soda Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 I finally cut the line. I was a mess for a long time, but it took some time to myself to cut my wife out completely. Her crap is on the front lawn, and she ain't coming back. She gets paperwork on Monday. I have a meeting with OM's SO tomorrow afternoon so I can return the favor of finish off the big pig's relationship, too. I have some details to finalize on the restraining order, but I will be giving my wife the one that that she snizzled about...the chance to "what she wants to." She's about to be free and homeless. Thanks for all your support. I have a big trip planned, and I'll be without Internet for a while, but I'll check in sometime. Adios.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Three cheers and good for you! I hope you will find true happiness and peace of mind, my friend! No turning back! IWWH
signedin2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 She gets paperwork on Monday. I have a meeting with OM's SO tomorrow afternoon so I can return the favor of finish off the big pig's relationship, too. What kind of solid evidence do you have that she is having an affair and how do you know that she is stalking OM's SO?
Author soda Posted September 6, 2008 Author Posted September 6, 2008 What kind of solid evidence do you have that she is having an affair and how do you know that she is stalking OM's SO? Solid evidence? I have plenty of pictures from her PI and mine, and I have a witness who provided three notorized statements. It's amazing what you can get when someone who works with OM is a public notary and wants to see him clean out his desk of candy bars. I sucked it up when I needed to. I wasted a half of my life to prove that my wife doesn't deserve house, kids, or money. Sometimes, being unfaithful gives a person exactly what she deserves. I am not stupid. My wife gambled on that, and she will lose. I regret sucking it up for this long, but I am comfortable with the result. My kids matter more than anything to me, and they seem to be uncapable of caring about anything for HER.
Darth Vader Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Soda, do you have ALL of your Legal ducks in a row? I mean, do you have everything documented, have a Men's Right's Lawyer, going for Abandonment, including any and all possible abuse/s filed in a secure location, going for Sole Custody, protecting your finanaces, , bank accounts, credit card/s, including retirement plans, 401k's, pensions, protecting your house, ect., etc.? Oh, if so, change the locks on the door! BTW, is that Legal, can he throw her stuff out into the front yard?
GPFan Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Good luck and I hope it goes smoothly for you.
Lishy Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Wow, you sure told her! Good luck for your future, dont let her behaviour affect your future relationships, not all women cheat x
In Like Flynn Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Has your wife seen her stuff on the lawn yet???
Trialbyfire Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Don't forget your camcorder or camera for those Kodak moments! 'Grats for taking the big step towards emotional freedom from infidelity. It's one of the most empowering feelings in the world when you finally get everything lined up and drop-kick them to the curb. If you do it with some gusto, they bounce into the gutter. Btw, I also shared everything my PI gathered, with the ex-OWs husband, at the time. He found it very helpful.
Darth Vader Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Well, I'm glad that a man did this to a cheating woman, after all, you only see and hear a woman doing it to a cheating mans belongings. I'm not saying it has never happened, I just never heard of it before............ Anyway Soda, I'm glad that you're moving on, and ditching her.
theobserver Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 I've been waiting for this no let me do that again... God DAMN I've been waiting for this! All I can say is it's about time, enjoy these moments, I'm rather sure your evidence is much more then enough then what other people have had to provide (usually nothing) hell you've got statements and people lining up to give evidence , photographic proof too you'll be fine. For anyone not familiar with Soda's story go and read some of his old posts, this has been something a long time coming. At the very least finally she's now out on her ass.
Author soda Posted September 7, 2008 Author Posted September 7, 2008 Has your wife seen her stuff on the lawn yet??? No, and it's too darn bad that it's rained the past couple of nights. That's disrespectful to her, almost like when she decided to disrespect our marital vows. I love my neighbors, though. Apparently, my wife (out of town) tried to "check-in" with a neighbor to see if everything was "okay" at the house. My neighbor knows what's going on and said. "Nah, everything seems quiet." My kids and I leave in the morning to go visit a cousin, and I don't know if I will have Internet access. So, don't be offended if I take a week to respond. My boss learned about my f-ed experience and told me to take as long as I want, but I should be back home soon. I don't feel bad about this. In fact, everything happens for a reason. I've met someone who has enough integrity to refuse to experience anything more than a phone call until I kick my W to the curb. My kids seem happier with the W gone. They don't know what's going on because they're too young to understand, but W is different (in a bad way) since she started her "relationship." When I asked them tonight if they wanted to call her (before we leave), my oldest asked, "Do we have to?"
Author soda Posted September 7, 2008 Author Posted September 7, 2008 I've been waiting for this no let me do that again... God DAMN I've been waiting for this! All I can say is it's about time, enjoy these moments, I'm rather sure your evidence is much more then enough then what other people have had to provide (usually nothing) hell you've got statements and people lining up to give evidence , photographic proof too you'll be fine. For anyone not familiar with Soda's story go and read some of his old posts, this has been something a long time coming. At the very least finally she's now out on her ass. Yeah, I was stupid to wait this long.
