americanmamma Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 My brother just got thrown in jail for drunk driving. My mom and step-dad are furious, but my bio-dad just laughed. Boys will be boys he said. My brother is 21. I'm caught in the middle here because my mom expects me to side with her and my dad expects me to side with him. I don't even want to get involved. my brother's life is just one drama after another - he's got 2 kids with 2 diff. women, drug problems etc. Anyone else have a sibling who's off the rails?
Moose Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 My brother just got thrown in jail for drunk driving. My mom and step-dad are furious, but my bio-dad just laughed. Boys will be boys he said. My brother is 21. I'm caught in the middle here because my mom expects me to side with her and my dad expects me to side with him. I don't even want to get involved. my brother's life is just one drama after another - he's got 2 kids with 2 diff. women, drug problems etc. Anyone else have a sibling who's off the rails?Yeah....well I did..... There's nothing you can do about him, your Mom or your Dad. Just be an ear and a shoulder for your brother. He'll have to hit rock bottom before anything will change....be there for his kids should they need you as well....
YoungDiva Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 Don't get involved if you don't want to. Your brother is old enough to face the consequences of his irresponsible behaviour, he's not a kid any more. You won't change him (and neither will your parents). I just feel sorry for the kids and their mothers.
Ronni_W Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 I'm caught in the middle here because my mom expects me to side with her and my dad expects me to side with him. I'd get myself out of that by just expressing my own position, and making sure everyone knows it is MY position because of ME. And here is MY position: I wish to remain safely detached from brother's problems and issues. I wish to be an objective observer, and will do my best to offer each of you impartial support. I am NOT angry and I am NOT laughing, either. Something like that. Be who you are, and do what you need to do for yourself. (((hugs))). Family drama is most stressful on the most sane family member, is my experience. And it is difficult to set and maintain one's own sane and healthy emotional boundaries.
superd Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 I take what I said back about not agreeing with anyone on LS. I think the responders are right on this time.
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