vince1128 Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 This girl ive been trying to date for the last week or two seems real into me.. the situation is that Her, her friend, my friend (guy) and i have all been hangin out. her friend and my friend are about to date. were all really good friends though and all 4 of us hang out all the time lately. so tonight, i went to her step dads house with her (no one home) and we just chilled and started seriously talking. first off, her situation is that she just got out of a 3 yr relationship and now shes at her senior year (all of us are) and she wants to have fun and doesnt want a relationship. i know i just answered my question but stay with me. so we start talking about our friends who r about to date and how she doesnt want them to because then if they break up it will mess up the great friendship the 4 of us have. so i kinda pick up that what she said had a double meaning with the other one being our relationship. so i say, no, i dont think that would mess anything up. i think they should date, it would be fun and everything could go back to normal if they split. So now, I have 2 huge reasons against me. (1. been in a relationship past 3 yrs. 2. she thinks it would mess up the friendship.) Normally i would move on but i really really like this girl. I know odds are against me, but theres gotta be some convincing i can use. anyone have ideas on how to play this
JoeNewbie Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 You have no "relationship" with this girl. For her to say that she doesn't want a relationship means she doesn't want to date you. Nothing you can do about it IMO.
Author vince1128 Posted September 5, 2008 Author Posted September 5, 2008 damn i dont wanna give up though, but your right
Star Gazer Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 She's making it abundantly clear that she does not want to date you. I don't think there's anything you can do to convince her otherwise.
Author vince1128 Posted September 5, 2008 Author Posted September 5, 2008 ^i see what your saying. i dont think theres harm in atleast telling her how i feel. i think she wants to date again but shes afriad she might get hurt possibly? or im crazy and need to stop worrying about her. but i think its worth a shot just to atleast tell her how i feel
SexinmyCity Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 My sister always said the guys that made the best "guy friends" were the ones that had crushes on you, because they would bend over backwards and do anything for you. She wants to be friends and doesn't want to date anyone...I wouldn't push it, or you'll lose the friendship.
JoeNewbie Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 So now, I have 2 huge reasons against me. (1. been in a relationship past 3 yrs. 2. she thinks it would mess up the friendship.) Actually both of these reasons are false. One bigger reason against you is that she is simply not attracted to you. The only purpose in persuing her would be for you to hit rock bottom. Maybe you need that in order to move on. But if I were you, I would forget about it now and keep my pride intact.
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