Darth Vader Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 No, and it's too darn bad that it's rained the past couple of nights. That's disrespectful to her, almost like when she decided to disrespect our marital vows. I love my neighbors, though. Apparently, my wife (out of town) tried to "check-in" with a neighbor to see if everything was "okay" at the house. My neighbor knows what's going on and said. "Nah, everything seems quiet." My kids and I leave in the morning to go visit a cousin, and I don't know if I will have Internet access. So, don't be offended if I take a week to respond. My boss learned about my f-ed experience and told me to take as long as I want, but I should be back home soon. I don't feel bad about this. In fact, everything happens for a reason. I've met someone who has enough integrity to refuse to experience anything more than a phone call until I kick my W to the curb. My kids seem happier with the W gone. They don't know what's going on because they're too young to understand, but W is different (in a bad way) since she started her "relationship." When I asked them tonight if they wanted to call her (before we leave), my oldest asked, "Do we have to?" VERY nice of the neighbor, I like that one by the way! For your oldest to say that, means that your oldest has seen something, or heard something! Soda, do you have enough to go for sole custody, and get it? Because if you don't, your STBX-HEX, I mean wife,:lmao:, will screw you for everything you got! You know infidelity doesn't mean crap in court these days, unless if there was neglect occuring! Go Sole custody if you can! Oh, have you done the Paternaty test thingy? Why I say that is, if your EX, duped you, you may be able to go for Fraud! Watch your back! Vader out!
Darth Vader Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Yeah, I was stupid to wait this long. One has hopes, it's not your fault that the Hex wanted to bang someone else!
angie2443 Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Good job soda! Stay strong and watch your back.
Owl Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 Keep us posted when you can, my friend! Glad to hear that you've reached a point that you're going to DO something...
bish Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 I finally cut the line. I was a mess for a long time, but it took some time to myself to cut my wife out completely. Her crap is on the front lawn, and she ain't coming back. You go boy!! Thats the spirit. I know its hard and will be, but trust me, the light is at the end of the tunnel for you and when all of this is well over, you will see it is the best thing for you! She gets paperwork on Monday. I have a meeting with OM's SO tomorrow afternoon so I can return the favor of finish off the big pig's relationship, too. Well, I probably wouldn't have even bothered, but you know what...do whatever makes you feel good. I do think the OM's SO needs to know she is with a cheating jerk. Everyone deserves to know if they are with someone like that.(well...everyone except cheaters that is) Thanks for all your support. I have a big trip planned, and I'll be without Internet for a while, but I'll check in sometime. Adios. Well my man, promise to check back in and let us know how things are progressing. You have taken the first step to getting your life back and living it without some worthless huss. Congratulations!!!!!
bish Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 Has your wife seen her stuff on the lawn yet??? Boy would I like to see a video of her when she comes home and sees it!! Pure gold!
Lishy Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 Boy would I like to see a video of her when she comes home and sees it!! Pure gold! That would be a pure Kodak moment!
bish Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 That would be a pure Kodak moment! Well, I have told people to put their cheating SO's things on the lawn before. And I'd probalby do it myself as a knee jerk reaction. But in reality, they could probably call the cops for doing so. Screwed up I know. However, I would think that a cheater would be humble and accept their eviction. But since they are cheaters, I can see them pulling some crap like calling the cops.
Owl Posted September 11, 2008 Posted September 11, 2008 I know you're out of pocket right now...but can't wait to hear the update on this one when you're back!
Author soda Posted September 16, 2008 Author Posted September 16, 2008 I know you're out of pocket right now...but can't wait to hear the update on this one when you're back! I'm back. I came back earlier than I had planned on, but I thought stability would help the kids. At least being home should help. The moment was priceless. W went from shocked, to pissed, to desperate in a very short span. Unexpectedly, my friend had come over to offer moral support to me on confrontation day, which helped. My W spit out every ridiculous argument in the book in the span of about 15 minutes. It was silly. Several times I informed her that the argument was done. She resorted to pleading, crying, and begging. My friend simply looked at her and said -- "Your husband deserves to be with someone who isn't a cheater. You owe him that much. Honestly, just sign the paperwork and go be with your guy. He sounds like a real winner."
Author soda Posted September 16, 2008 Author Posted September 16, 2008 W just about lost her mind. She accused me of ruining her life. She said that OM pretty much lost interest in her and had decided to work on his relationship with his S.O. At the top of her lungs, she screamed. "I'M GOING TO END UP WITH NOBODY!" The rest is just theatrics. I went on my trip and to be honest, I felt really calm and peaceful. W called and texted about 75 times, but I didn't respond to any of it. She was mostly offering me "sweet deals" in order to convince me to "try to save our marriage." By Friday, I was annoyed, and I had my cellphone company block her. On the other side, OM's S.O. threw him out. I think he was sleeping in his office for a few days, but his ex-S.O. contacted the company about it...and I really don't know where he is for certain. ex-S.O. said that he hasn't been at work "in days" but she can't confirm that he's been fired. She does know that he's paying cash for a motel room in a really bad part of the city (she cut up his credit cards). She suggested that my W might be there, too, but she doesn't have any credit cards either (haha). To be honest, she hasn't even lawyered up yet. My lawyer has advised her to seek representation. My lawyer informed me -- "your wife is not a happy gal. She's going to pay for this for a very long time." Don't start feeling sorry for my W's "plight." She's getting what she deserves. I'm sorry if this is disjointed and hard to follow. I'm doing the best I can. Lots of info, and I'm mostly just glad that I'm not dealing with this anymore.
OpenBook Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 It's stories like this that make me just want to run out and get married.
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