kiss you or do something he didn't.
Author frenchgirl Posted September 6, 2008 Author Posted September 6, 2008 Well, we don't know. Let's see if he calls you. Too much happened too soon anyway. Not very nice. Yeah I know. I was drunk and got a bit too physical with him. But on the plus side, he did walk me back home and did not try to sleep with me. Seems like a good sign, no?
Author frenchgirl Posted September 6, 2008 Author Posted September 6, 2008 Yes, he's interested in sex. As for anything else, I doubt it since he barely knows you. It's up to you to slow down the pace until he has the chance to get to know you. The only problem is that if you slow it down, you'll be considered a tease, since your first interaction has already gotten sexual without a date. Thanks for this. Do you think I got too sexual? Which parts were a bit too much in your opinion?
Author frenchgirl Posted September 6, 2008 Author Posted September 6, 2008 No, I don't think he is interested. You hugged him big and gave him a long kiss on his cheek when you were parting and the guy did nothing. He probably got drunk at the bar and did that, but once he had a chance to kiss you or do something he didn't. I know for sure that he's interested. I just wonder what he is interested in.
Trialbyfire Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Thanks for this. Do you think I got too sexual? Which parts were a bit too much in your opinion? Yes, I do think you exceeded the line and so did he, unless you plan to put out with him the next time you see him, date or casual hook up. If this is what you want, no big deal. If that's not the impression you wanted to give, I would have stopped him at the point he put his arm around you, as long as it was just a casual draping of the arm on the back of the chair. If he put his arm around you and pulled you closer, you're consenting to more right away. Flirting with someone you're not on a date with, should only be taken so far, such as light touches, no further than the knee or the arm.
Author frenchgirl Posted September 6, 2008 Author Posted September 6, 2008 Flirting with someone you're not on a date with, should only be taken so far, such as light touches, no further than the knee or the arm. Thanks for your advice. The worst part is that I started it - not him. I realized I had gone too far when I let him kiss my neck... But then he took me back home like a gentleman. We'll see how it unfolds.
Ariadne Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 I know for sure that he's interested. I just wonder what he is interested in. I doubt he is going to call. When guys say "I'll call you" they usually don't.
Trialbyfire Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Thanks for your advice. The worst part is that I started it - not him. I realized I had gone too far when I let him kiss my neck... But then he took me back home like a gentleman. We'll see how it unfolds. You're welcome. Good luck frenchgirl!
likestolaugh Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 I doubt he is going to call. When guys say "I'll call you" they usually don't. maybe it's just you. I don't see why I wouldn't call someone I'm interested in...
Author frenchgirl Posted September 6, 2008 Author Posted September 6, 2008 I doubt he is going to call. When guys say "I'll call you" they usually don't. Actually when guys say they'll call me, they always do. I just have to filter out those who call for the wrong reasons. Besides, it's not like this guy was a total stranger.
Jilly Bean Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Frenchgirl, I think he walked you home in HOPES of sex. I mean, it sounds like you were coming on pretty strong and teasing him. Is that your normal MO when you meet guys? Anyhoo - as I said, I think he walked you home thinking he would get laid (what guy wouldn't by your behavior!) and then said he would call you because he didn't know what else to say after you turned virgin at the door. I bet $5 he walked away cursing you as a c*ck tease on his way home...
Author frenchgirl Posted September 6, 2008 Author Posted September 6, 2008 Frenchgirl, I think he walked you home in HOPES of sex. I mean, it sounds like you were coming on pretty strong and teasing him. Is that your normal MO when you meet guys? Anyhoo - as I said, I think he walked you home thinking he would get laid (what guy wouldn't by your behavior!) and then said he would call you because he didn't know what else to say after you turned virgin at the door. I bet $5 he walked away cursing you as a c*ck tease on his way home... Actually he walked me home because it was late and I was tipsy. Before he did so he clearly mentioned he would not ask to come in and that he just wanted to make sure I get home safe. He held me tight when we hugged. It was nice. It was the full body type of hug, not the friendly type. He said that next time we shall drink less and eat more. Perhaps he meant we should have dinner? I'll see what he says when he calls me this week.
Green Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 I once told a girl that it was late and she was tipsy so she'd better come home with me. Any ways I'm usualy interested in more then just a one night stand. So if he's like me he wants the sex and more
almost famous Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 The only way to know is 1. see if he calls and 2. don't have sexual intimacy with him until you are in a relationship with him and you have gotten to know him and can trust him.
Star Gazer Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Actually he walked me home because it was late and I was tipsy. Before he did so he clearly mentioned he would not ask to come in and that he just wanted to make sure I get home safe. That's really naive to think. Any guy who tells you before even starting the trip home that he won't ask to come in is trying to break down your walls, get you to trust him, so that YOU will ask HIM to come inside.
Author frenchgirl Posted September 6, 2008 Author Posted September 6, 2008 That's really naive to think. Any guy who tells you before even starting the trip home that he won't ask to come in is trying to break down your walls, get you to trust him, so that YOU will ask HIM to come inside. Actually he was really nice and didn't try to push it at all. He definitely didn't seem like he was expecting or waiting to get himself invited in. And he seemed really sincere when he said he would call. In all of my dealings with him, he was never flaky.
JoeNewbie Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 There are exceptions to every rule but I think you went a bit fast and the guy COULD potentially lose interest/respect for you.
vonerik012 Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Has no guy ever walked a drunk girl home in the middle of the night without wanting to have sex with her? I have many times.. She even stated that he DID NOT TRY TO COME IN. So how was she naive? Maybe some of you LS girls are jealous that a guy was not trying to just use her for sex, and actually walked to home to be a gentleman.
lino Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Has no guy ever walked a drunk girl home in the middle of the night without wanting to have sex with her? I have many times.. I did a few times, although I think a guy who walks a girl home wanting to have sex with her gets just as much respect as a guy who doesn't, if not more!
Trialbyfire Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 You won't know until he calls, or doesn't. That's the bottomline. In the interim, don't let people naysay whether he will or not, due to actions taken or not taken. Relax and let it happen or not.
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