love_slap Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 Very simple. I call this female, and asked her to come over to my place so we can make-out. She agrees, and I proceed to tell her to brush her teeth. She agrees, and then I hang-up, brush my teeth, and proceed to pick her up. However, when we get back to my place, and I advance, she withdraws and says "I don't want to get involved." At this point I am pissed as all hell since she wasted my time, I think to myself, "why didn't you tell me that on the phone." However, I did not tell her this, and then told her "I am taking you home". What gives? Why is this female playing games with me?
Art_Critic Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 It sounds to me like she changed her mind.. Call it buyers remorse if you will.. She had every right to do that and honestly if you are pissed at her for that then you are looking for love in all the wrong places my friend.. You need to learn how to woo a woman.. it also sounds like maybe you had the game to get her to your place but lost it by putting pressure on her and she bolted... Next time don't assume a woman will sleep with you just because you think she will.. you have to woo her panties off not rip them off.. Ripping them off gets you love slapped..
Tony T Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 How well do you know her? It just seems a little strange to me to just call a female and ask her to come over to make out. I always felt that making out was a more spontaneous thing to do. Maybe what you ought to do is furnish her a calendar of days and times you want to make out. Specify what time you will be at her doorstep to pick her up, how long you want the make out sessions to last. How much tongue will be involved, etc. That way she can plan ahead and be more comfortable with it. For my money, I think you'll get a LOT more from a female if you don't plan this sort of thing ahead of time and make it look like it comes from your heart. You'll get a lot more than "making out" if you do it that way. I just love this forum!
Author love_slap Posted September 5, 2008 Author Posted September 5, 2008 She had every right to do that. Agreed. honestly if you are pissed at her for that then you are looking for love in all the wrong places my friend.. Maybe. Next time don't assume a woman will sleep with you just because you think she will.. I didn't assume that's why I asked. I started assuming when she started agreeing. However, I would not be surprised if I was a little rough/really direct.
Author love_slap Posted September 5, 2008 Author Posted September 5, 2008 How well do you know her? A little more than a year. It just seems a little strange to me to just call a female and ask her to come over to make out. Maybe so. However, I believe honesty is the best policy. I called her describing my intentions. I always felt that making out was a more spontaneous thing to do. It can be. You can say I was "testing the waters." Maybe what you ought to do is furnish her a calendar of days and times you want to make out. Specify what time you will be at her doorstep to pick her up, how long you want the make out sessions to last. How much tongue will be involved, etc. That way she can plan ahead and be more comfortable with it. I like your thinking, it sounds very structured. However, with my last "planned" attempt, I don't know how well your plan will fair. For my money, I think you'll get a LOT more from a female if you don't plan this sort of thing ahead of time and make it look like it comes from your heart. You'll get a lot more than "making out" if you do it that way. Sounds good. Thanks for your input gentlemen. I would like to hear a woman's perspective!
whichwayisup Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 Probably because you're treating her like a piece of meat and she feels disrespected by you. Did you two talk, hang out and cuddle? Or did you just expect to fool around as soon as you picked her up? You rushed it, she got put off and TURNED OFF because it moved too fast.
ohmy3 Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 where are your morals? just get what you want an forget if anyone else has feeling or are you still a child this is the worst thing i have ever read you need to mature, what a loser !
Author love_slap Posted September 6, 2008 Author Posted September 6, 2008 I see. I still have a lot to understand.
norajane Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 You told her to brush her teeth? You sound more like a mommy than a sexy, attractive gentleman when you say stuff like that to women.
RMan3 Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 I can't inagine telling a girl to brush her teeth before I pick her up. Yeh, brush your teeth & daddy will pick you up and put you to bed. What, your not sleepy now?
Author love_slap Posted September 7, 2008 Author Posted September 7, 2008 Probably because you're treating her like a piece of meat and she feels disrespected by you Well if that was the case, why didn't see disagree to make-out with me? You told her to brush her teeth? Yes. I would prefer a minty-fresh mouth over a non minty-fresh mouth.
norajane Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Yes. I would prefer a minty-fresh mouth over a non minty-fresh mouth. Yes, you probably do, but telling someone to brush their teeth is neither sexy nor romantic if you told her in as flat and expressionless a way as you've done here. And if you weren't any more flirty and flattering when she arrived, I'm not the least bit surprised she changed her mind about kissing you.
