Author the_blur Posted September 7, 2008 Author Posted September 7, 2008 If you really fell in love with her it does happen, but otherwise it seems like you have a deeper issue here. Pick women that will welcome your passes, have faith in yourself and your new you. That sounded like good advice ... I have to go watch UFC but I will post more when I get back!
xpaperxcutx Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 You know what this totally makes sense. That may be exactly what I'm doing. Of course I don't KNOW a girl is taken until I ask...but to pursue girls like that maybe I insist on it because I want to face rejection and grow to be completely unaffected by it (that would be awesome, I'd be shameless). So what do I do, simply stay away from every girl because she might be taken? Ask in some really stupid way like "... so does your boyfriend paddle too?" It's so transparently obvious. You may as well just stop playing the stupid game and ask her point blank if she's single, which I would definitely prefer and just let her know you're interested. Why run around in these pointless circles? I never said that. I only asked that you have some self respect because pushing yourself onto an unavailable girl is very unattractive. Know your boundaries. If you're attracted to a girl, the nicest thing to do is ask if she's seeing someone. If the answer's no, then you're more than welcome to try to pursue her. But if you already know that she's unavailable, then know when to back off. The problem never really lied in why she fell for a dweeb, but that you chose to steal other people's gfs because you see their relationship as inadequate, and that you would be more the prince charming if you were in the picture.
brightskies Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 It's a good thing you didn't make a move on her. What if she went for it? Then you'd be in a pickle, because if you ended up together you'd know you couldn't trust her. You'd know she might do the same thing to you down the road. As it is, you're lucky she turned you down, because if things don't pan out with her so-called dweeb, you'll have a clean slate with which to work. Although I do question her shame about her boyfriend: that's not a good sign. For future reference, don't try to encourage infidelity with a girl in whom you're interested; it won't turn out well. It's fine to let a girl know, respectfully, that you're interested, but you shouldn't pursue or make a move on her while she's committed. Respect her choice and respect the relationship. However, if she *chooses* to leave the guy without your intervention, you're free to pursue her with a clear conscience.
Lucky_One Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 The singular of dits, is dit. You mean I sound like a dit. You might not even be into me physically if you met me, not everyone is... A lot of women don't like the big muscular look. ☆ ditz (dits) noun Slang a person thought of as being flighty, eccentric, silly, etc. I like men who are intelligent, humorous, and gentle. I don't judge guys by their muscles.
mental_traveller Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 From the first time you got in my car to go to practice, I've been stealing furtive glances at you (perhaps not so furtive as I would like since I'm pretty sure you've caught me looking). My god you are a pretty girl. Your earnest, sweet, caramel gaze and easy smile froze me in my tracks. You had me the moment we locked eyes and I heard your voice. (I remember the very first words you said to me). What I wouldn't do for the briefest touch of your skin, the smell of your hair, the taste of your lips. That was a tough drive for me just now =) I was going just under the speed limit (so as to not arouse your suspicion), because the sound of your voice is like music to me, especially when you speak french, and I just had to keep that going as long as I could. I could listen to you talk about anything for hours, I just love the sound of you. You looked absolutely ravishing tonight. That dress... I am pretty sure you did not catch me looking but you did not make it easy for me to push away the advancing tide of thoughts filled with your flesh. When we said goodbye, every cell, every molecule of my being was screaming, screaming at me to put both my hands in your long hair and kiss you hard on those gorgeous full lips of yours =). (my heart is beating so hard right now) It feels good to want someone this badly. IMO you concede the high ground by showing way too much interest in her. Instead you should have done the strong, silent thing, or the cocky/funny thing and teased her a bit. Make *her* intrigued by you, not the other way round. Don't you think she gets dozens of emails like this each year? Then again, some women *do* like this lovey dovey approach - usually they are single though You need to up your game, big man. Work on it with women you aren't head over heels for (e.g. 6/10s), practise, get good, then who knows, maybe cutiepie will be single by the time you're ready
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