shy_guy Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 Hey all, just interested in your thoughts on my situation; I've just started grad school and met another girl who (I think) I'm interested in (also a new grad student). I've only seen her a handful of times and probably chatted for a total of like 20 minutes since arriving and as far as I can tell (i'm terrible at reading 'signals') we get along ok. Now in general I'd imagine it would be better to 'get to know' a girl a bit better before asking her out but despite being in the same department, we're not doing any of the same classes so I don't anticipate I'll see her 'around' too often. Hence I figure I might as well try now! Unfortunately I don't have a whole lot of experience in this kind of thing, mostly due to me being stupidly shy. I need to overcome my shyness, grow some balls and get on with life lol. (easier said than done). Anyhoo, any advice / comments / input is welcome! Thx.
Green Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 20 minutes is a long time to talk to some one. Just go ahead and ask her out. pertend you need some help studying or something. Add her on aim and chat to her that way...(in person would be way better... WAY better) but thats better then nothing. Its going be awkward just act cool and give it a try, "hey I really like talking to you. Lets go grab a cup of coffee then sometime" take it from there... try something tommorow or the next day... stop putting this off... and dont get all fixiated on this one girl... there are a million girls
nopainnogain Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 Maybe the girl in question is Shy girl and there shyness cancel each other out
Green Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 Maybe the girl in question is Shy girl and there shyness cancel each other out Girls usualy are shy, they arn't really expected nor will they overcome that shyness, they just wait to be aproached by some one who is out going. This guy just needs to break the ice and ask her to do something... it doesnt even have to be a one on one date... he could invite her to a party he is going to or go to a party she is going to and then just take her aside by saying he wants to tell her something and then kiss
JoeNewbie Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 I think you should spend more time talking to her and getting to know her before making a move. I know it may be difficult to find the right opportunity to talk to her but I think it's a must. Develop the chemistry THEN ask her out - not the other way around.
BklynGuy Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 "I think you should spend more time talking to her and getting to know her before making a move. I know it may be difficult to find the right opportunity to talk to her but I think it's a must. Develop the chemistry THEN ask her out - not the other way around." I agree with this advice 100%.
Shygirl15 Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 Be bold and ask her out before another guy does!!
Green Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 I think you should spend more time talking to her and getting to know her before making a move. I know it may be difficult to find the right opportunity to talk to her but I think it's a must. Develop the chemistry THEN ask her out - not the other way around. just have a conversation where you flirt and build chemestry and realize real chemestry can't be built until a date. Be to cautous and u looseeeeeee
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