Author love_slap Posted September 7, 2008 Author Posted September 7, 2008 Very interesting... Girls just want to have fun then I assume. The sweet, soft, and gentle romantic kind of fun. Well, she has to earn it.
JohnnyBlaze Posted September 7, 2008 Posted September 7, 2008 Yes, you probably do, but telling someone to brush their teeth is neither sexy nor romantic if you told her in as flat and expressionless a way as you've done here. Agreed. In my experience, very few women have to be reminded of such things. You know how guys joke that it takes a girl half an hour to get ready for anything? This is why. She's in there brushing her teeth and making sure she looks and smells great. When she steps out the door, she's ready for anything. And rather than asking her over to make out, just ask her over to hang out. Listen to some music, watch a movie, turn on the charm and take it from there. You know what your ultimate goal for the night is, and make no mistake - she knows, too. But rather than just expecting it will happen, doing the whole song and dance shows that you're willing to put some effort into making it happen. It makes her feel a little special, rather than just a piece of ass at your beck and call. Besides, if you openly and plainly ask her to make out and she says yes, she is logically agreeing to make out with you. If you charm her and turn her on, she will want to make out with you. Not only does she logically agree to it, but now she emotionally craves it as well. But you have to do this in person. Emotional lust can be fleeting, so you have to work on her while she's at your place. Charming her on the phone and then inviting her over doesn't work as well - in the transition time from her place to yours, the lust can fade (as you discovered). If you charm her while she's at your place, you can keep her in that constant state of arousal without any down time. It may not sound like much, but it makes a huge impact on the net result. But that's just my 2¢.
RMan3 Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 Very interesting... Girls just want to have fun then I assume. The sweet, soft, and gentle romantic kind of fun. Well, she has to earn it. Why should she have to earn it? You think you can talk to a women anyway & if she jumps at your command then you deside weather she has earned the privelage of some sweet, soft & gentle romantic kind of fun? I would think if you did the sweet, soft & gentle romantic kind of fun first, showing respect, your chances would be dramaticly increased.
RMan3 Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 Very interesting... Girls just want to have fun then I assume. The sweet, soft, and gentle romantic kind of fun. Well, she has to earn it. I think a person would have a lot better chance winning her over if they were sweet, soft & the gentle romantic kind of fun. I would think if she had to earn it, so would you.
RMan3 Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 Why should she have to earn it? You think you can talk to a women anyway & if she jumps at your command then you deside weather she has earned the privelage of some sweet, soft & gentle romantic kind of fun? I would think if you did the sweet, soft & gentle romantic kind of fun first, showing respect, your chances would be dramaticly increased. I tried to edit my post on page 1 but the time limit ran out. I put as the reason for editing the post was because I was rude & disrespectful, something I try not to be. So I apologise & I'm sorry.
RMan3 Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 I noticed a thumbs down on my rude post on page 1. Is that what happens when someone reports a post?
Author love_slap Posted October 27, 2008 Author Posted October 27, 2008 You guys all raise very interesting points. She still answers my calls, surprisingly enough, but alas, she is still not too fond on spending time with me... for now. Time will tell, or tear us apart.
Island Girl Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 Well, she has to earn it. Um no -YOU have to earn it. That is why she changed her mind, you didn't earn it in this case. A woman likes to be treated as a cherished special person not just a happenstance make out partner or sex doll. We girls have the ability of being able to find a guy to make out with a bit easier than a guy finding a girl. Were you not the one who called her up? Ahem. Back to the fact that you have to earn it not her.
axisdenied Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 I personally would never call a girl and make a date specifically for the purpose of making out. In a weird way, though, I do respect you communicating your intentions so directly. I'm sure you'll find that natural finesse if you find yourself wanting more than a nice makeout session in the future. So then, all I can really wonder is if she agreed to it and then backed out, did she know you were serious at the time? maybe she thought you were joking.
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