SValentine Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 We aren't official but we do behave like a couple outside and stuff. The thing is, i'm not very comfortable ard her and i dont behave like myself. I get very shy and restricted; and this is a problem as she has told a mutual friend that she's getting "bored". Am i going to lose her? Also, we had a talk the other day and she told me how her ex 'proposed to her'. It was over the top and I myself am not a sweet, thoughtful person. Is she trying to hint to me that she wants me to be as sweet? Because im very certain i cant meet up to her expectations and am very fearful. And also what does this say? If she loses interest in me bcos of this, does she show she's only after material things?
Prodigal Princess Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 Grow some balls and dump this whiny princess. There is no future for you in this relationship, she will only make you miserable and then dump you as soon as something better comes along.
JoeNewbie Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 Actually I think you should embrace your responsibilities as an adult and be a sweet and interesting and thoughtful person - else there is no future for you in any relationship at all. And you have to be confident about who you are and not act shy and intimidated - and be yourself at all times.
cheezy100 Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 Actually I think you should embrace your responsibilities as an adult and be a sweet and interesting and thoughtful person - else there is no future for you in any relationship at all. And you have to be confident about who you are and not act shy and intimidated - and be yourself at all times. I agree. I guess if you read the forum/advices from the guy i'm dating, you will improve on your dating skills. But that is also what makes me disappointed because he knows so much about women and he's using those "moves" on me. (but he doesn't know i know) but honestly, I don't think you should change because of her. She should like you for you. Women sometimes need to be lead by men, if you know what i'm saying. I'm not telling you to bring out your ego and pride and manliness. She's not materialistic, but definitely you don't want to bore her out. I got bored of my ex-bf because we didn't do anything special. Nothing romantic or good/funny memories. The guy I'm dating now is like a pro at dating women, which also gives me some doubts about him. But at least i'm not bored with him. I'm very happy being with him. Don't be shy. Be yourself. Humor always work. Make her smile and laugh. I seriously was nervous when I first went on my first date, but because he was not shy, talkative, and laid back, it created a very good atmosphere for us two. I don't think we're official as well, but we are a couple.
Jilly Bean Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 Why would you care about losing someone that you aren't comfortable around and aren't yourself with?
Lucky_One Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 We aren't official but we do behave like a couple outside and stuff. The thing is, i'm not very comfortable ard her and i dont behave like myself. I get very shy and restricted; and this is a problem as she has told a mutual friend that she's getting "bored". Am i going to lose her? Also, we had a talk the other day and she told me how her ex 'proposed to her'. It was over the top and I myself am not a sweet, thoughtful person. Is she trying to hint to me that she wants me to be as sweet? Because im very certain i cant meet up to her expectations and am very fearful. And also what does this say? If she loses interest in me bcos of this, does she show she's only after material things? I don't see much to indicate that she is materialistic. Unless, of course, you shower her with gifts and lavish dates instead of being honest with her about who you really are. if you are thinking she might be materialistic bc her ex proposed to her in a very "over the top" way, the fact that he is her ex might indicate that she didn't like the "over the top" behavior. But then again, I really don't know many girls who wouldn't LOVE to get a super-romantic, frivolous and extragagent proposal. It is a once in a lifetime event (you hope, anyway) and girls would prefer that it is memorable in some way.
Rooster_DAR Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Is my girl materialistic? If she's American, probably so.
goldencloud Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 hmm, i don't see too many signs of her materialism unless of course you just havent mentioned all the signs perhaps she's just feeling like you're not showing enough interest? or uh hurrying u around to proposing? in any case, i do think there is some form of miscommunication here, and it would probably be best to talk it through as opppsed to be uncomfortable with her!
Shygirl15 Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Fine, she's bored. Let her find someone her own personality, and I suggest you do the same. Whiny princess indeed.
TigerCub Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Well first off, I think that the fact that she mentioned the ex and how he proposed and stuff was kind of in bad taste. But as for you concluding that she may be materialistic just because she's getting bored because you're too shy and act uncomfortable around her just doesn't make sense to me. I dunno, I mean if she made cracks about how crappy your car was and that she wont go anywhere with you unless you're rollin in benz, or how you need to get her the best of the best when it comes to everything, you need to buy her jewelery and take her to only the finest restaurants, etc...yeah that would be materialistic, but her having an issue with you not being "thoughtful or sweet" is definitely not a materialistic thing at all in my opinion, because it doesn't take a lot of money to show that you're thoughtful.
Star Gazer Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 Actually I think you should embrace your responsibilities as an adult and be a sweet and interesting and thoughtful person - else there is no future for you in any relationship at all. And you have to be confident about who you are and not act shy and intimidated - and be yourself at all times. I agree completely. There is NOTHING in your post that in any way suggests she's materialistic at all. If anything, you're not capable of showing her you care - in any way. Work on that.
jen's mind Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 She's not bored because she doesn't get enough stuff from you, she's bored because you don't give her enough of you. Where are you getting that she's materialistic? It sounds like she's lonely.
Krytie TV Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 I feel that anyone that would go out of her way to tell you how gloriously someone else proposed to her is trouble. Why would someone who cared about you do that?
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