confusedinkansas Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 How does someone that needs to make decisions stick with their decisions? I can say "I'm done" or "I'm moving on" but the minute I say it I start having second thoughts. How do I learn / teach myself to go with my gut & not to second guess every decision?
Ronni_W Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 Think about about those times when you DID go with your gut, and had a positive outcome...or at least, your worst fears never came to fruition. Or, start off by risking small...with small decisions where you do what your gut is telling you. And the more successes and rewards you have, the more confident and trusting you will become, and then start taking bigger and bigger (calculated) risks. But sometimes you just gotta close your eyes and jump...take that leap of faith knowing that somewhere, somehow, something is holding a safety net out for you.
daphne Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 I think that most of the people who post here wouldn't know the answer to that question, and that's why we're here.
monkey00 Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 I've gone through many countless moments of that throughout my life and still do every now and then. I don't think anyone will ever be complete or 100% sure of themselves about a road they've never walked before. You could get the most self-assured person in the world and still he would have doubts/fears about buying a house at a time like now with the economy. I've had some regrets with the choices that were made. But at the end of the day I'm glad I went through with every one of them so far because it's shaped me to be who I am today. My advice is just clear cut without conciseness because your post is not concise. Generally for me this is how I roll: 1)look at the situation from all probable view-points and possible outcomes 2)Make sound judgment based on past experiences and from the info I know 3)Don't look back (have some faith and confidence) 4)Accept and face the consequences, whether good or bad. Good rewards instead of bad consequences lead me to make stronger decisions in the future. We live and learn from our mistakes. Often I skip step 1 because the more I contemplate on it, the more I have second thoughts. I will usually follow step 1 if it's a major decision. Just to play devil's advocate a bit. Live every day as if it were your last. Desperate times often call for gut decision making...though I'm not suggesting for you to do something that would threaten your existence...but just take it with a grain of salt.
Kristine Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 I make lists. Pros and Cons. And hang onto the Cons list when I'm doubting things.
Kasan Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Usually when I make a decision it has been well thought out. The pros and cons have been weighed, and the what-if scenarios have been run. When my decision is made, I always sleep on it before I enact it. I guess sleeping on it, is my final check and balance. I am assuming you are trying to make a decision about a relationship. You will know when enough is enough, and when you do, you won't be sucked back into the waffling. You simply haven't gotten there yet. Don't lose hope and give up~you will get there!
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