Author Bells Posted September 5, 2008 Author Posted September 5, 2008 Well, I wouldn't say "wierd" is the word I was looking for...but more like , I place no value on said relationship when people actually misclassify it.
Ronni_W Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 I don't consider mere words standing in my way. I just don't see the point in marrying again. What benefit would that have?? I changed that around and asked what were the "benefits" I foresaw, getting married the first time -- honestly, either I never really had any concrete ones, or those I had weren't too significant, anyway. I suppose the reason I don't currently have desire to get (re)married is that, for me right now, I don't foresee any positive differences/changes in anything important and meaningful. But, when such becomes evident, then that would be my inspiration for getting married again. I haven't given much thought to what I might vow next, but for sure "as long as we both shall live" ain't gonna be part of it -- I no longer have certainty of that (which I did have, first time around...just call me 'Naive' ), so it would be horribly unauthentic for me to say it. I was witness to a first-time ceremony where the couple vowed for "as long as we both shall love." Not sure I'd use that exact phrase, but it does express my sentiments. They've been married 30 years, which to me proves that it's not the vows but the...???...everything else, perhaps? Bells, I had to laugh cos I got this image of you banging a gavel, "No relationship value for you!" (in same tone as Seinfeld's 'soup nazi') . Too funny.
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