americanmamma Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 I've been separated for about 4 months (married for 10 years) and I had sex with someone last weekend. It was a one night stand and I gotta say, it was amazing! The problem is, I feel really guilty even tho we're separated and theres no hope. I know I have to get on with my life, but I still feel guilty. Anyone else been threw this?
dgiirl Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 For me, I slept with someone after 2 years of separation. My first time felt strange. I was not in love yet with my bf at the time, and he was the second man I ever slept with. I did not feel any guilt because I had been separated already for a long time. But a lot of other feelings resurfaced due to the fact that I was sleeping with a new man, someone who was not my familiar for the past 11 years. I felt we were only having sex, not making love, which kinda messed with my head for a while. However, we eventually did start to make love and things felt a whole lot better. You've only been separated for 4 months. I'm not saying you should have waited, but I do think 4 months is too soon to be completely over someone. You've been making love to your wife for the last 10 years. So naturally, your subconscious will have mixed feelings and perhaps guilt about sleeping with someone new, someone you dont love yet. If the feelings persist, then maybe you're not ready just yet.
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