This Girl Is Out Of My League

[Troll22]

Hi everyone, I am a soph in college, and seem to have an intriguing situation, a good one at that.

 

I have always been very social with girls, but as I am not incredibly attractive, I am always the one starting the conversation. Once they get to know me, we become friends, but it is up to me to start the convo with them, because Im not great eye candy.

 

Regardless, I have no trouble talking to females.

 

However, I recently met a girl who, for the first time as far back as I can remember, started the conversation.

 

But the way she acts makes me think she is really into me. Im not 100% sure, and so thats why Im here.

 

I see this girl very infrequently, just passing by, but when I do.....

-She always has a bright smile and says hello

-She playfully touches me in conversation

-She pokes fun at me, playfully - stuff to make us both laugh

-She asks about me a lot, so much so that I havent had the chance to ask about her (things like where I went to HS, what Im studying etc)

 

Couple things:

 

1)She has a BF back home. She never brought it up in convo, I saw it on facebook.

 

2) I am uncertain about this, because she is out of my league, WAY out.

 

I appreciate any replies, I really hope this girl is into me....but who knows....

So I guess my question is 3 fold:

 

1) From what I have described, is she into me?

 

2) Why would she flirt with me, if she already has a BF (she doesn't flirt with other guys that I know of)

 

3) This girl is legit out of my leauge, am I just lucky here?

 

 

Thanks!

[TigerCub]

Well to be honest, I've done all the things you described with people I'm not into that way. Some people are just friendly (hence the smiles), some people are just touchy/feely and they don't realize that its really being misunderstood, and as for the jokes, some of us just like to joke around and tease our friends.

 

That being said...I've just described myself and what I do with friends in the paragraph above, it may not be what she's like with other people, but I just wanted to point out that your clues may not exactly conclude that she's interested in that way...so baby step it, take it day by day and see if there are any more concrete hints/advances...

 

As for the outa your league thing - don't put so much emphasis on that, maintain a confident attitude (cuz we gals luv that) and just see how it goes..

 

good luck

[djhall]

Ask yourself one question.... Which will you regret more? Letting her know you are interested and getting shot down, or not taking the chance and never knowing?

 

You could always go for something like, "You know, I really enjoy it when we meet up like this, but I never seem to get the chance to ask any questions about you. Would you like to (insert low risk social activity) with me on (give her a few options that are specific enough so you have definite plans if she says yes and try to make it so she is almost certainly available for at least one of them) so I can learn more about you? I suspect any girl that is really interested would take you up on an opportunity to get you more interested in her.

[CaliGuy]

She could be friendly. If you know she has a BF then she is off limits.

 

However, you must remember that NO ONE is out of your league -- unless YOU think they are.

 

Got me?

[yongyong]

Is she one of those nice hot girls who makes many guys wonder if she is interested in them?

[jerbear]

The way I look at this.

 

She is not out of your league.

 

If you've met them once, you can meet them again. However you say it, you've reached, met, or otherwise joined that circle. At the bare minimum, you know that circle exists.

[stoopid_guy]

People have different ideas of what's attractive. She might think you're very attractive even though you don't. She might also think you're "out of her league" in some regard besides looks. Go for it, you never know what's going to happen until you try.